Are you a fat personality or not?

Not all fat people have fat personalities. I'm sorry I disrupted a mental health thread with this yesterday, I didnt realise and it was inappropriate. But I've got to get this off my chest.

I'm done with the whiny pathetic excuse making marshmallows populating this board. Get some backbone, and wake up to reality. This thing takes WORK.

We all fall off the wagon, we all make mistakes, what is it that makes some of us dust ourselves off and keep going and some of us refuse to admit the mistake, blaming everything and everyone but ourselves?

I've never really understood pre band psychological counselling, but now I do. Some people here should never ever have been banded. Not until they did some serious work on themselves first. Its very sad. But the tool is there when they're ready to use it. If they could EVER admit that they need to change things up a bit.

The band is so wonderful. You can lose weight slowly. You can even do it without exercise. You can get to a low BMI or not, you can stop where you please. You can feel in control of your food for the first time in your life. You can be super strict and lose weight at the speed of light and have cosmetic surgery and be the hottest thing on 2 legs. You can do low carb or not.

For some, sadly its just not the right tool. I have respect for people who decide that and go for something else or who choose another surgery int he first place. But for many, its so versatile. Sadly there's some people who still dont lose. They have medical and physical issues that need attention. They may have gotten so big that they really struggle to move around let alone exercise. They are in real trouble and need help and compassion.

But there's also a whole lot who are just, well, pathetic. They wanted to lose weight but they wanted someone else to do it for them, afterall its not their fault their fat right? So they get this band and WHAT? It doesnt do it all?

This thread is not compassionate. I dont hate fat people, heck, I *AM* a fat person. I dont believe I will be anything other than a fat person in remission. I feel compassion for the plight people find themselves in, I feel that for every single person. But when they refuse to help themselves, it evaporates.

Now, I'm the first person to admit I dont understand much about mental health issues like depression. I know its wrong, but I do sometimes fall into the "just snap out of it" camp. I realise there's stuff like that involved. But nine times out of ten, struggling with a band just comes down to being unwilling to pull your finger out and face your issues.

So when people post threads seeking help and then oh so politely come up with an excuse to every single helpful suggestion, look out, I just might BITE!

And nobody had better DARE so "if I could do that, I wouldnt have needed a lapband". That is quite honestly the stupidest thing that I have ever heard on this forum and unfortunately its been said many many times. If you seriously believe that, you are in more trouble than a lapband can get you out of!

Edited June 21, 200818 yr by Jachut

For those who have chosen to put me on their ignore list, I feel quite honored that I have such power over you, lol. Darn, if I am on ignore, they won't see this.

Never mind. :Banane30:

True but if I get quoted, they'll see it then. Someone pleeeeese quote me!! )

True but if I get quoted, they'll see it then. Someone pleeeeese quote me!! :thumbup:)

:Banane30::biggrin:

:biggrin::thumbup::Banane30:

:lol::wub: You have to laugh about it don't you.

If I'm on someone's ignore list for whatever reason then I say it is their loss because I have lots of experience with life, good and bad and I can support and motivate, whatever is required at the time. Putting someone on your ignore list seems a little extreme to me unless they are stalkers or of some type of threat to your safety.

quoting just to quote...

oh darn - wrong post!

Extreme is cyber-stalking someone. Putting them on ignore is just being efficient.

Obviously I haven't offended anyone enough to be on their ignore list. Oh well, I thought I had more power than that !! LOL

Obviously I haven't offended anyone enough to be on their ignore list. Oh well, I thought I had more power than that !! LOL

I have people on my ignore list. I don't consider it a power issue. Their posts are just too stupid to read. That, and trolls.

If someone is talking about a flat earth and an assortment of other bizarre and crazy concepts then what is the use of reading the nonsense?

Nahhh... not a power issue at all.

I suppose I maybe on someone's "ignore list" but that's... OK... because "I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It People Like Me!"

Nanook:biggrin:

I have people on my ignore list. I don't consider it a power issue. Their posts are just too stupid to read. That, and trolls.

If someone is talking about a flat earth and an assortment of other bizarre and crazy concepts then what is the use of reading the nonsense?

Nahhh... not a power issue at all.

That's true, there are those people but if I press ignore I might miss something!

Not a power issue, yes you could be right. Move along everyone, no power issue to be seen here. :thumbup:

I suppose I maybe on someone's "ignore list" but that's... OK... because "I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough, and Doggone It People Like Me!"

Nanook:biggrin:

Who said that? :thumbup:

I wouldn't bother putting anyone on ignore. If I don't like what someone is posting, I am very good at reading maybe the first line, and thinking I don't think I'll bother reading the rest of this.

also, those walls of text. Those really bother me. If a post is too hard to read, because there are no spaces anywhere, I get bored and go on to the next post. I won't strain my eyes to try to follow a big block

of words.

Who said that? :thumbup: :lol:

Stewart Smalley. I loved that character!

Stewart Smalley. I loved that character!

I think the quote got to Australia before him. Who's Stewart Smalley? Now I definitely deserve to be ignored!! :thumbup: Actually I googled the name, I've hardly ever seen Saturday Night Live so I hope I can be forgiven for not knowing of him.

Stewart Smalley was a guy that attended all sorts of 12 step programs. He had low self esteem. He did affirmations. He looked at himself in the mirror and said "I am good enough, smart enough, and dog gone it people like me"