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We have 2 meetings each week: Sunday night at 7:30pm CST and Thursday night at 7pm CST. It covers the topic from different angles. This week's topic is Diffusing Anxiety. Practical tips for reducing anxiety and stress in your daily life and how it affects weight loss efforts.

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19 hours ago, clk said:

I'm not active much anymore but always want to chime in on slow loss threads because I SO related during my loss phase. I averaged 6 pounds a month and had one double-digit month (month one, 11 pounds). It took me a year and a half to lose 107 pounds.

But - big BUT! I've kept it off for 9.5 years pretty effortlessly. That slower loss gives you extra time to work on the head side of weight loss. By the time I got to goal eating everything in moderation was just so natural to me that I never stopped and developed another food issue in maintenance. It's hard, but view this "extra" time as a blessing. Your body will have more time to adapt to weight loss, new habits, and new ideas before you enter the maintenance phase.

And don't be in a rush to enter maintenance! In hindsight, I can say maintenance is the more challenging part. It's accountability, it's strengthening those new habits, and it's for the rest of your life.

Cheri

Thanks so much for this post!! This is how I have been looking at this phase- yes it is frustrating but it is giving me the opportunity to work on my exercise which has resulted in building muscle and toning up as I lose and very little loose skin. 🙂

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5 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

Yes. :) But in all honesty, you can choose to share your video feed or not. :) And it is password protected and private. And we do have a confidentiality rule in the group...what happens in group stays in group. :D

It seems so weird to actually “meet” peeps from here!

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Just now, Cheeseburgh said:

It seems so weird to actually “meet” peeps from here!

Had exact same thought...ended up quickly feeling...hard to put into words.. but like I somehow was 'familiar' with everyone...not the 'new' feeling I usually get...maybe it is the shared journey that made it feel comfortable?

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1 minute ago, Cheeseburgh said:

It seems so weird to actually “meet” peeps from here!

IKR!? But it's SO much fun! @Healthy_life2 and I now have morning coffee together sometimes...sans make-up or bras! Wha Whah????!!! Now that's bonding! :)

And OMG I have adored meeting each and every one of my B Pals!!! This is NOT meant to replace BP OR your professionals. It's just another leg in your support network! :D Winner winner chicken breast dinnah! And it's too dang fun!

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2 minutes ago, KarenLR75 said:

Had exact same thought...ended up quickly feeling...hard to put into words.. but like I somehow was 'familiar' with everyone...not the 'new' feeling I usually get...maybe it is the shared journey that made it feel comfortable?

OMG! IKR? It's so surreal!!!! I adore it!! Don't you @KarenLR75?! It's like...um the best of both worlds like RL Support Group without the fight in traffic!!!

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2 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

OMG! IKR? It's so surreal!!!! I adore it!! Don't you @KarenLR75?! It's like...um the best of both worlds like RL Support Group without the fight in traffic!!!

I do love it...and YAY for no traffic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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It was really nice seeing actual humans behind the names!

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I know the feeling I had my sleeve on June 2019 and I’ve only lost 50lbs I don’t know what to do getting depressed.

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15 hours ago, Cheeseburgh said:

It was really nice seeing actual humans behind the names!

I feel the exact same way!!

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On 1/27/2020 at 12:31 PM, elegant1 said:

I know the feeling I had my sleeve on June 2019 and I’ve only lost 50lbs I don’t know what to do getting depressed.

Have you talked to your nutritionist/surgeon? Also, I think 50 lbs is AMAZING but I definitely 'get' it when you feel like you should have lost more. In working with the vets on here, they helped me figure out where my weight loss was really falling.

If you post information like what your eating plan (i.e. calories, macros like how many grams of carbs, Protein, fat, etc. your dr/nutritionist has given you as a goal) and what you are doing for exercise/activity, you will likely get some input..and if you are having issues sticking to the plan/or anything else you feel may or may not be contributing (in a good way or a bad way) to where you are at right now.

Again, 50 lbs is a nice number..but to give more input it would be helpful to have a bit more info, but I also understand if you were just needing to vent.

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Ugh. Well, I'm definitely starting to identify as a slow loser.

I'm pissed. I went through all that and after two weeks of only liquids, I only lost a few pounds. I don't understand. I'm compliant, I'm exercising at least one hour every day on the treadmill and I'm drinking way more than 64 ounces of Water a day.

It isn't fair. I'm only two weeks and one day out but I'm already thinking all this was for nothing.

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17 minutes ago, kc892020 said:

Ugh. Well, I'm definitely starting to identify as a slow loser.

I'm pissed. I went through all that and after two weeks of only liquids, I only lost a few pounds. I don't understand. I'm compliant, I'm exercising at least one hour every day on the treadmill and I'm drinking way more than 64 ounces of Water a day.

It isn't fair. I'm only two weeks and one day out but I'm already thinking all this was for nothing.

I understand the temptation and actually feeling that way..let's see you are 16 days out from surgery, is that correct?

I was...a bit stunned during my first month that barely anything happened (my DEFINITE interpretation at the time and the first 2 weeks weight loss was from all I had been given to understand and yes..comparing myself against others....was so so little.

I called my surgeon's office and talked to him and the nutritionist. They told me repeatedly something I had not seen here before (not that it might not have been said many times by others) but they told me DESPITE what I have found on many forums, they have done this for well more than a decade and that directly post-op, whether you were on IV fluids for 1 day, 2 days or more..or even NONE, that MANY people do not start hitting their body's full potential for weight loss until after they have HEALED which would be 6 weeks for RNY - unsure what it is for sleeve..maybe the same.

I, however, felt after haunting WLS forums for 3 years PRIOR to surgery, that while I knew my doctor was very good, they simply HAD TO BE WRONG....I mean...I read how many hundreds of post of all of these people losing at LEAST 10 lbs a month. I thought I was 'oh so careful' to only compare my weight loss against other women...around the same age...and who had additional metabolic challenges (whether it be from medications, illnesses, PCOS, thyroid, etc.).....so I thought sensibly...I'm not comparing myself against a 'young man' or even a young woman.

I finally quit looking at some of the posts, I sought out my surgery siblings more..the ones who had a slightly slower weight loss...I read some of the threads from the vets and basically white-knuckled my way thru month 1, month 2.

Flash forward to now...6 months out as of 3 days ago and I started posting on this thread. In working with some of the vets when I posted here, we have looked at my total weight loss since surgery and then averaged it out and my monthly weight loss at SIX MONTHS is 12.6 lbs a month! If you had told me in Months 1 or 2...like my poor doctor tried to tell me...that things would WORK THEMSELVES out if I just stuck to it, I'd be leery...and that indeed was what I was told. Ironically in week 8, 2 weeks after 'you are healed by now' date, my weight loss kicked up higher.

Some of my fellow siblings or ppl who had surgery in the late summer, early fall...the ones who lost a lot in month 1, oh how i remember that month, are starting to slow down a bit (nothing to be worried about)...some are now hitting 10 lbs a month consistently (and hey, I literally AM losing roughly 12 lbs a month and that is NOT with just averaging).

Please hang in there...be kind to yourself and your body...it is literally still healing. The surgery is a big one and your body has been shaken up. You are a rockstar with the working out! I truly admire that. If you hang in there, the weight will come off and it won't remain in single digits.

If it helps, even though you are on liquids, post what you are drinking, overall calories, etc. but again, the first month after surgery is really really rough on your body even if you feel 'ok'. My calories for the first month were 450 or less..some days 100, some days 200-250. Your body has to settle itself out so some of us do not see that gigantic loss in the first month and we think it is for nothing. It WILL COME OFF. With your level of exercise, and knowing what month 1 is like...I promise it WILL COME OFF if you are working your plan.

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