My rny is scheduled for Jan. 6. I'm as ready as I can be, but I have this gnawing fear that I will go through all of this and it just won't work. I've been a yo-yo dieter for so long that my last couple of attempts had zero weight loss - my body was so used to me trying to restrict that it just held onto the weight. Is this an irrational fear?

This is my biggest fear too I had lap band surgery and it didn't help my hunger at all. Everyone said it would, and I followed the plan just as the doctor told me to. Went in for my fills and check-ups. I lost a little weight (about 30 pounds) but I was really disappointed in the results. All it would take to clear my pouch and cause hunger was a burp and the food I'd eaten would slide down to my stomach so my pouch would be emptied. I'm scared something like that would happen with bypass.

It's easy to be scared because there is so much noise out there about WLS and certainly short term deviations are to be expected, but Just remember: eat less, weigh less.

The band was not really the complete answer. It works for some who use it as a tool to learn new habits, but there are now better (and easier) ways.

Trust the process. A smaller pouch is easier to fill with less food. Just make it the right food at the right intervals, and you will be good to go.

luck!

@Fatboyslim1 I wish I could "try on" the surgery before committing but that is physically impossible lol... I just had expectations of the lap band (satiety that started sooner and lasted longer) but it didn't happen. It's like I was in a room with a bunch of people with music playing and they're like "just listen to the music and dance to the rhythm, it's not that hard" but I can't hear a damn thing so I can't move correctly. Then I ask the doctor to adjust the volume a little and it's suddenly deafening noise that I can't bear (a minor adjustment caused me to be unable to drink water which, obviously, I would not survive).

So I guess there's a terror I'll be that one person who gets a bypass and feels no restriction and hangs on to every calorie they eat. I swear I'm biologically adapted to survive the worst famine in history but here I am in 2020 when you can click a couple buttons on a phone and have any cuisine imaginable delivered to your door without even having to talk to one human being ??

Lap band proved to be so statistically unsuccessful and had so many complications that our surgeons here won't even do it anymore. RNY is completely different. It's not just the restriction that works, it is the hormone and metabolic reset that happens. When the brain/stomach hormonal communications are so damaged from yo-yo dieting, RNY can fix this. Also, with WLS , the metabolism does not bottom out like what happens with a non surgical diet of caloric restriction. I am approaching 1year post op RNY. I don't have a lot of restriction now - there are still some foods that can bother me - like raw salad, but generally I can eat whatever I want. The thing is, I just don't want the bad stuff anymore. I have so much energy and with exercise, I believe I have added some muscle mass. My metabolism is definitely, without a doubt, much higher than it was before surgery. As long as I exercise, eat the right foods, and log everything (I write it all down. My rule is that it must be written before I can eat it. I don't count calories now - just log the food.), I will be able to maintain my healthy weight.

Lab band is pure restriction. RNY is much more than that.