janleefran, I'm sorry you cancelled.
I just have to comment. Lot of advice thrown out here and some of it doesn't seem thought out to me.
Surgery is serious, but 25 to 30 pounds is serious also (especially at your height). Certainly the success of the lap band is obvious. Read just a few posts and look at the tickers to see that time and time again people who couldn't lose weight on their own are having incredible success and keeping it off. It's not uncommon to see folks losing over a 100 pounds time and time again.
Seeing a support group was the final straw for me. It was shocking. I couldn't believe how skinny these people were. Some of them had been 300 and 400 pounds and now look emaciated. It was insane. Between the support group and researching online, there is no doubt in my mind that this tool works and it works for most.
So, you are 41 and have struggled with this problem for a long time. You exercise and try to eat right. It seems to me you are a good candidate if not one of the best candidates. You have already shown that weight is a serious issue for you and you are willing to work at it after the surgery.
Do you really want to be overweight the rest of your life? Remember, the statistics show that there is a 95% chance you will be. Do you want to fight those odds?
For me it came down to this... Roll the dice on surgery or be over weight the rest of my life.
I'm also low BMI (30, but 29 now with optifast). I have surgery scheduled for March 15th. Can't wait. I'm 43 years old and am sick of gaining weight slowly year after year.
I've tried to beat that 95% statistic time and time again. Why would should we keep beating our heads against a wall like that?