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Hi all, my first post here. Having my surgery tomorrow, got rescheduled from March, 3 days before surgery because of COVID. I was in such a Good headspace last time. I still feel excited for the future and know I want to do this but I’m so scared. Scared I will fail, scared of the pain post op, feeling sick, dizzy, Scared I’ll f**k up the routine, I don’t know! I’m also just super anxious because no one can be in the hospital with me because of COVID which really sucks. My boyfriend is my rock and I just really wanted him there with me. Luckily my mom works in the hospital and should be able to be around but I’m not sure how much. Any advice/ wisdom to calm my nerves? I cried when I went in for the endoscopy I just don’t like hospitals, so I’m pretty sure I’ll be a mess tomorrow. And my surgery isn’t until 4pm so I’ll be extra hangry.

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My surgery is Friday...if I didn't know any better...I would think that I wrote this post. I feel the same way. I don't know if this is a natural feeling. I have been telling myself that IT IS. Not everyone goes in (as some of these posts would have you believe) without any feelings of fear. I am more scared that if I don't get this reset...I will leave this earth waaaay too early. I'm going to do the BEST I can. If this tool doesn't work for me...it won't be because I didn't try.

Being alone is honestly the only thing that is bothering me TODAY. I don't know how I'll feel tomorrow. I deal with these feelings as they come. But one thing is for certain...I/We will get through this.

It's MY time!

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Hang in there! I go on Wednesday so I'm getting a bit of nerves as well. Though right now my excitement level is way overwhelming the fear factor. I won't have any family support for my hospital stay, but that just means I'll work extra hard to get out as fast as I can. You're going to to just fine! Use a positive mantra or something tomorrow while you wait. We'll all be here for you when you wake up; come out to the forums when you feel up to it. Good healing!!

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My surgery is also tomorrow and I’m feeling a lot of this too. I’m revising a band to gastric bypass so I feel like, I’ve dive this before, so why the heck am I so nervous?! I think for sure a lot of it is the Covid stuff, and for me it doesn’t help that my family pretty much ignored Mother’s Day yesterday, so I’m feeling sad and sorry for myself today which certainly isn’t the best head space to be in. I hope you will post again after surgery! I’m interested to know how it goes! I know we’ll be just fine and we can compare notes as we heal and get through it!

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To all of you ............. Everybody here was scareD and peeing in there pants! It is a simple deal and normal. Chill out you re making the best decision you have ever made.

YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO RESTART AND LIVE LONGER! YOUR HAVE DECIDED TO GET HEALTHY! YES YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE CUTS AND ISSUES ................ BUT THE REWARD WILL BE WORTH IT................... IN SIX MONTHS YOU WILL DO POSTS LIKE THIS PAYING IT FORWARD .... JUST LOOK AT THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE. NOW ITS YOUR TURN AND THEN YOU WILL HELP THE NEXT GROUP~

YOU GOT THIS

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4 hours ago, WInston223322 said:

To all of you ............. Everybody here was scareD and peeing in there pants! It is a simple deal and normal. Chill out you re making the best decision you have ever made.

YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO RESTART AND LIVE LONGER! YOUR HAVE DECIDED TO GET HEALTHY! YES YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH A LITTLE CUTS AND ISSUES ................ BUT THE REWARD WILL BE WORTH IT................... IN SIX MONTHS YOU WILL DO POSTS LIKE THIS PAYING IT FORWARD .... JUST LOOK AT THE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE. NOW ITS YOUR TURN AND THEN YOU WILL HELP THE NEXT GROUP~

YOU GOT THIS

I am leaving for the hospital now and this is just what I needed. Thank you! See you in the post op forums! 😊

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On 5/11/2020 at 12:50 PM, PuddinJasper said:

My surgery is Friday...if I didn't know any better...I would think that I wrote this post. I feel the same way. I don't know if this is a natural feeling. I have been telling myself that IT IS. Not everyone goes in (as some of these posts would have you believe) without any feelings of fear. I am more scared that if I don't get this reset...I will leave this earth waaaay too early. I'm going to do the BEST I can. If this tool doesn't work for me...it won't be because I didn't try.

Being alone is honestly the only thing that is bothering me TODAY. I don't know how I'll feel tomorrow. I deal with these feelings as they come. But one thing is for certain...I/We will get through this.

It's MY time!

I hope your surgery went well. Sending out positive thoughts and vibes your way!

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1 hour ago, Ilanarose said:

Thank you everyone! Leaving for the hospital in a couple hours, helped ease my nerves some. I will definitely update when I am feeling up for it!

I just saw your post! YOU CAN DO THIS! Just be sure to use your pain meds in the hospital and walk the air out of you as best you can. We're here holding you up in positive energy. Good Vibes!

Let us know when you get back and are feeling up it how things went. 💜🤗

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I hope your surgery went well. Sending out positive thoughts and vibes your way!
Thanks...but it's this Friday...5/15...definitely need the positive vibes though![emoji173]

It's MY time!

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56 minutes ago, PuddinJasper said:

Thanks...but it's this Friday...5/15...definitely need the positive vibes though!

It's MY time!

Oh ok Friday! You got this Good Luck 🍀 and know we're rooting for you. Take advantage of the pain meds to get up and walk as soon as you can. Walking all the air they put into you before going home. Make sure you have all your pills you'll need at home to stay comfortable. Don't push yourself to do too much too fast. Stick to your surgeons instructions. They're not mean they're trying to help you so there are no complications. Be patient with yourself. New normal is weird. If your surgeon is like mine he wants you to have best possible outcome (then his numbers look good too) 😂

You go GIRL! 👏🏻 🎉

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Oh ok Friday! You got this Good Luck [emoji256] and know we're rooting for you. Take advantage of the pain meds to get up and walk as soon as you can. Walking all the air they put into you before going home. Make sure you have all your pills you'll need at home to stay comfortable. Don't push yourself to do too much too fast. Stick to your surgeons instructions. They're not mean they're trying to help you so there are no complications. Be patient with yourself. New normal is weird. If your surgeon is like mine he wants you to have best possible outcome (then his numbers look good too) [emoji23]
You go GIRL! [emoji1319] [emoji322]
I can't wait to come back and let you know how I did! Thanks so much for your kind words!! I will DEFINITELY do all the above!!

It's MY time!

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I’m officially pre-op and everything went perfectly!! This thread came at the perfect time for me! Thank for the support! @Ilanarose congrats! We made it!! @PuddinJasper You are going to do great! Less than 48 hours for you. It’s YOUR Time. 😊

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