ladyarwenrose

canne, I hope they come around. my family is just completely against surgery for ANY reason. I've had two foot surgeries and two hand surgeries and they felt they were not needed. huh, so walking and writing, etc are not important? LOL Christine. YEAH! definately sleeve sisters! keep me posted on your progress. I'm nervous about it, but mostly excited Deb, yep it is a good day to have it. and close to the day of freedom for us americans i'm sorry you lost your mom. that can be hard at times, especially in situations where you would have leaned on that family member for support, etc. I lost my sister 3-7-08. It doesn't get any easier, we just learn to cope better. I too wish she was here right now so I could have her support through all of this. and Ben, thanks for that. I will most likely use some of those next time i talk to my family

Hi everyone! stumbled across this while I was searching for answers. I'm a newbie to all of this and it's all been a bit scary yet an adventure at the same time. I've struggled with my weight my whole life, yoyo'ing all the way. The last two years my health has been going downhill with one problem after another. I finally decided that enough was enough and it was time to get serious and get this weight off once and for all. My boyfriend is awesome and very supportive of me. We live together and he does all the cooking. he's been changing how he cooks in order to be more healthy for me. (he's so sweet!) I told my parents awhile back that I was looking into doing the surgery. they freaked out and tried to talk me out of it. they only shut up after an hour of countering their arguments and have not brought it up since. well yesterday I told my mom that I was approved and my Surgery is set for July 2nd. she's freaked out and constantly repeated herself that she does not support this. says that I can lose the weight on my own, just eat less, eat more healthy, exercise more. she doesn't agree with me changing my body in order to lose the weight. that it's the easy way out. she even went so far as to say that i've never stuck to anything more than a few weeks, how can I expect this to be any different!!! I cried when I hung up the phone. She hasn't changed my mind, if anything i'm more determined now. Other family members aren't much different. my father won't even talk about it and I know he's against it. my sibling doesn't like the idea but will be there for me in any way they can (yeah). my grandmother is saddened by it and basically has the same opinion of my mom as far as trying to do this on my own instead. my mother told my aunt, no idea how she reacted or how she thinks. Basically I told my mom, she told grandma and my aunt. I haven't told any other family members due to the reactions i've already gotten. I did tell my friend. we've known each other since 1st grade (over 20yrs). she seemed supportive of it. we've had a falling out recently so her support is no longer their either. And I told a couple people at work. all of them have been great about it. but i'm afraid to tell anyone else. our department has over 30 people in it. i'm sure they'll find out sooner or later. but i'm just not sure I want the nosey inquiries right now. so, basically, I really only have my boyfriend for support in my personal life. i'm afraid of life afterwards because of this. what are holidays and get togethers going to be like with a family that can't understand what I did or why I did it? but i'm not giving up! i'm moving forward. to a new and healthier me! i'm not in this for the "easy way out." i'm in this because if I don't then i'm afraid I won't have a long life! any insights or words of wisdom, etc are appreciated.

I have my surgery with them on July 2nd. I have BCBS and the initial request was denied. Once they submitted the info requested in the denial letter it was approved. total time was a little over a month. lifeweigh is very supportive and does everything possible to fight for your surgery to be approved.