So I was on another obesity site that has a chat forum... and I was chatting it up with others.. and a lady gave me a 10 minute tirade on how I made a huge mistake getting the lap band versus the RNY that she had.. and how I would end up having the bypass anyway.. blah blah... she said so many negative things...

and i know i shouldnt care.. but i just had surgery on friday and i am afraid i made the wrong choice.... i was so confident but now i am not sure..

i am swayed easily by negativity... i am trying to work on that too..

she said i wouldnt ever get to my goal weight.... and since my starting weight wasnt incredibly high to begin with that i wouldnt lose much at all..

im discouraged. and stressed out.... my dad just paid cash for this surgery and i want it to work so bad... somebody tell me its going to work.

You just let me at her!! I will defend your honor DallasDoll!! :rambo

I am going to need a bucket of tar, feathers (assorted colors), a jar of Claussen gerkin pickles, and a 9 Iron.

That chick is just pissed off that she was not approved to get a Band. You tell her to come here and start preachin about the Band V.S. RNY. All these banded honey's will eat her alive, and her little tummy too!

I have learned the hard way it's better for me to listen to my heart than somebody else's asshole masquerating as a mouth....

dallas, Jack said it all!

dallasdoll, my opinion is that you absolutely made the right decision.

I shall share some experiences:

3 of my family members have had RNY GBypass. All 3 of them are doing great. HOWEVER........ they can't eat anything with sugar or eat too much or it makes them vomit violently and quickly to where they are running for the bathroom, without any warning. One time my mom ate too much and whammo, she was running through Red Lobster for the bathroom with her hand over her mouth as the vomit was leaking through her fingers leaving a trail of droplets (gross but necessary to share this info).

Also, due to the dumping syndrome (no warning diarhea) all 3 of my family members have bought the handheld carpet cleaners and carry a change of clothes in their cars for their accidents along with plastic bags. And they have used them, not just a precaution.

yes, they do lose the weight VERY rapidly but along with losing weight so fast comes ADDITIONAL stretch marks because of the rapid loss. Plus, they are losing soooo fast that they are only in their current weight clothes for a matter of weeks before having to move (depending on their starting weight and how big they were). I know my mom when from a 28 to a 12/14 within a year!

And there are several foods that bypass patients will never eat again. (bandsters really don't have that issue). My family members can't eat lettuce at all, no digestion.

Also it is very permanant. Even though the band can be a lifelong committment, it is fully reversable and correctable. Take it out and you get your stomach back (and the weight though probably). But no cutting and pasting of the innards.

I had my surgery on wed, was painting my pantry (the lower shelves) on Sat, and was back to work on Mon. All my other family members talked about 2-3 weeks of laying in a recliner groaning and moaning in pain. I realize I was a super healer but most bandsters feel very little "pain" by the end of week 1.

For 2 of them, they had open surgery (big scars) and my mom had laproscopic but still bigger incisions than mine. She has about 4 of hers port size and one small. I have 4 tiny and 1 small port size. The ones with the big scars are really ugly and jagged.

I honestly think the band also teaches you more "healthy" eating habits. You are given the tool and taught to make choices. I think the band is more empowering to a person rather than FORCING them.

My family members had never heard of the lapband when they had their bypass. And they admit that they are jealous that they never got this option or they would have taken it. This may be the issue with the tyrant you encountered on the board. Jealousy is a very mean animal.