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ok so i feel more self conscious of taking my shirt off in public now than when i weighed 346 , dont feel as i dont know how to put it

the loose skin is bothersome to say the least i would not want to be back where i was by no means just see if any one else was feeling that way as well ?

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Time to consider cosmetic surgery. Be very proud of your accomplishment. I am looking forward when I have to figure out those next steps but still have a ways to go.

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thanks guys some times old habbits and fears of what other think do creep back and haunt me i can almost feel when im slipping into some kind of funk now and try to avoid it or push through it still gets me some times

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I did feel a bit self conscious when the summer started, by the end it did not phase me much. I see my skin as a badge of honor, a reminder of where I was, where I am and with the correct decisions where I'm going.

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23 hours ago, nenes78 said:

I did feel a bit self conscious when the summer started, by the end it did not phase me much. I see my skin as a badge of honor, a reminder of where I was, where I am and with the correct decisions where I'm going.

i agree in most states i feel i have accomplished so much yet the fat guy still creeps back in and says no one wants to see that we all have our demons i guess do any of you guys still see the same person you were before? sometimes i cant see the changes still and i am way past goal this is just my head messing with me maybe and i feel like i cant be the only one then again ? thanks for reading this sometimes i just have to say it so it gets out of my head and i get some feed back from others to enlighten me

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I feel you 100%. Its like the the whole Bruce Banner/Hulk or Dr.Jekel/Mr Hyde dilemma. What I have to tell myself is there is no Fat/Thin me, it's just me. We are our own harshest judge. It will take time to process.

My Surgeon told me bariatric surgery is being performed on the wrong organ, it should be on the brain not the stomach. It is difficult for us to comprehend in our mind the changes that happen quickly, it took us years of our lives to gain and maintain a heavy weight and literally lost it all in months.

Funny thing is after almost 18 months for me, people around me forgot the Big Guy. My own kids were looking at pictures from a couple years back and said "Dad I don't remember you being that big". It's like the only person that remembers him is me.

And I agree, these forums do help. I go to my local support group through my insurance, we have weekly meetings and it really helps. I have been going since I was cleared to go back to work. I find it as me time, and a place I can go and talk to people that relate to my situation. If you have a local support group for Bariatric patients I highly recommend going. If you don't maybe finding others locally starting one.

Stick to it, you are doing fantastic 👍

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I hear ya! I was the same way but I had to say f@ck it! It was my battle scar before I had my TT 11 weeks ago.

HW = 360
SW = 292
GW = 220 reached 3/7/18
CW = 210 @ 6'5"
150 pounds lost!

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It's definitely a mental process

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@336Mike how much was your TT and how was the recovery from that compared to the bariatric surgery?

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[mention=328457]336Mike[/mention] how much was your TT and how was the recovery from that compared to the bariatric surgery?


@Brent701 It was around $8700 for the FDL TT. The recovery pain wise was about the same - minimal, I have a high pain tolerance - but way longer. You really can overdo it then it catches up to you with soreness, swelling and lots of Fluid drainage. Definitely worth it though.

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Check on your insurance. Some will pay for surgery if it is causing problems, such as chafing and it is hanging low enough.

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