Oh guys, I am just ready to rip my boyfriends head off. We have been together for a little over two years now and I've always been extremely overweight my entire life. Well now I'm 3 months post op and almost 60 pounds down and I feel great! I work out every single day, can finally start dressing more age appropriate, and am finally finding some confidence that I've never had. And I hate to say it, but I think my boyfriend hates the idea of me feeling better about myself. He's been 100% against WLS from the start and always making remarks about how if I really wanted it bad enough I'd be able to do it without the sleeve! And now yesterday I went bathing suit shopping and was THRILLED that I could fit into a normal bathing suit (i don't think I've worn one since a infant) so I sent him a picture and be says to me "You know, I have to be honest, you've really let yourself go. You don't take care of yourself like you used to." WHAT?! This is the first time in my life that I actually am taking care of myself! This really hurt my feelings and I just can't shake it. I know this is kind of just a rant and I really appreciate having this forum to vent these issues too. Has anyone else had this kind of reaction from a loved one? I think it might be time to send him to the curb..... Here's the picture I sent him BTW Starting weight 262, current weight 206

He's being so negative. He probably has low self esteem. Now that you feel and look good he should be saying things like "dam you look HOTT' or "come here and so i can screw you with that on" lol sorry TMI... i know it sucks cuz its been 2 years but it is not worth it honey. He will bring you down and you are in a roll. You don't need him making you feel bad causing you to probably go grab a burger or maybe he encourages you to eat the wrong things. GIRL LOOK HOW CUTE YOU ARE. Kick him to the curb because there are much more guys waiting for you to come walkign by with your new bathing suit. Good Luck hun and hang in there!!!

I am jealous IM there months out and lost 30 pounds so pls tell me your secret

Everyone is different! Key part of all this is to NEVER compare yourself t someone else. Talk to your Doc to give you some tips. Look at the amount of calories your taking in. Good Luck!

I am jealous IM there months out and lost 30 pounds so pls tell me your secret

Yes please don't compare. 10 Pds a month is great. Keep it up and don't get discouraged.

CUTE!! I love that suit! you look pretty darn good for letting yourself go...!

You look good....keep up the good work and loseeeeee the loserrrrrr! My love has been there from the beginning and is very supportive. Your loser is jealous and you deserve so much more!

He's probably scarred your going to start getting the attention of other guys and you'll leave him. You probably should. Lol

Dump the looser!!!

Agreed

Oh guys' date=' I am just ready to rip my boyfriends head off. We have been together for a little over two years now and I've always been extremely overweight my entire life. Well now I'm 3 months post op and almost 60 pounds down and I feel great! I work out every single day, can finally start dressing more age appropriate, and am finally finding some confidence that I've never had. And I hate to say it, but I think my boyfriend hates the idea of me feeling better about myself. He's been 100% against WLS from the start and always making remarks about how if I really wanted it bad enough I'd be able to do it without the sleeve! And now yesterday I went bathing suit shopping and was THRILLED that I could fit into a normal bathing suit (i don't think I've worn one since a infant) so I sent him a picture and be says to me "You know, I have to be honest, you've really let yourself go. You don't take care of yourself like you used to." WHAT?! This is the first time in my life that I actually am taking care of myself! This really hurt my feelings and I just can't shake it. I know this is kind of just a rant and I really appreciate having this forum to vent these issues too. Has anyone else had this kind of reaction from a loved one? I think it might be time to send him to the curb..... Here's the picture I sent him BTW Starting weight 262, current weight 206

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U look great my husband is negative about the surgery also I think they're more scared 4 us & scared other men gonna look @ us now & what we might do sounds crazy but true when did u have our surgery

Oh guys' date=' I am just ready to rip my boyfriends head off. We have been together for a little over two years now and I've always been extremely overweight my entire life. Well now I'm 3 months post op and almost 60 pounds down and I feel great! I work out every single day, can finally start dressing more age appropriate, and am finally finding some confidence that I've never had. And I hate to say it, but I think my boyfriend hates the idea of me feeling better about myself. He's been 100% against WLS from the start and always making remarks about how if I really wanted it bad enough I'd be able to do it without the sleeve! And now yesterday I went bathing suit shopping and was THRILLED that I could fit into a normal bathing suit (i don't think I've worn one since a infant) so I sent him a picture and be says to me "You know, I have to be honest, you've really let yourself go. You don't take care of yourself like you used to." WHAT?! This is the first time in my life that I actually am taking care of myself! This really hurt my feelings and I just can't shake it. I know this is kind of just a rant and I really appreciate having this forum to vent these issues too. Has anyone else had this kind of reaction from a loved one? I think it might be time to send him to the curb..... Here's the picture I sent him BTW Starting weight 262, current weight 206

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Talk to him! Maybe he didn't mean it the way it come out. Sometimes when someone you love is drastically changing maybe he feels threatened.

breaking a 2 year relationship is not something to judge so fast. I believe you should take time and think about it, doesn't matter how many people says you should dump him, if u made the wrong choice you will regret it not them. some problems are solved alone and I really hope you guys get along well.

Coming from the same experience, you have to do what is best for you! My ex and I were together for 3 years. He continuously took me out to eat and I wasn't strong enough to say no. He wanted to keep me fat so no one else would want me. He told me this on many occasions! You have to sit down and talk to him, telling him how his words are hurtful and you need someone who is going to be supportive! I got rid of my ex and thank goodness I did! He wouldn't let me shine! My current boyfriend is supportive in everything I do! If your bf can't be supportive in your time of need, maybe he isn't someone you need in your life! You are beautiful girl! Keep up the hard work

Love or comment so true