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Anyone Ever Cancel Their Surgery? I Did... Not Sure How I Feel



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I can guarantee you are not the first. If your doctor sticks his nose up in the air at you, find another--when you feel like you can.

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On 12/8/2021 at 3:48 AM, SleeverSk said:

I wish I had have had the balls to do that.

How come?

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On 12/8/2021 at 2:43 PM, oldandtired said:

I can guarantee you are not the first. If your doctor sticks his nose up in the air at you, find another--when you feel like you can.

Thanks. I haven't heard from my doctor at all.

One thing I do want to mention as an FYI, or in case anyone is interested is that my psych asked me a question. She asked if I'd be happy staying the same weight that I am, or losing 10-20 pounds since my eating patterns have shifted a little. But generally, can I be happy at this weight. Because I think we both know that, barring some miracle, I'm likely to not lose the amount of weight I would if I had the procedure. I'd have to research the meds that were mentioned earlier (that's not really a road I've traveled as of yet).

So I'm still thinking about that. Honestly, NO. I'm a big girl. I don't mind being big, to some extent, but I'm uncomfortable in my skin with how I am now. Eight years ago I was able to lose a nice chunk of weight, but I can't say that's possible right now for me. Age, stress, hormones - you name it, are really working against me.

But, being also not sure about the surgery, I'm in a limbo of sorts, which is almost more depressing and frustrating. It was advised that I touch base back with the bariatric program in a month or so, or after the holidays to kind of gauge where things are. But honestly I don't even know what they would want me to do at this point (start over in the program, etc.) and it sound exhausting to me to do that.

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4 minutes ago, You Are My Sunshine said:But honestly I don't even know what they would want me to do at this point (start over in the program, etc.) and it sound exhausting to me to do that.

i doubt they would make you start over unless your insurance requirements dictated that they may require updated labs and heart tests if you needed those though if too much time passes

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7 hours ago, You Are My Sunshine said:

How come?

Because if i could turn back time I wouldnt do it

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1 hour ago, Goddesslola said:

congratulations on doing things your way!

so will you continue the Keto diet?

whats next?

Not sure... I'm not doing Keto, just kind of intuitive eating, trying to eat clean. I was doing pretty well, but have veered a bit. I'm very happy that I did NOT gain back the weight I lost on the pre-op liquid diet, so for me that's a win - I've lost 2 pounds since. Not a lot, and I hope I can keep it off during the holidays and make wise choices. After this week I am going to call and see what my options are and then make a decision from there.

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On 12/20/2021 at 6:28 PM, You Are My Sunshine said:

Not sure... I'm not doing Keto, just kind of intuitive eating, trying to eat clean. I was doing pretty well, but have veered a bit. I'm very happy that I did NOT gain back the weight I lost on the pre-op liquid diet, so for me that's a win - I've lost 2 pounds since. Not a lot, and I hope I can keep it off during the holidays and make wise choices. After this week I am going to call and see what my options are and then make a decision from there.

What did you ultimately decide? I've been riveted by this thread and I hope, whatever you decided, it'd making you feel happy and at peace.

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On 11/10/2021 at 7:46 AM, You Are My Sunshine said:

Yes trying to do that. Feeling some shame, disappointment.

Wow, nothing to feel shame about. You are entitled to change your mind. It obviously was the right decision, better than feeling regretful afterwards.

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On 11/28/2021 at 11:14 AM, Jue said:

I hope everything goes well next week for you I did have doubts the morning of surgery and when I got to the hospital the surgeon came and seen me and said that he needed someone else to do the surgery if he couldn't get anyone he couldn't do it so I thought if he doesn't do it I'm not coming back but he ho 10 minutes later he come back and said are you ready of course I said yep let's do it now I'm 12 weeks out and 45lbs down and glad I had it done

@Jue were you involved in a program? What were the next steps after cancelling?

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On 4/6/2022 at 11:34 PM, Future Sleeve Diva said:

What did you ultimately decide? I've been riveted by this thread and I hope, whatever you decided, it'd making you feel happy and at peace.

@Future Sleeve Diva Thanks for asking... I'm still in the process. I went back to the program to see what steps I'd need to take if I wanted to be considered.

My original surgeon dumped me; I heard nothing from her at all. I was reassigned to a newly hired surgeon that I can find NO reviews or information on at all (which is not working in my favor). When I met with him, he asked if I had any alcohol in the past month and I told him that I had a couple drinks. He then said he wanted 3 months of sobriety and then he would meet with me again in June.

I've found the process really frustrating, honestly, and it's not helping me feel any more confidence about things. I had/have no issues with alcohol. I did have issues with anxiety going into major surgery that really weren't addressed. I had passed the program (nutrition, psych, behaviors) before and was approved for surgery. I don't feel heard at all. I honestly feel like the pariah of the program at this point. Kind of funny, but not.

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Yes I'd waited about 6 yrs had to do a 2 yrs diet plan and they decided they'd keep me on for another year then covid hit that was that I'd already had 2 pre ops didn't think I was gonna get it done then one day got a phone call saying I had to start liver shrinking diet on the mon then it was all go glad now I had it done

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I hope you get sorted soon I did regret it the day after but now I would do it all again in a heart beat best thing I've done not seen a dietitian since the end of November but go on the 17th of may so I'll know then what I've lost I did get a glimpse of myself in a mirror and couldn't believe how much I've lost

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