Don’t want to leave my house.

[MarvelGirl25 2,168]

12 hours ago, gabybab said:

This story could have been about me. Today I love to go out, even to eat. I can sit in a booth now and I have extra room. I don't feel like people are staring at me. I still have a long way to go, but 69 pounds has broken me out of my shell!

Good luck to you on your journey!

Ahhh yes the stares. I feel like people are staring at me all the time. I'm paranoid when I go out. Its sooo bad.

[FluffyChix 17,409]

14 minutes ago, MarvelGirl25 said:

Ahhh yes the stares. I feel like people are staring at me all the time. I'm paranoid when I go out. Its sooo bad.

It gets better. Swearsies! ((hugs)) I can relate.

[New&Improved 1,780]

This is exactly why I have invested in an exercise bike because do not want to be gorked at in the gym lol

[MarvelGirl25 2,168]

2 hours ago, Mikeyy said:

This is exactly why I have invested in an exercise bike because do not want to be gorked at in the gym lol

Yea I bought an elliptical to avoid the gym until I feel comfortable. Baby steps ...

[ypease 177]

I retired 3 yrs ago and since I didn't have to go to work anymore, I had become even more reclusive. We own a home, and I garden....only in my back yard. We have a fenced in back yard, so I wasn't visible. My front yard is all hedges and plants that only need to be maintained annually. I was only going out, only about 1 time a week, and then only if I had too.

That crap has started to change already! I realize that I have to fix my thinking about weight and body image as well as my eating. Since I have a surgery date of 10/1, I have begun to get out like other folks do. Heck! I went to the bank yesterday instead of just using the mobile app! I need to get up, get out and get around as activity will be part of my success after I have surgery. You know what I realized? I love Walmart! I saw a lot of people there over the weekend just like me!!!! Who knew?!?

[mommy_vsg 15]

I definitely know how you feel! As I gained weight I stopped taking care of myself. I stopped doing my hair, dressing up, putting on makeup, and avoided going out unless I had to or if my husband wanted me to go somewhere with him. I felt really self conscious and embarrassed with how I looked and felt like I was the fat girl that everyone stared at and I hated it. Then I got depressed because of my weight and gained even more weight on top of that lol.

Thankfully as I started losing weight I’m started to get back a lot of confidence and find myself wanting to be out more and active. I still have my moments tho, but it’s getting better. Hang in there ❤️

[Frustr8 7,886]

I remember Richard Burton, the Actor, saying He was innately painfully shy but nobody believed him. He was such a Good Actor he donned a Facade and nobody knew the Real Richard inside. This has some + but a Whole Lot of - and that was difficult to constantly maintain.
What might look like slothful laziness to others might be "You being Kind to You", nobody can blaze forth on all burners without getting a little singed yourself. And in the long run, YOU were not. put on this 🌎 Earth just to pleases others but to live, love, appreciate and respect YOU, when all else fades, How Did You Treat You? Have I always been this bright? Nope, spent years and years, from my parents who werent sure a daughter was a Good Idea, through a husband who thought I should only be an extension of HIM and unto children , at least 1 of the 3 , did and still takes Me for granted, oh I was an Handy Doormat for everyone to Wipe their feet on, not until my Bariatric decision, where I said ITS TIME FOR ME, after the parents and my husband the Late Lamented had died, the children had acheived Adulthood, did I take the time to Believe in ME, that I deserved a chance to LIVE instead of dying OBESE, SAD and in PAIN. And when I finally grew up into Real Person-hood I have been accused of being strident, well maybe I am making up for years and years of being Victorine the Victim--- I am a Thinner Resilent Winner and I'm Living with a new-Found Gusto, had their opportunity to KILL ME, didn't and they'll need to just live with it NOW!

[dreddy 3]

Hello. I’m new to all this and only a few days away from my surgery. The moment this all started – – the preop stuff – – I started feeling much heavier. There has to be something psychological about it. I even went to a counselor because I suddenly felt heavier than I’ve ever been in my lifeAlthough my physical form has not changed. It has made the days leading up to the surgery absolute agony in that I cannot wait to get this done. What an amazing experience and I hope our journeys are both positive and ultimately successful. Good luck

[djgirl19 276]

07/21/2019 04:30 PM, AnnieD78 said:

So... this is kinda personal. But I’m wondering if prior to surgery anyone had this same feeling. With the size I have gotten, I don’t want to go anywhere or do anything on the weekends. I go to work 5 days a week and I’m visible and walking around all over there. But then the weekend comes and all I want to do is lay on the couch. And it’s even easier to be a shut in now that I can just have my groceries delivered. It’s a combination of not having the energy and being ashamed and just... not caring to do anything. My surgery is August 12 and it’s like this beacon in my life. I hope when I lose weight that I will want to go out and be seen and DO THINGS.

I relate to this 100 percent. I felt the same way. I’m almost 2 months out from VSG and I will tell you I already feel so much better. I have lots more to go but am down over 50 pounds from where I started and have so much more energy. I love that I can stay busy most of the day and not worry at all about what I’m going to eat next.
My experience for the most part has been all positive and I’m excited for you to join us on this side😊

[zombieskayer 84]

I felt that for sure prior to surgery. I hated going out and my husband would drag me to hang out with friends and I would be miserable the entire time. Post op I had it a little bit because i felt crappy after surgery (sore, tired of the liquid diet) and I didn't go out often. But once I started feeling a little better (maybe 3 weeks post op?) I started really enjoying going out. I felt better in general and people I knew would make comments saying I looked smaller or happier and that really boosted my confidence.

[apiane 174]

@MarvelGirl25 We're surgery twins! I'm getting so nervous but so excited!

[MarvelGirl25 2,168]

39 minutes ago, apiane said:

@MarvelGirl25 We're surgery twins! I'm getting so nervous but so excited!

Yessss me too!! I still have so much to do before the surgery but I cant stop thinking about it! I'm ready for this change. We got this ❤️

[Chiptress 327]

On 07/21/2019 at 16:30, AnnieD78 said:

So... this is kinda personal. But I’m wondering if prior to surgery anyone had this same feeling. With the size I have gotten, I don’t want to go anywhere or do anything on the weekends. I go to work 5 days a week and I’m visible and walking around all over there. But then the weekend comes and all I want to do is lay on the couch. And it’s even easier to be a shut in now that I can just have my groceries delivered. It’s a combination of not having the energy and being ashamed and just... not caring to do anything. My surgery is August 12 and it’s like this beacon in my life. I hope when I lose weight that I will want to go out and be seen and DO THINGS.

I am soo glad that you wrote this. I’m exactly the same way. I’m at my highest weight & just feel disgusting. We were boaters & my summers were always outside & active. This summer I’ve been to the pool 2x compared to last summer 4-5x week. I’m holding on to 8/12/19 because that’s my date too so we’re twins!!!