SKNYMEBY47

Welcome, I wish you luck on your journey. I've haven't had my surgery yet either... mine hopefully will be in the beginning of April... I have to get through all the classes and stuff for the insurance company. But I'm really looking forward to it.

Wow, thank you all for the great advice. You are all so right, communication is the most important part. and to "Shrinking Don" thank you so much for the male point of view, and I love the group thing idea, that is such a great way to meet and get to get together with others going through what your going through and including the spouses is a great way to give them people they can relate to as well, that sounds like a win, win situation to me..... Thanks everyone!

Thanks M'Lane, Your advice will really help, I will do just that... remember to reassure him, as I know men like to claim they are not emotional people but I have learned they are sometimes more emotional than women.

I am wondering how or if my relationship with my husband may change after I have my surgery. In the beginning he was so against my having the surgery, mainly because he knew nothing about the current procedures and such for the surgery, he only knew of the old days when a lot of people died from complications and stuff. It took quite a while to get him to come around and thanks so much to his daughter who is going through nursing school she helped quite a bit in reassuring him that the advances in technology these days makes the surgery so much safer, and then when he finally saw how many medications I have to take daily, he finally got it. The part that has me a little worried is if and when I start to loose the weight, I worry he may start to feel differently towards me. My husband in a rare man, who actually likes woman who are large, fuller size woman. I'm worried that he may start to "fall out" of love with me. I know I just may be thinking silly thoughts but every now and again those thoughts do creep into my head. Most of my family and friends are very supportive and actually happy that I'm having the surgery and even though my husband as come around and now accepts that I am having this surgery no matter what. My medical condition has forced me to go forward with the surgery now rather than wait any longer and I know he fully supports me when it comes to my health. I also sometimes wonder if he is worried too, worried that if and when I loose the weight that maybe I won't be interested in him any longer. But that is completely silly to me, he is my husband and I waited 11 years for him to finally marry me (he had been married before and it ended in a very nasty divorce) so I understood he didn't want to rush into marriage too quickly, so I loved him and he loved me so it was worth the wait in my mind. But I wonder if somewhere in the back of his mind he fears I will loose the weight and leave him for some other man. I'm wondering if anyone out there who has already had their surgery is going through any of these kinds of things in their relationships. Does getting this surgery put a lot of pressure on relationships? And if it does, can it all still work out in the end?

OMG, I went through the same thing, were I was eating everything I thought I would never be able to eat again. It's crazy, but I kept thinking I will never be able to eat this stuff again, but I've been told that not always true, so I stopped doing that granted I still eat some stuff I know I don't want to have ever again after surgery but that is by choice not because I won't be able to. Good luck on your surgery, I can't wait for mine. Keep up the posts after surgery, you and I seem to have a lot of the same situations or issues so I would really like to hear how you get along after surgery. Thanks,

I'm with you, I will be on my 4th Month in January and I too am so anxious to get the surgery part over with and to be able to get on with my new life.

First I want to say I love the other posts on this topic. Here are some of the things I can't wait for: Can't wait to go to the movies and not have to lift both arm rests just so I can fit in the seat, Not have to shamelessly ask the stewardess for the seat belt extender on an air plain cause the regular one just doesn't cut it, ​To be able to pass through a turnstile without having to stand on my tippy toes because my stomach just doesn't fit, To not be completely out of breath just getting dressed in the morning, To be able to stand up straight for more than 5 mins. without feeling like I'm going to collapse, To be able to shop in the "cheap" stores for clothes instead of having to pay so much just for a top, just because it takes more material to make it, ​To also be able to sit in booths without having to move the table to accommodate me, and sit in doctor office seats with arms, or any chair with arms, To be able to fit comfortably behind the wheel of my cars, To be able to use a regular bathroom stall and not always the handicap one because there is more room to fit in there, To finally look good in nice clothes (why is it they make larger sizes so ugly most of the time), To be able to go food shopping without having to lean on the carriage and feeling like I'm going to collapse by the last isle, To stop being treated "differently" by people because of my size, That's all I can think of at the moment, will add more if I think of them....