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Hi all, newbie here. I'm due for bypass surgery in september. I was wondering how you dealt with the lead up? Did you have support from friends and family? If not how did you manage that? I've found all friends and family supported the idea but now it's become reality it's been very different. I'm very much on my own and frankly, bricking it

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Hi all, newbie here. I'm due for bypass surgery in september. I was wondering how you dealt with the lead up? Did you have support from friends and family? If not how did you manage that? I've found all friends and family supported the idea but now it's become reality it's been very different. I'm very much on my own and frankly, bricking it
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Sorry to hear about the loss of your support team but this forum has amazing ppl that are more than willing to cheer you on and cheer you up when needed.
Just one day at a time and listen to your Dr and nutritionist aka NUT for short.
My name is Allie in SC and am more than happy to be on your support team. My cellphone number is 803 665 0931 you can text me any time I ck.messages frequently.
I am having RNY revision surgery on July 16th. So I will be ck.messages periodically after the surgery.
Let me know if I can help you.
Allie


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Sorry to hear about the loss of your support team but this forum has amazing ppl that are more than willing to cheer you on and cheer you up when needed.
Just one day at a time and listen to your Dr and nutritionist aka NUT for short.
My name is Allie in SC and am more than happy to be on your support team. My cellphone number is 803 665 0931 you can text me any time I ck.messages frequently.
I am having RNY revision surgery on July 16th. So I will be ck.messages periodically after the surgery.
Let me know if I can help you.
Allie


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Hi Allie,
Thank you for your kind words.
I'm actually UK based, I found the app whilst looking for some support forums.
I dont know if there are many differences with the process between US and UK.
Wishing you well with the revision surgery [emoji4]

Astrid

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Lucky for me I've been on my own since I left home at 15.. Sure I have familyand friends but don't rely on anyone.

I've learnt to be strong to only rely on yourself and of course you can ask ppl for support or to talk to but at the end of the day this is your life.. Nobody else's!!!

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When I had my sleeve in 2013 my dad was reluctantly supportive. He wouldn’t tell me not to but he was pretty concerned. Once he saw how well I did after he was very supportive. He then supported my mom through her RnY and me when I had my revision. I think fear often drives our support people.

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Glad things finally went,right for your family!-😝 Best Wishes to your Mom and also for you.

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Lucky for me I've been on my own since I left home at 15.. Sure I have familyand friends but don't rely on anyone.
I've learnt to be strong to only rely on yourself and of course you can ask ppl for support or to talk to but at the end of the day this is your life.. Nobody else's!!!
Its sad that you and so many others feel like that but you're right on both counts. I've always been fiercely independent, perhaps that trait has come back to bite me on the butt! Lol.

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When I had my sleeve in 2013 my dad was reluctantly supportive. He wouldn’t tell me not to but he was pretty concerned. Once he saw how well I did after he was very supportive. He then supported my mom through her RnY and me when I had my revision. I think fear often drives our support people.
I agree. My mum has a fear of hospitals and surgery so the fear factor is probably spot on. How has your mum got on with RnY? I thought I was decided on that but I'm now toying with the sleeve. Im getting cold feet regarding the 'replumbing' of the intestine. My surgeon has said if I change my mind it fine aslong as it's not last minute.
Silly question, but when you say revision is that another OP for something else?

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Hi Allie,
Thank you for your kind words.
I'm actually UK based, I found the app whilst looking for some support forums.
I dont know if there are many differences with the process between US and UK.
Wishing you well with the revision surgery

Astrid

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Hi Astrid,
I'm not sure what the difference between UK and US is either lol.
Anyway good luck with your journey as well and I think that while being independent is great like Mikey but it's nice to have some go to ppl that you know can relate to what you are going through.
My revision surgery from sleeve to RNY is due to the reflux getting worse than it was before I had sleeve surgery.
Although it's more surgery and a harder surgery according to my gastrointestinal doctor and my surgeon, it's apparently the only hope I have to fix the severe GERD (reflux disease).
I'm so glad I have only 11 days to go but wound up at the Urgent care yesterday with 101.2 temperature due to a ear infection and am getting a summer cold.
So I am now on a ZPak of antibiotics and cold medicine trying to kick it before surgery.
I am not about to reschedule if I can do anything fo avoid it.
Have a great weekend.
Allie

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Hi Astrid,
I'm not sure what the difference between UK and US is either lol.
Anyway good luck with your journey as well and I think that while being independent is great like Mikey but it's nice to have some go to ppl that you know can relate to what you are going through.
My revision surgery from sleeve to RNY is due to the reflux getting worse than it was before I had sleeve surgery.
Although it's more surgery and a harder surgery according to my gastrointestinal doctor and my surgeon, it's apparently the only hope I have to fix the severe GERD (reflux disease).
I'm so glad I have only 11 days to go but wound up at the Urgent care yesterday with 101.2 temperature due to a ear infection and am getting a summer cold.
So I am now on a ZPak of antibiotics and cold medicine trying to kick it before surgery.
I am not about to reschedule if I can do anything fo avoid it.
Have a great weekend.
Allie

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Thank you.
I've been reading through alot of the forums on here and found it really helpful.
I know hospitals work differently here between counties too but they strongly advise against the sleeve if there is a past history of reflux where I'm at. Its interesting how drs and hospitals differ.
Sending well wishes your way, a speedy recovery and good luck with the revision
If you are happy to, let me know how you get on with it all.
You have a good weekend too.

Astrid

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I had gastric bypass in Canada almost 2 weeks ago. RNY was suggested as opposed to sleeve in part because I already had reflux.

I was referred a year and only told 4 people: my husband, and 3 people that are part of my life that I thought would be most supportive. Two were, and one wasn’t at all. I just stopped about the surgery to the one that wasn’t supportive and still haven’t told her that I’ve had it, even though I see her every day (she’s my next door neighbour). I waited until about a week before I started my pre-surgery Optifast diet to tell anyone else, and even then I only told people that I felt would need to make changes to support me (my parents, my brother, my boss, a colleague I was travelling with during the optifast phase).

I really wanted the decision to be mine and based on all the research I had taken the time to do. I really didn’t want ANYONE influencing my decision as to whether to go ahead with the surgery or not, so I was careful about who I told, how I told them, and what I told them about the support I wanted/needed from each.

I also had cold feet the days leading up to the surgery but I was also so committed to the optifast diet and I also knew I made the best decision for me and my health and future. I trusted myself and knew that I could count on knowing I had made a wise, informed, thoughtful decision, and that I didn’t need to give in to some natural and to-be-expected pre-surgery anxiety.

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Thank you.
I've been reading through alot of the forums on here and found it really helpful.
I know hospitals work differently here between counties too but they strongly advise against the sleeve if there is a past history of reflux where I'm at. Its interesting how drs and hospitals differ.
Sending well wishes your way, a speedy recovery and good luck with the revision
If you are happy to, let me know how you get on with it all.
You have a good weekend too.

Astrid

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Yeah my surgeon knew I had reflux but said he thought sleeve surgery was the best thing for me. Ummm no, he could not of been more wrong.
But I know that anyone else who has it should never choose sleeve surgery because what I have discovered is that the acids have nowhere to go but back up.
With the RNY revision surgery they bypass the small intestine so the acids and foods can't go back up.
Im only 8 days from the surgery now.
I will post after my surgery.
Good luck
Allie

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Hello Astrid, I'm new too and my surgery is in September also. My family is not all on board with my surgery. I did bringing my mother to my 2nd consult and had my husband on speaker phone. When they heard the doctor talk about how this operation would help some major health issues they see the logic. My mother gets scared when I measure my food and does not think it's enough. I am not even telling my son because he thinks I can lose weight with diet and exercise. It's not just about weight ... it's about being healthy. I would love to have RNY buddy.

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On 7/4/2019 at 9:33 PM, Astrid05 said:

Hi Allie,
Thank you for your kind words.
I'm actually UK based, I found the app whilst looking for some support forums.
I dont know if there are many differences with the process between US and UK.

Im European based as well and even though my surgery has been covered by the public health care system, the information hasnt been quite as detailed as that from the States. But like many have already pointed out..this forum is great for support and filling in the blanks when we all have questions (or just want to rant about our bariatric life).

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Hey Krestel,

Have you had surgery yet?

I'm having RNY revision surgery on July 16th and can't wait for it to be done. My reflux is so much worse than it was before I had sleeve surgery on October 25th 2016 .

Hopefully you are doing great.

Have an awesome day.

Allie in SC (South Carolina)

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