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I’m currently 3 days out of gastric sleeve surgery and having extreme buyers remorse. Why did I do this? The pain is unbearable without meds. I cant drink anything without pain. It hurts to breath. I feel like I’m gonna die if I don’t eat because they push the fact that you need to eat every 15mins. So if I don’t eat will I die? I had to travel 8 hours to get my “day” surgery. I ended up back in the hospital the day I was released because I was vomiting everything I injested. I’m heading home tomorrow and because I was told to walk a lot my trip will now take 12 plus hours. Oh and I have no desire to eat or drink anything.

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The first week is the hardest, but it gets better. Don't focus on now. Focus on the difference you'll see in a month, in a year, in 5 years. Worry about fluids first. food is definitely secondary. None of us are going to starve in a week. ((HUG)) and I hope your travel goes well.

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Good news, you won't die if you don't eat for a few days. For now, I would just try to get home, drink as much clear liquid as you can, different temperatures might help, take your pain meds, and don't worry about the bigger picture. You'll likely feel a lot better in a week. Good luck!

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I’m currently 3 days out of gastric sleeve surgery and having extreme buyers remorse. Why did I do this? The pain is unbearable without meds. I cant drink anything without pain. It hurts to breath. I feel like I’m gonna die if I don’t eat because they push the fact that you need to eat every 15mins. So if I don’t eat will I die? I had to travel 8 hours to get my “day” surgery. I ended up back in the hospital the day I was released because I was vomiting everything I injested. I’m heading home tomorrow and because I was told to walk a lot my trip will now take 12 plus hours. Oh and I have no desire to eat or drink anything.
Just think about the future. A little pain for alot of gain!!! Just take little sips. I hurt for a week and even when I drank Water it hurt. I had my sleeve done on dec 26th and I'm on the pureed stage. But 5 days out of surgery I was eating a scrambled egg cause I couldn't handle the Protein Shakes. Everyone is different. Everyone heals on their own pace. We will all get through this. This is a great site to connect with others who are going through what you are going through. Keep up the good work.

Jeannine [emoji8]

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Sorry you are having such a tough time. This is certainly a hard road to travel especially in the first week or so. I felt like you in the beginning. Ended up dehydrated and needing fluids pumped in me. I never thought things would turn around and I was so angry. Fast forward 4 mos, after having lost 50 lbs, and the weight loss alone makes me feel so much better physically and mentally. But I will admit that I still throw up sometimes and I still struggle with the mental aspect of this journey. I get angry sometimes because I just want to eat the way I used to. I'm a continued work in progress. Hang in there. Read the posts on this site and you'll see that it really does get better over time.

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The first week is the hardest EVERYONE has regrets your not the only one. Push through stay positive it does get better.

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Hey there. Sorry you’re going through a rough time. It WILL get better! We’re all here for you! Fluids first. Take your pain meds. Each day it will get a little better......

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OMG same thing for me. The first 3 days were the WORST for me! The gas pains had me at a "pain level 9!" I am now 9 days post op and I will say- it DOES get better!!!! I am now able to get in all my meds, my Protein Drinks, my "other" liquids, and exercise. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Trust me, I was ready to give up those first 3 days.

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The first week is the worst. I only sucked on ice chips the first week. Everything was painful and I could not take pain meds because they would come back up. The second week I lived on ice chips, popsicles and warm chicken broth. For some reason Water was too painful. By the 3rd week, I think the swelling went down and I was finally able to drink water. Just keep an eye on your Fluid intake. If you notice you are getting dehydrated call your surgeon. I no longer have buyers remorse.

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I don't think anyone can go through a surgery like this without having some discomfort. The pain will go away in a couple of days. I was lucky that the gas wasn't too terrible for me--I expected it to be terrible, but it was only mildly bothersome. I walked a LOT and took my gas-ex chewables and that helped tremendously. For me, surgical pain was no big deal and I was able to eat and drink without any issues with relative ease. However, I developed a respiratory infection a few days after surgery and there's nothing like a hacking cough after stomach surgery!!! I had level 10 pain every time I coughed (which was every minute or two). I also have had a chronic sore throat (feels like bad strep, but it's not) for the past two weeks. I am seeing my surgeon next week and it's probably GERD. So, we all have our crosses to bare!!

I can't say this has been a picnic for me, but I have NO regrets. I am down 17 pounds since the day surgery (12/17) and 28.5 pounds since I started my pre-op diet (12/3). I lost 6 inches on my waist since the day of surgery!!! My blood glucose levels when I wake up (which were always over 125 before surgery) are now in the normal range (79-102) for the past two weeks. I was taken off most of my meds when (except MetFormin) when I left the hospital and, yesterday, my PCP took me off the MetFormin--so I am not on any diabetes meds!!! That's huge!!! I still have high blood pressure, but I am hopeful I can get off blood pressure meds as I lose more weight and exercise etc. Plus, I had issues with my ankle after I severely sprained it last year. After losing 30 pounds, the ankle is 80% better---and I bet it will be 100% better with some more time (and more weight loss). That will save me orthopedic surgery!!

Bottom line is there's always a price to pay when you need to correct something like morbid obesity (and it's co-morbidities). For me, some short term pain and a little GERD is well worth the price of getting my T2DM into remission (hopefully)! When you're struggling in the beginning (like we have), you have to keep your eye on the big picture. You're not going to really remember the pain a year from now, when you look and feel great.

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