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Had my surgery March 23 and now I absolutely hate my life. I wish I canceled the whole thing even 4 hrs before I was supposed to fly out. All I think about is suicide now and that now life is pointless. I see my doctor Wednesday, but seeing so many be happy about the choice seems to make me even more angry at myself because I was never that big to begin with ..but my mental issues told me otherwise. I can't be the only person who had gastric sleeve to feel this way... so very alone.

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I'm sorry you're so upset and I won't tell you not to feel like you do you're entitled to your feelings however why do you regret the surgery was it not what you expected I wish you well truly I do I don't want to say to much, reach out to others on here they're dynamite.

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25 minutes ago, rmp09 said:

Had my surgery March 23 and now I absolutely hate my life. I wish I canceled the whole thing even 4 hrs before I was supposed to fly out. All I think about is suicide now and that now life is pointless. I see my doctor Wednesday, but seeing so many be happy about the choice seems to make me even more angry at myself because I was never that big to begin with ..but my mental issues told me otherwise. I can't be the only person who had gastric sleeve to feel this way... so very alone.

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a lot of people have weird mood swings due to rapidly changing hormone levels after surgery. I suspect that's what's going on, but if you're feeling suicidal, you need to call a suicide hotline. Please get in touch with someone NOW!

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

P.S. the hormone changes are temporary, but if you're feeling this way, you need to talk to someone immediately.

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23 minutes ago, rmp09 said:

Had my surgery March 23 and now I absolutely hate my life. I wish I canceled the whole thing even 4 hrs before I was supposed to fly out. All I think about is suicide now and that now life is pointless. I see my doctor Wednesday, but seeing so many be happy about the choice seems to make me even more angry at myself because I was never that big to begin with ..but my mental issues told me otherwise. I can't be the only person who had gastric sleeve to feel this way... so very alone.

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I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I wish this wasn't the case for you. There are resources available in your area to help you with the thoughts of self harm.

I promise you, your life isn't pointless. It is far from that. This perspective you are experience right now will hopefully shift to where you can see that your value is limitless.

Do you have a therapist or someone close to you physically that you can reach out to for support? Are you alone?

I wish there was something I could do or say to take away your sadness. Feel free to message me for help looking for resources in your area and/or just someone to talk with. One day at a time.

❤️

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that sucks you feel that way. This seems to be your first post. How about some background. Why did you decide on gastric sleeve? what seems to be the issue? First few weeks are the toughest after a major surgery and it takes time to heal so keep at it and it will get better. Did you end up traveling to have the surgery? did it not go well?

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Im so very sorry you are sad. I have not had the surgery yet. This seems very upsetting. Can you tell us why you feel this way? Pain? the lack of not eating much?

I hope you can find thehelp you need and get better soon. ❤️

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I am so sorry that you are feeling this way. There is tons of support here for sadness and moodiness but if you are suicidal I agree you need to call the suicide hotline right away, please. Once you are out of immediate danger there is tons of support here but right now you need someone local who can keep you safe.

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3 hours ago, rmp09 said:

Had my surgery March 23 and now I absolutely hate my life. I wish I canceled the whole thing even 4 hrs before I was supposed to fly out. All I think about is suicide now and that now life is pointless. I see my doctor Wednesday, but seeing so many be happy about the choice seems to make me even more angry at myself because I was never that big to begin with ..but my mental issues told me otherwise. I can't be the only person who had gastric sleeve to feel this way... so very alone.

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I went through exactly the same thing so I know first hand how you are feeling. First of all reach out to someone who can help you with the suicidal thoughts get some counselling asap. Gosh I was that bad I was bawling to my mother that I now wanted a stomach transplant 😳. I felt awful I wanted to die I spent 6 weeks curled up in a ball on my sisters couch. I did the old but I wasn't that big blah blah blah. What you are going through is grief and you will go through all the stages some more than once. When I started loosing weight I would tell people I would gladly have the weight back just to feel normal again. I totally get how you feel. Hormones have a lot to do with this I was perimenopausal and ended up on Patches as I said to my Dr I can't deal with both meaning the effects of surgery and menopause, so that helped alot. It gets better trust me on this. I cried multiple times a day for weeks, I didn't go to work thank God I had plenty of leave saved up but going back home and back to work helped me get back into my routine and gave me something else to to think about. On your path to recovery the good days will slowly out number the bad days. I couldn't talk about surgery without crying for months. I would tell people it should be outlawed all sorts of crazy stuff. So now I am 8 months post op and feel so much better. I am 35 kilos down and have come to the realisation that I wouldn't have lost the weight without the surgery, yes I went through a stage of if only a stuck to the pre op changes I made I wouldn't have had to have surgery... But I can't say this enough and you are probably thinking yeah right what do you know it's worse for me but I do know and it will get better just be gentle on yourself try to do things you enjoy spend time with supportive people who will look after you when you need it. You are not alone it gets better, how long will it take you I don't know it took me 6 months and I think when I realised I could eat and drink "normally" again I got better quicker. Now I am fighting another battle but that's a story for another day. Love your restriction while you have it. Get your Protein in stay hydrated. If you want to message me privately please do as it helps to talk to someone who has been where you are. It gets better ❤

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1 hour ago, Ren2022 said:

Im so very sorry you are sad. I have not had the surgery yet. This seems very upsetting. Can you tell us why you feel this way? Pain? the lack of not eating much?

I hope you can find thehelp you need and get better soon. ❤️

I went through this too, it's a combination of things, hormones, grief for the loss of your old life style , the fear of the unknown about your new life. It can be very overwhelming and unfortunately many surgeons and their teams don't even acknowledge this side of surgery let alone warn you it could happen. Considering how common this is it should be discussed so when patients do experience this they can at least realise its normal and will pass.

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I hope OP is reaching out to a crisis line. I will say that although I was never suicidal, I did have a lot of regret for the first few months. I was hungry all the time and every time I ate I was in pain. Nothing tasted good in the first month or so.

After about 5 months, I felt really glad I had done it. It took me a while to get adjusted.

Find a support group if you can, and a therapist who is trained in bariatric issues. Reach out to your surgery center. If you PM me I can get you in touch with a Zoom support group that meets twice a week.

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Ok sunshine, what you don't need right now is a WLS forum. You need psychiatric help. I got it once and it works and it'll make you feel better. Remember: you have a right to feel happy, right now. So go talk to someone, get medication, whatever. But don't sit there feeling like this.

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On 04/05/2022 at 11:17, Pollito said:



Ok sunshine, what you don't need right now is a WLS forum. You need psychiatric help. I got it once and it works and it'll make you feel better. Remember: you have a right to feel happy, right now. So go talk to someone, get medication, whatever. But don't sit there feeling like this.


THIS! This. This. This. Please get help, suicidal thoughts are not within the norm and you definitely need to talk to someone.

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1 hour ago, lizonaplane said:

I hope OP is reaching out to a crisis line. I will say that although I was never suicidal, I did have a lot of regret for the first few months. I was hungry all the time and every time I ate I was in pain. Nothing tasted good in the first month or so.

Can I ask you- although this is not about the original post (my heart goes out to OP and hope they get the help they need!!) you wrote you ate every time you were in pain. But I see on your profile that you lost lots of weight. How did you get on track and lose the weight if you were eating all the time?

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31 minutes ago, idk4w said:

Can I ask you- although this is not about the original post (my heart goes out to OP and hope they get the help they need!!) you wrote you ate every time you were in pain. But I see on your profile that you lost lots of weight. How did you get on track and lose the weight if you were eating all the time?

2 hours ago, lizonaplane said:

I was hungry all the time and every time I ate I was in pain.

I think you read her post wrong.

"Every time I ate, I was in pain."

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