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Sharon1222, My husband and I got divorced almost two years ago. I could no longer trust him and once that is lost, there is not much less. Life is absolutely WONDERFUL now. I have an amazing man in my life who is wonderful to me and my boys. The exhusband is a big part of the boys life but to me he is quite weird at times...he has a new girlfriend who I think has a problem with him speaking to me so I don't talk to him much, even when the kids are with him. He got to the point that he wouldn't even acknowledge my text messages when the kids are with him so I went and got the kids their own cell phones so I don't even have to go through him anymore to talk to them. Things happen for a reason...I'm a HUGE believer in that and in the end I am a much happier person and my life is exactly how I always wanted it to me (minus the breast cancer fight that I had).

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I haven't been on here much in, well, a long time! But I got an email the other day that there was a comment on this thread that I had commented on and subscribed to forever ago. I came on and you look great and sound great! I saw that we were banded just a month apart from each other and your pix looks as good as I feel about my weight loss journey! I just had to take a moment that I'm so happy you seem to be doing better than when I first started following this thread. I wish you nothing but happiness!

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Hello mr green. It was a surprise to me to see her name on a post after so long. I still miss her wit and intelligence. Thank you for your insight into this as well.

Hi

My wife and I went through a similar experiece. We got back together again. The relationship ended up stronger than it ever was before. Every situation is different so I will not talk about details except for the fact we both ended up with affairs. Her more than me. It was painfull, but if it is ment to be, you will have the same experience. My wife always said " Don't get mad , get even". Sometimes sex is just a form of entertainment not love. Be careful not to throw it away to quickly. My wife passed away 2 years ago and I am very happy she was able to enjoy her life.

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Good morning my dear LBT friends...it has been way too long but boy oh boy do I have some things to tell you all...are you all sitting down?????

OK...first things first...I'M GETTING MARRIED!!!! My wonderful boyfriend proposed to me the Sunday after Thanksgiving. He included my boys in his proposal...it was absolutely wonderful. I'm so happy I could just scream...things are going great.

Now...are you ready for this??? I'm also pregnant...how surprised are all of you? Well, lets just say that I look NOTHING like my profile pic on here...I have my work cut out for me once the baby is born...lol. I am half way through my pregnancy...I'm due May 29. I have had some complications and lots of testing because of my various medical issues. Oh...and it's another boy...maybe I will change my name to mumof3boys...lol

Oh a more serious note...the cancer may have returned nonod.gif I am undergoing testing right now and I see my Oncologist on January 16 and it looks like I will be heading for another biopsy...keep me in your prayers. I'm staying positive and trying not to stress because that's not good for cancer or the pregnancy. I never thought that I would be having another baby (especially at my age) but I'm so very excited that I am. My fiance' has no children of his own so you can only imagine how excited he is.

So...I guess I woke all of you guys up didn't I? I would LOVE to hear from you all and see how you all are doing.

I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday and a great start to 2012.

Can't wait to hear from ya!!!

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This is the first time I have ever seen this thread....amazed it went back to 2009.

It may be late in coming......but if I had made a response in 2009, it would have been.......

Looking at your pictures.......you're ex-husband is (was) a fool!

Now, back to 2012.

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Thank you...and I have to agree with you...lol...he IS a fool but for more reasons than just cheating on me...but that's alright because now I have a GREAT life.

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OMGsh woman, are you kidding me? After the baby and during your battle with the big C, start your book!!! You should contact someone with Lifetime TV, just this blog would make a heck of a movie.

The title...Mom of Three Boys :)....I wish you the very best on your checkup the 16th, please take the time to let us know how you are. Congratulations to you and your growing family....God Bless you all!

Take care of yourself (hugs)...

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Hi HarleyNana...long time, no talk...boy oh boy did we have some talks ;-) Thanks for the well wishes...and I agree...I certainly could make a Lifetime Movie, huh? I have certainly been through some stuff in my time but it has made me one hell of a strong woman and I'm very proud of who I am.

I have learned that life throws us some curve balls but it's all in how you handle them and you come out much stronger. I still have issues with the ex husband from time to time (he is a weirdo) and I'm still going through the court system with the ex psycho to have his wages garnished for the money that he owes me but in due time, everything will be just fine.

It was great to hear from you!!!! I will keep posting throughout my pregnancy and my appointments. I hope that the cancer has not returned but if it has, I will just have to kick its ass again ;-)

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Congratulations!

After all you've been through, you are a brave woman.

I don't think I will ever remarry.

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OK, I have to admit, I have sat here and read this ENTIRE post from beginning to end. I have laughed and I have cried. I know the emotions that everyone has felt on here. My first husband cheated on me, but to this day denies it (He lives his life in a lie and is proud of that fact, sad to say), Luckily he is in my past and I dont ever have to deal with him. I recently got divorced (last April) due to my 2nd husband not being totally honest with me (He didnt cheat, but still lied to me way too much). I just got my band on Dec 22nd, and waiting for my first fill on Feb 1st. I feel amazing, although I need to get in for my fill because I can eat anything and everything with no restriction right now.

I want to say CONGRATS on getting engaged and your pregnancy. What a wonderful time in your life. You deserve happiness after everything you have been through in the last couple of years. I sincerely hope the cancer has not returned, but with your strength and resolve, if it has, you will overcome and be that much stronger.

Thanks for sharing, I'm sure at times it was difficult, but this thread has helped MANY I'm sure.

Deanna

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His loss!! You look great!!!

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Thanks everyone!!!! Bluetigereyes...YES...there was LOTS of things that were hard to post but the support that I received from everyone here was absolutely AMAZING and truly helped me through some of the toughest times. In fact, I have made some amazing friends because of LBT. I shared so much because I felt that if I was going through that, chances are there was someone else out there going through it too and I knew what they were feeling. I am a much stronger person today for everything that I have been through. I have NO regrets in life...everything happens for a reason and our past is what makes us who we are.

I have an appointment tomorrow with the high risk pregnanc doctors. I will be receiving an anatomy sonogram and an echo of the babys heart. Let me just tell ya...he must know about tomorrows visit because he is kicking the heck out of me this morning...lol.

About the cancer scare...I received a call from my Oncologist yesterday. He took the films from my last two ultrasounds to a cancer review board meeting and discussed my case. My surgeon and my Radiation Oncologist were both breast at this meeting. They were all of the opinion that the changes within my breast were pregnancy related, however, there is a new nodule that was located in my December ultrasound which they are concerned about. He advised that he wants a repeat ultrasoun (which is scheduled for February 9) and then to meet with my surgeon (appointment for February 13) so he can compare the films and will most likely schedule me for a biopsy. I'm scared and worried but I realize that it's beyond my control and whatever happens will happen. I have an amazing team of doctors and I have total faith in all of them. I know that I have wonderful support from friends and family and that I will make it through whatever obsticles are thrown my way.

Again, I want to thank all of you guys...you really cannot imagine how much your support over the years has meant to me...for all of the new LBT members who have read through my thread...thank you very much!!!

On another note...I forgot just how much I hate being fat...I cannot wait to get this baby out of here and back on my exercise and diet routine...I am absolutely miserable and I have quite a way to go...I keep looking at my profile picture and I just wanna cry... crying.gif

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Mum...You have an amazing journey ahead of you. Enjoy your pregnancy, because it will be over before you know it and your little bundle of joy will be in your arms again! Just remember to eat sensibly and healthy during your pregnancy and the weight will come off shortly after. You can still exercise, just be careful with it. When I taught Water aerobics, I had 3 people in my class twice a week that were pregnant and worked out until the week before they gave birth. That may be a good option since its low impact and the water helps ease the movement while still getting a great workout.

Keep up the gerat work, you are truly an inspiration!!!

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