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Barb I am not avoiding your question I promise. I don't see a problem with it but I am awaiting a confirmation from my hubby on what sat in sept is his company picnic. I think it is the 29th but not sure yet. And he is being slow about finding out for me.... Momma and poodles do you have anyproblems with the 22nd if that is not the weekend of his event?

Hi SoCalgal, i been wondering where everyone is!!!!!! Calling out to the Junebie's 2006 crew where are you???

Sorry, a Tummy Tuck

I was just curious to see if anyone got banded, met their goal weight, had a TT and then lost their band? If so, were you able to maintain the weight loss?

hey guys, I haven't posted about this because I was hoping it wouldn't be true. When I was in the hospital for that horrible ordeal they kept giving me blood thinner shots in my stomache, they had to do it on the left cause they cut me open on the right. I have had nightmares hoping that they did not stick me in my tubing for the band. When I went to my last fill appt, they said there was A LOT of fluid missing, and they wanted to go ahead and fill me and come back and a couple of weeks and check it again. I haven't gone back again yet will next week, but after a few days my restriction was gone again. I think they stuck me and I now have a leak. When will this nightmare end. If that hospital did that and cause me to have a leak in my band what in the world am i gonna do?????? Thanks for letting me rant!!!

Congrats Pinky, that is great news! However we will really miss you!!!!

How adorable Lisa, thanks for sharing!!! Ok we have our dallas gathering one month from tommorrow, is every one ready???

Don't know about the sports bar, I may have my child with me....

Green you are so wise, sometimes finding a way to see what he may be thinking is the answer, and it's hard when your so close to the situation. Sometimes it doesn't take much for a man to feel stripped of his manhood, even though we aren't DOING IT too them, they take it out on use to regain that power like green said. Let us know how it works IM....

Yeah I work up right next to Frisco, it is a nice area. It's about an hour from where poodles and I live but we can ride together and make it a road trip. Of course it's not near as far as the rest of you guys coming here, lol. So is everyone alright with Mexican food? Or do we want something else, there is just about everything in Frisco.... Or we can just shop during the day and decide where to go later, that shouldn't be a problem since there will only be about 6 of us so far. Whatcha think?

Lepez I understand what you are going through with husband not going to this sort of thing. My hubby is actually a very rooted christian man though and he just won't shake off his prideful self sometimes to consider that a retreat or counselor can help. It it makes me so mad. I also have problems picking the right time to start a conversation or to start it right without putting him on the defense immediately. It does take a lot of hard work to do so, and it can mean really humbling yourself before starting the conversation so you don't come off as angry and immediately get his feathers ruffled. These conversations in the heat of the moment never accomplish anything. I wish you luck, I know you are heartbroken and that is no way to live. IMfine I am so sorry you are going through this. Porn is a very dark road when people travel down it, it sucks them in and they have tunnel vision and feel they are doing nothing wrong. But as we as the people looking in and in your case getting hurt we see the dark side. He needs help, and if he is anything like my hubby your probably not the one to give it too him. What I mean by that is our spouses seem to take anything we say to them as critism not in the loving way we intend it. Someone can say to my DH the same thing I have said over and over and it will get him to realize what he is doing. I do not know your situation but is there family or a good friend of his that is not on this dark path that can possibly intervene? My heart goes out to everyone on this thread, I have been through a lot of what you all have and I feel your pain deeply.

I was referring to Barbara, but thats ok Lisa. I need to change my ticker to reflect my weight gain from the unfill for 3 months, I haven't been 155 in 4 months, 155 would make me happy again. I know I have accomplished a lot, but when I came sooo close to goal and then hit this wall and went backwards it has become very frustrating. I know I have no reason to gripe because a lot of you haven't lost what you have wanted, but I was trying to vent a little of my frustration to my junebie friends. Not mad at all Lisa, I promise!!!

Eating spicy foods and having a problem, can definetly be signs of gallbladder issue's. Also, ground beef will get me to PB'ing every time. I think it is the consistancy or something. I have been bouncing around the same 4 lbs for 4 months now, I am so totally discouraged, I know, i know what everyone says, I have been through a lot in that 4 months, but still I want to hit goal sooo bad!!!!

Sending good thoughts and prayers to you today Poodles, hope everything goes well...

That made me laugh so hard!!!! Your so funny greens!!! Very early on I tried to get him to watch something like a porno movie or something to see if it would get him interested, I was desperate, but he said he couldn't do that with ME, he would feel uncomfortable. So maybe it is just and ingrained hangup!!!! Nume- I think you deserve to be happy, and thinking you should settle comes from the years of neglect. Once you see that you do deserve it and take the right steps toward getting it I think you will find that there is someone out there that will make you feel special and loved in the right ways!!! JMO

the funny thing is with my H, is the years where we weren't having sex except for once every 8 or 9 months, I would talk to him about whether he was taking care of himself then, and he said no, he had no desire to do that either. I thought that was weird.

and BTW poodles I didn't threatening you I just told you people were missing you and get YOUR BUTT ONLINE!!!! In a loving way!!hehe

Ok Sept 15th it is, in the Dallas area.... I need to find out who can come, so far here is who I have: Me!!! Poodles - you better be available or I'll drag you there. Barb465 Melissa Lea Lets here from the rest of you, momma, divanita is in the area, who else??? Come on guys lets meet!!! If I added your name to the list in error let me know...

Would it be easier for everyone if we moved it September, like the 8th or 15th?

There is a really great book out right now from Beth Moore, called Get Out of that pit. It talks about all of lifes pit that we have learned to live in and made our home, even the ones that we were thrown in by someone. Great read, I would suggest it to all, everyone whether abused or not have been in pits in their live, and some may still be there and not recognize it. Cathy you may have indeed hit on something about the men we chose, maybe when we married our hopes that we would grown together with our desire for eachother, instead like you mentioned in my case, as i became more comfortable mine went far beyond his, leaving me feeling hurt once again....

BTW- spouses and kiddo's if you want to bring ARE welcome, I just need counts...

Wow Aimee sorry about your scare, but such a wonderful doc to meet you in the office at that time. Hope everything gets back to normal. Hope all of you start having your fills work for you, I got another .8 in mine on monday bringing me back to 2.4, and I don't feel like they put anything in, I have no restriction whatsoever. Dallas gathering--- I was thinking about Sat. sept 1st but that is Laborday weekend so people may be busy, unless ya'll would preferr then. Otherwise How about August 25th. Give me your suggestions and also what kind of restuarant, do we want mexican, or someplace like TGIF, or Jason's deli or hibatchi grill, give me your idea's and also I need a count of who is coming, so start PMing me girls and I'll post what the results are.....

My DH lack of sexual drive, I think hurts me more because of my past, the rejection thing seems to intinsify in my mind I think, he is rejecting me cause I'm not worthy. When it is like you said HIS problem....

Welcome back, how was Canada?

I wonder how many of you that have been through this as I have notice that if you have children you watch a little closer, you notice a little more. Do you know what I am saying. I have a DD that is 7yrs old and I am so cautious with her. I want so much to try and spare her from anyone violating her. I am not around my grandfather much, and he is very elderly, but I remember the day very clearly that I saw him hold my DD for the first time and it made me wince harshly. Don't get me wrong no matter how old he is he will NEVER be alone with my child. I just wondered if I am alone in this with our children or if everyone does it.... BTW, this thread has really changed, from marriage problems to this, but I can't help but to wonder if for some us they are related????? JMO...