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Hi, I am scheduled for my surgery on Wednesday and I am getting scared. I just read that someone is still hungry after all of this. Will I never get to enjoy food again? Or their stomach keeps bothering them. Sorry..just freaking out a little bit.

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I'm the one who posted that I'm still hungry. Most people (but not all!) lose their hunger for a few months after surgery. But it always comes back. However, I am satisfied on MUCH LESS food. And there are medications that have been helpful for me.

I am nauseous from my Multivitamin, but I haven't thrown up in a long time. I have found that if I eat something with fat in it before I take the multivitamin, I am better

I have also lost 113 lbs so far. Is my life miraculously better? No. I'm a smaller person who is more comfortable in my body. I still have pain in my knee and arm. I walk faster now. I still have bipolar disorder (the surgery center thinks this is why I never lost my hunger). Am I glad I did the surgery? Most days.

Should you cancel your surgery? That's up to you. Most people do not end up regretting it.

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40 minutes ago, dance4thedj said:

Hi, I am scheduled for my surgery on Wednesday and I am getting scared. I just read that someone is still hungry after all of this. Will I never get to enjoy food again? Or their stomach keeps bothering them. Sorry..just freaking out a little bit.

I had my surgery in December 2021. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself. I do feel hungry about every 4 hours. I eat what I want, just a lot less of it. I feel content and I'm never starving myself anymore. When we go out to dinner, I order what I want and take most of it home with me. It only took me about 1-2 month after surgery to eat normal foods or mostly normal, (not liquid). I feel very fortunate to have gone through this and better myself. Good luck at whatever you chose.

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58 minutes ago, dance4thedj said:

Hi, I am scheduled for my surgery on Wednesday and I am getting scared. I just read that someone is still hungry after all of this. Will I never get to enjoy food again? Or their stomach keeps bothering them. Sorry..just freaking out a little bit.

Which surgery are you having and what scares you about it? Not being hungry after surgery is termporary for most people, but not all. Hunger always comes back. Sure you'll get to enjoy food again, just in smaller portions, and depending on which surgery you have chosen, there might be some foods you may need to avoid so you won't encounter dumping syndrome.

Wls is just something we adapt to. It's a compromise for a more normal sized, healthier body. As you start to see the benefits of the surgery... (the scale moving downward, etc) and you adapt to smaller portions, you slowly ease into a new way of life.

Only you can decide if this is what you want and if you're ready for it.

I wish you the best!

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Freaking out a bit? Entirely normal. It's a big decision, and only you can make it for yourself. Do consider, though, that most people who regret having WLS shortly after the surgery are singing a much different tune a few weeks later as their bodies adjust and the weight comes off. Good luck!

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My surgery is tomorrow and I know how you feel. I am scared of a lot of things, especially of failing and not being able to eat or drink enough. We’ve come so far in this journey and worked hard to get here. It is such a rare opportunity to get this surgery. We get to reshape our bodies and get a fresh start.

I was laying in bed last night at 2:00am, unable to sleep and wondering if I should cancel my surgery. I immediately thought of all the people who desperately want this surgery, but their insurance denied them. I feel fortunate and lucky that everything fell into place and it’s finally happening!

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I'm the one who posted that I'm still hungry. Most people (but not all!) lose their hunger for a few months after surgery. But it always comes back. However, I am satisfied on MUCH LESS food. And there are medications that have been helpful for me.
I am nauseous from my multivitamin, but I haven't thrown up in a long time. I have found that if I eat something with fat in it before I take the multivitamin, I am better
I have also lost 113 lbs so far. Is my life miraculously better? No. I'm a smaller person who is more comfortable in my body. I still have pain in my knee and arm. I walk faster now. I still have bipolar disorder (the surgery center thinks this is why I never lost my hunger). Am I glad I did the surgery? Most days.
Should you cancel your surgery? That's up to you. Most people do not end up regretting it.
That is great advice thank you Liz[emoji120][emoji3590]

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2 hours ago, suzannethemom said:

My surgery is tomorrow and I know how you feel. I am scared of a lot of things, especially of failing and not being able to eat or drink enough. We’ve come so far in this journey and worked hard to get here. It is such a rare opportunity to get this surgery. We get to reshape our bodies and get a fresh start.

I was laying in bed last night at 2:00am, unable to sleep and wondering if I should cancel my surgery. I immediately thought of all the people who desperately want this surgery, but their insurance denied them. I feel fortunate and lucky that everything fell into place and it’s finally happening!

I do this a lot. I think how lucky and blessed I am to have good insurance that approved me right away, a wonderful support system, and doctors that really listen and want what's best for me and advocate for me. Any time even a sliver of worry creeps in, I remind myself of that, and I think about how healthy I used to be and how I'm a heartbeat away from getting my life back, and everything disappears. I'm left with excitement, joy, and gratitude. I know there are so many that want to be where I am and can't be. I'll never take that for granted.

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Being nervous before any surgery is understandable. You’ve not had this surgery before. We all react differently because we’re not exactly the same so there is no single set of things to expect after surgery. … Fear of the unknown is real. Remember you made this decision for a reason. You must trust your surgeon otherwise you would have gone to a different one. And you likely have family & friends who will support you.

Some people have no hunger or interest in food after surgery some do. As @lizonaplane said she was prescribed medication to help with her continued hunger. But everyone’s hunger comes back at some time.

As for enjoying food in the future, that doesn’t change. In the short term while you are healing & your body is getting used to the changes you may struggle with some foods. Even your sense of taste & smell can change. But it is all temporary.

While losing you learn so much about your eating habits & cravings. You learn the difference between real hunger & head hunger. The difference between eating until you’re full & stopping when you’ve had what your body needs. You’ll learn about better nutrition, healthier food options & alternatives, portion sizes, etc. You may look at food differently - food as fuel & nutrition your body needs vs simply to offer comfort. Some of this learning you’ll do alone. Some you may do with the help & support of a dietician &/or a therapist.

Take each day as it comes. Listen to your body & its cues. If something feels wrong contact your surgeon or go to a medical centre. Never be afraid to ask for help.

All the best.

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