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I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this?

Thanks,

Lynda

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14 minutes ago, Lynda486 said:

I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this?

Thanks,

Lynda

Hi Lynda - I'm so sorry to hear this. You must be hurting so much. My son died unexpectedly 2 years ago and I understand just how devastating a loss it is. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Debbie

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Thank-you and my prayers for you as well. My guilt has been unbelievable and I have been put on two medications. I am getting to the point where I can sometimes talk about him without crying.

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Thank you for your prayers 💗

I understand about you feeling guilt. I feel guilty still about my son's death and think that somehow I should have prevented it. He hadn't been well, but went to Asia for an extended trip and died while there - I "knew" if you see what I mean that he wasn't really well enough to go but didn't talk him out of going. I could have persuaded him not to go I think and he wouldn't have died - so I blame myself for not listening to my "inner voice".

As a parent it's hard not to feel guilty if your child dies. It's such an unnatural thing that a child dies before their parent. It's very hard because our sons & husbands so often don't talk about their pain - mental or physical; they hide it from us.

Do you have other children?

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Oh I'm so sorry for your devastating loss. Keep taking the medication and give it time. I can't tell you it gets better, but it does get tolerable.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my infant son, and while it is a different loss, I feel your pain and sorrow. It’s a horrible and awful feeling that you carry forever. It’s been 9 years, and time has helped soothe the rawness but the pain never leaves. Lots of prayers and hugs. ❤️

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I have not experienced your loss but with two college sons My heart goes out to you. Try and grieve remember the good times and the wonderful times you had, That is what i had to do when my best buddy went down 20 min after i left his house. For years I wonder if I should have pushed him harder to go to the ER or was there anything I could have done. Years later it still bothers me. Sorry for you loss

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1 hour ago, Lynda486 said:

I haven't been here for a bit, since my son committed suicide on Oct. 9th. I wonder if there is anyone here that can relate to a loss like this?

Thanks,

Lynda

My Sincerest Condolences

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I am so very sorry for the loss of your son!!! Thinking of you and sending lots of HUGS!!!

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My condolences to you. I am so glad that others have taken the time to offer you support. Let's keep doing that, but honestly, Lynda, please consider getting into counseling. Grief is complicated and more so when you add our current pandemic and bariatric life all combined; a strong, effective grief counselor could offer you some much-needed support at this time.

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There are no words. So sorry.

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So very sad for the loss of your precious Son. May he gently rest in the arms of the Angels.

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Sorry for your loss. Sending love and strength your way.

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Thank-you so much for thinking of me!

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I am so sorry for your loss, I have not lost a son but I have lost a loved one and I know how you feel. Be strong, I'll pray for you.

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