My surgery is Monday 3/16. I have not told my close friends as of yet, To be honest. I'm afraid of being judged. What many people don't understand is that a lot of work still needs to be done even after a gastric process. I fear as the weight falls and I attack the gym as I have been doing so for the last 6 months. I will be judged. The funny thing is most of the time when we meet we do so over wings and beer (I don't drink they do) if not wings it's always some type of food. But they are all small. I'm the biggest one there. Ok I'm babbling how and why should I tell my close friends. My wife is very supportive. She sees the struggle 1st hand.