I started the process and hoping in November or December to be sleeved. My husband supports me with my decision and understands why I need to do this. He's not excited though, has fears of surgery and fears of changes in our lives. Did anyone have a spouse feeling this way and did you do anything to get them on board? He's always been fit and never had weight issues. Thanks

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My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

You are entitled to having feelings about this and as spouse you have merit voicing those same feelings. He has the right to hear what you say and make the decision. If he has the "fatty gene" even if he works out and eats right he may lose weight but.... the likelihood that he may gain it all back plus is there as well.

Try and look at the positive he will be able to enjoy all the things you now enjoy w you. Nothing will be holding him back. You can have a solid relationship while doing loads of fun kick ass things! And since you both will be eating less he can buy you more pretty things.

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My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

Why would YOU feel disrespected? I wasn't aware that someone else's choices related to being healthy have anything to do with you? You have different bodies, different life experience. Just curious.

I feel like he's cheating the process of losing the weight, like he just needs to work harder or needs to find more will power to correct his diet. He gets jealous of my achievement and wants the same thing right now. I feel like him doing it by surgical means would diminish how hard I had to work at losing the weight. I don't feel he at all meets the medical criteria that I would recommend this to a patient.

My spouse wants to have the surgery, and I'm sturggling to support his decision. I know he needs to lose weight for his health but as a medical student I know the risks. I also lost 100lbs with diet and excercise, so I feel really disrespected by his choice to do this. I know it's not an easy way out, and I know I should support him but I just can't find it within myself to do it.

Why would YOU feel disrespected? I wasn't aware that someone else's choices related to being healthy have anything to do with you? You have different bodies, different life experience. Just curious.

I feel like he's cheating the process of losing the weight, like he just needs to work harder or needs to find more will power to correct his diet. He gets jealous of my achievement and wants the same thing right now. I feel like him doing it by surgical means would diminish how hard I had to work at losing the weight. I don't feel he at all meets the medical criteria that I would recommend this to a patient.

you know it isn't about you right?

What does HIS doctor say about him meeting medical criteria? I wasn't aware that med students were licensed to practice medicine on friends and family.

My husband is somewhat supportive but he forgets ..I constantly have to remind him that I can't have certain things ..he came home with a bag of almost joys ..my favorite..I could kill him ..

My surgery is Oct 20

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