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Thanks!! I plan on changing or at least not seeing her anymore. She says that she is too busy to do this, so I plan to help her not have so many clients to deal with by giving her one less. That being said, I don't know what to do now. I still need her to speak with the psychiatrist in order to get clearance. It's like a bad break up where you have to be nicer than you want in order to get the paperwork done. Without her, I won't be cleared.

Hi everyone! I just need to vent. I completed me 6 month program Feb 5th and have been getting the last few things together but I'm stuck on the psych eval clearance and so frustrated that it's making me crazy. First, I was on a waiting list to see the Psychiatrist but finally was able to get an appointment on Feb 4th. The doctor required a letter or phone call from the therapist I have been seeing for the past 8 months in order to finalize the clearance. Other than that, she is more than happy to sign off. The problem is with the therapist. I began seeing her at the beginning of this process because I thought that it would be helpful to explore any other issues that might be impacting my weight issues. I was trying to be proactive because, for me, this is a change both physically and mentally. My therapist isn't well informed about wls and I think she has some prejudices about it. I asked her for a letter a week prior to my eval and she said we needed a session just for that. I did that the day before eval. The psychiatrist then contacted her and she didn't respond. I went for my weekly session and asked again. She said she was going out of town for a week and asked if it could wait. I said no. She didn't do it before she left. Now, she's back and claims she is backed up and will get to it in the next few weeks. This is the only thing I'm waiting for in order to submit paperwork to insurance. In the meantime, the psychiatrist won't give clearance and has stated that she wonders if there is a larger issue I'm trying to conceal or if I'm just not willing to follow through. I spoke harshly to my therapist, trying to make her understand how important this is to me. She says that I seem aggressive and perhaps we need to work on my hostility before she would feel comfortable. AAAAACCCCCKKKKKKK!!!! I am a fairly same person with no serious mental health issues but this is making me crazy!!! I need therapy after dealing with these mental health professionals!!! Thanks for listening ????

I'm still in the pre-op phase and, like you, the change I feared the most was quitting smoking. I smoked at least a pack a day for over 20 years. What I suggest is find a really good vape store. The best ones don't sell cigarettes or any smoke accessories and the carry their own e-juices. Buy a box mod set and find a juice that tastes like cigs in the highest nicotine levels. But a small-ish bottle at first and just vape like crazy. Pro tip, buy extra coils, you'll burn through them like crazy. After a week of no cigs, reduce your nicotine levels and work your way toward non-tobacco flavored. I started at 24ml nicotine and now (3 months later) I'm at 3mg nicotine, vaping a candy flavor and tobacco free for 3 months. I wasted money buying cheap vape pens and e-cigs in the beginning. I lacked the faith in myself to really invest in a good set up. You can do this!!! With vape, it really is easy to kick the habit by breaking it in stages. I have no willpower and give up pretty easily. If I can do it, anyone can! I just reminded myself that there is no point to having surgery to be healthy while slowly killing myself with tobacco.

I made a down payment to lock in a sale price, but didn't set a date yet. I'm struggling with coffee and smoking. My two horibble habbits! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N910A using Tapatalk I'm still in the pre-op phase and, like you, the change I feared the most was quitting smoking. I smoked at least a pack a day for over 20 years. What I suggest is find a really good vape store. The best ones don't sell cigarettes or any smoke accessories and the carry their own e-juices. Buy a box mod set and find a juice that tastes like cigs in the highest nicotine levels. But a small-ish bottle at first and just vape like crazy. Pro tip, buy extra coils, you'll burn through them like crazy. After a week of no cigs, reduce your nicotine levels and work your way toward non-tobacco flavored. I started at 24ml nicotine and now (3 months later) I'm at 3mg nicotine, vaping a candy flavor and tobacco free for 3 months. I wasted money buying cheap vape pens and e-cigs in the beginning. I lacked the faith in myself to really invest in a good set up. You can do this!!! With vape, it really is easy to kick the habit by breaking it in stages. I have no willpower and give up pretty easily. If I can do it, anyone can! I just reminded myself that there is no point to having surgery to be healthy while slowly killing myself with tobacco.

I don't know if it helps, but I love Always Infinity pads overnight absorbency. They are really thin, really long and can stand up to pretty much anything. Since they're thin, you can tuck them in place without needing much space.

I totally get where you're coming from, and I'm on your side. But, I think it helps to remember that your surgery might be worrying him. I know we are the ones going through it, but they are along for the ride as well. I didn't really understand until recently how deeply worried my guy was. He is afraid that I'll die or have complications. He never said anything because he wanted to be 100% supportive. Perhaps your husband is worried and can't help but talk about it. Sometimes men aren't good at addressing their feelings head on. Unless he was deliberately trying to undermine you, it might be more productive to find a way to forgive and reassure him. I know, it's a crazy thing to suggest when you feel betrayed, but there are times when empathy works better than resentment.

I'm right in the middle of my 6 month program at UIC with Dr. Elli. I line in the northwest suburbs. So far, I've no complaints with them.