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It's kinda weird that my mother who has been at my Aunt's house in Knoxville Tennessee. (around 65 miles away from me) She arrived 2 days before Thanksgiving. I asked her if she wanted to come eat with us around 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. She tried everyway she could for me not to have RNY Bariatric surgery. Needless to say that's why she never showed up for Thanksgiving. She is still at my Aunt's house and sent me a text. I am informing you that I will no longer be communicating with you. I hate you and maybe I can come to terms that my son is already thinner than me. Your a bastard. Signed your no longer mother. Go f**k yourself.
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Can't get over this. She had a follow-up text. Hope you get sick and die.

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Is your relationship with your mother/family toxic? My apologies for any pain this may be causing you, geesh.

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Just now, Krimsonbutterflies said:

Wow, first thing's first. How are you processing this?

Kind of don't know how to proceed. I tried to call her and she must of blocked me. She has always been a person who just had me, not a true mother. I was working lawns and shoveling snow to eat at 7yrs old. She was always gone a couple of months at a time with different truck drivers since around 5yrs old.

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She asked my wife on Fb 12/31 at night how my pain level was? My wife said it was excruciating to watch me that much in pain. All my mother wrote back was; good maybe he will have a heart attach. I didn't know because my wife just told me about it.

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Just now, Slimming Down Steve said:

She asked my wife on Fb 12/31 at night how my pain level was? My wife said it was excruciating to watch me that much in pain. All my mother wrote back was; good maybe he will have a heart attach. I didn't know because my wife just told me about it.

I guess she is trying to stress me out, she has always been a bitter woman. That's why I live in TN. and she lives in Florida.

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Maybe you should also block her texts? You have made a move to better yourself and your health and it sounds like she is jealous. I am sorry that she is being this way.

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8 minutes ago, Krimsonbutterflies said:

Is your relationship with your mother/family toxic? My apologies for any pain this may be causing you, geesh.

I am the only white sheep in the whole damned lot of them. If they want to talk then I listened. But it's never been toxic till now that I'm already the thinnest person in the whole family.

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Just now, Slimming Down Steve said:

She asked my wife on Fb 12/31 at night how my pain level was? My wife said it was excruciating to watch me that much in pain. All my mother wrote back was; good maybe he will have a heart attach. I didn't know because my wife just told me about it.

I commend you for your kindness and having a HUGE HEART for still wanting her in your life and around your family. You obviously have a great calling on your life and accomplished a lot in spite of everything you have been through.

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Just now, Lynda486 said:

Maybe you should also block her texts? You have made a move to better yourself and your health and it sounds like she is jealous. I am sorry that she is being this way.

She is definitely jealous. If one of her sisters got a new husband then my mother would make sure she screwed the guy. Sisters are the same way.

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Easier said than done because they aren't my family, but wish them to the corn fields. I don't deal with my mother's daughter since the day of our mother's funeral 6 years ago, life has never been more peaceful.

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HOLLY **** !!!!so sorry man that sucks so bad my mother is my biggest advocate during this process and my journey no one deserves to be treated like that im flabbergasted by this we are all here and we listen pretty well

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