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My partner and I have been having some issues with my weight and how much I've gained in 8years we have been together. He knows I'm due to have a sleeve but is really against me having it and had even said he can't get his head round me having it and could effect our relationship. I really don't know what to do, I really want this to help me live a better life.

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I'm sorry this is happening. Can you discuss what his concerns are? Is he afraid you won't be able to enjoy going out to eat with him anymore? Or that you will leave him once you are thin? Or that you will have a lot of health problems afterwards? Or something else? It might be something to discuss with a therapist who is well-educated about bariatric surgery. If he is unhappy with your weight and unhappy with your efforts to do something about it, it really puts you in a difficult spot.

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On 06/20/2021 at 13:08, violets said:

My partner and I have been having some issues with my weight and how much I've gained in 8years we have been together. He knows I'm due to have a sleeve but is really against me having it and had even said he can't get his head round me having it and could effect our relationship. I really don't know what to do, I really want this to help me live a better life.

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I second going to see a therapist who is knowledgeable about bariatric therapy together. Hopefully that can help you guys communicate and get at the root cause of what his issues with surgery may be, as well as tips for addressing or working through them. It isn't really fair to you if he's getting on you about weight, but then also gets upset when you try and get healthier, especially to the point of giving what sounds like a veiled ultimatum to you. Improving your health is important and hopefully you guys can find some common ground so that taking steps to improve your health doesn't result in the relationship falling apart. Best of luck!

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