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Is anyone feeling like they made the worst decision ever by getting this surgery. I hate it right now honestly 😔 1 week post op I don't want to eat or drink anything. I literally have to force myself which I usually just end up not eating or drinking at all. I hate the feeling of a queezy stomach and that's all food or drink gives me as well as terrible gas pain. I'm starting to feel weak because I haven't been able to eat or drink but idk. I wish I never had it. I would kill to be able to just eat salad and baked chicken and healthier foods instead of having this surgery. I don't know why I didn't just eat healthy before then I wouldn't have to go threw any of this 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

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I was miserable after surgery. I hated it and started regretting everything that had happened. I didn't feel good and I wasn't doing good.

However.

Once I started getting better, it wasn't so bad. The first few weeks are definitely the worst. Pre-op sucked because I just wanted to eat food, and the liquid and puree stages sucked because I just wanted to chew and EAT and feel normal again. And I do. And you will.

Are you eating/drinking separately (30 minutes apart)? Are you going slow? (small SMALL sips and bites) It's a lot of trial and error, learning what works. You are learning to function again. It is hard, but you will get through it.

And soon, you'll be able to eat that stuff. You'll be able to get your chicken and your salad. You did this for a reason, and you have to keep reminding yourself why. You'll get through the pain and discomfort, and you'll learn how to work your new stomach.

I'm very sorry you feel the way you do right now, but try to hang in there. You can do this, and you will get through it.

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I think you just need to get through the first month or two, and focus on getting your Protein and Water down. As you get further in the process, more foods will be available for you, albeit in much smaller portions (which is good). Look at the thread "Food Before & After Photos", there are so many ideas of what people are eating post surgery. It DOES get easier each day! Hang in there!

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I feel the same way. I'd like to think it's just the post-op blues, but I'm only just realising how difficult this lifestyle change is going to be. Before surgery I was blind to it all, didn't really face up to the realities of it.

I think I may have an eating disorder or a food-related phobia, it goes way beyond fussy eating - I am and always have been scared of most food textures and new things. I've literally gone days without food even when there's been food in the house, because I just couldn't face it.

The 'small portion, healthy diet' would be okay if I could eat that food but right now I don't see how I'll be able to. Seeing my doctor in a few days, hopefully he can refer me to a service that deals with this stuff.

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On 08/18/2020 at 17:29, Sammi_Katt said:



I was miserable after surgery. I hated it and started regretting everything that had happened. I didn't feel good and I wasn't doing good.




However.




Once I started getting better, it wasn't so bad. The first few weeks are definitely the worst. Pre-op sucked because I just wanted to eat food, and the liquid and puree stages sucked because I just wanted to chew and EAT and feel normal again. And I do. And you will.




Are you eating/drinking separately (30 minutes apart)? Are you going slow? (small SMALL sips and bites) It's a lot of trial and error, learning what works. You are learning to function again. It is hard, but you will get through it.




And soon, you'll be able to eat that stuff. You'll be able to get your chicken and your salad. You did this for a reason, and you have to keep reminding yourself why. You'll get through the pain and discomfort, and you'll learn how to work your new stomach.




I'm very sorry you feel the way you do right now, but try to hang in there. You can do this, and you will get through it.


I appreciate the encouragement.. I do try different things with Water for some reason it still upsets my stomach smh but I hope it gets better soon

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On 08/18/2020 at 18:13, MoominMan said:



I feel the same way. I'd like to think it's just the post-op blues, but I'm only just realising how difficult this lifestyle change is going to be. Before surgery I was blind to it all, didn't really face up to the realities of it.




I think I may have an eating disorder or a food-related phobia, it goes way beyond fussy eating - I am and always have been scared of most food textures and new things. I've literally gone days without food even when there's been food in the house, because I just couldn't face it.



The 'small portion, healthy diet' would be okay if I could eat that food but right now I don't see how I'll be able to. Seeing my doctor in a few days, hopefully he can refer me to a service that deals with this stuff.


If you're scared of most food what do you think caused you to be overweight? No judgement just wondering. And I also feel the same like I just want to eat.. even if it's healthy. At this point I felt like I could have just ate healthy and lost the weight on my own 😔

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I really regretted having the surgery for more than a month afterwards, and I didn't start feeling somewhat positive about it until several weeks after that. I was just miserable. Now that I'm in maintenance I think it's the best decision I ever made and just wish I had done it sooner. Hang in there!

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yes - it's common. But for most of us, it doesn't last long. The first few weeks can be rough - but once we're through them, most of us are really glad we made the decision. I'd do it again in a heartbeat!

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Hang in there!!! 6 months from now you will be giving a pep talk to someone who is feeling the same way you are now, and telling them how this surgery has changed your life!! HUGS!!!

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I felt that way for the first week after surgery. The first month I spent forcing myself to drink Water and my Protein Shake because I had absolutely no desire to eat or drink. The gas pain does get better. I’m 6 weeks post op and am able to eat and drink (separately, 30 minutes apart). I’m on fork tender foods now, and I still get the post op blues when some foods sit very heavy in my pouch. But it’s a learning process that doesn’t come overnight. You’re re-learning your body again and that takes patience and time. Give yourself a break and try to get as much water and Protein in as you can.

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I had trouble in the recovery room and I was so nauseous the first 3 days after surgery. I felt miserable, and I've always bounced back quickly with other surgeries. I kept asking myself why I did this and I was very down about it. But each day, I got a little better. I'm 4 weeks out tomorrow and I don't regret it at all now!
I think it's pretty common to go through those feelings after surgery, but it gets better! Hang in there, you will be feeling better before you know it!

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The first 4 days I asked myself why I did it bc no one told me the pain would be so bad , maybe I just did not do enough research, then I hated the liquid diet the worse but not I’m 5 weeks out and 18 pounds down (which I think is minimal) but I’m glad I did give it time your regrets will disappear

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I had my surgery a week ago aug 12th and everything that you posted I am feeling the same way . I don’t want to eat and every time I even drink Water I get this pain under my breast bone . I’m so over broth and Protein Shakes. This pain under my breast bone comes and goes all day and I feel a sharp pain. At this point I’m thinking why did I do this to myself . Why couldn’t I just eat better . The pain afterwards is ridiculously painful and I just got over nausea because I had to go to the ER due to dehydration. My pain meds make my stomach pain and puts me to sleep. No one ever talks about the post op pain and I wish I would have known . I just want to chug a big glass of water right now !! 😩😩😩😩

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On 08/19/2020 at 06:42, catwoman7 said:



yes - it's common. But for most of us, it doesn't last long. The first few weeks can be rough - but once we're through them, most of us are really glad we made the decision. I'd do it again in a heartbeat!


I'm just ready to feel like it's worth it because at this point I'm just so depressed about it 😔

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