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I am 11 months out and struggled with what to say and to whom I say it to. I am a very private person anyway so I didn't have a lot of people on the tell list. The first person was a friend of mine that needed the surgery way more than me. He sort of gnarled at it and told me good luck. 11 months later and 100 lbs lighter this same friend is in the process of getting sleeved. My next friend I told will need the surgery in the next year or so. He asked the typical questions of "you can't loose on your own". It will be fair to say that we used to be exercise fanatics in the early 2000's. but, that was then and this is now. He said he would never do it and didn't understand why I should. No other conversation about it has come up. However, I see him continue to struggle to "loose on his own". Bottom line most guys will give you grief and rag you but in my experience they come around.

My wife had the RNY 4 years ago. She was extremely successful with it. My weight was manageable and I was in decent shape. My wife progressed through her post op diet and her solids was always to much for her to eat. Well she would instinctively put her remaining food on my plate to eat. I would eat it. So I was eating nearly two meals at a time. I was raised not to waste food and a happy plate is a clean plate. So I was eating 1 1/2 steaks and 1 1/2 potatoes at dinner, or an extra 4 - 7 wings, sandwiches, chicken, the list goes on. Well needless to say, 4 years later I need WLS. I was sleeved on 12/27/11. Now of course I do not blame my entire weight gain on my wife. I could have simply said no, or stopped being lazy and been more active. However, this story has made me change the way that I approach food with my son. He is no longer made to eat all of his food. He just has to eat what we thing is enough for him. This is only needed when it is not his favorite (the healthier foods) foods. Pizza, and such is never a problem. Seconds was taken away if it is a high starchy meal, or unhealthy meal. NO ONE puts their remainders on the others plate. It goes in the leftover dish or trash. That was a huge lifestyle change for me but I am glad that I did it. I just want all the new sleevers out there to watch that with your spouses, not only do you lifestyle have to change but theirs have to also.