Surgery and Divorce - Advice!?

[GreenTealael 24,852]

39 minutes ago, jesseycakes said:

Freeze a Protein Shake and pretend it's ice cream!!! You don't need that jerk, you are going to move on and find someone who loves the whole package. 😍 My ex told me I was getting too fat (right after having a baby!) and he left me. Best damn thing that could have ever happened!

4 hours ago, Skc150 said:

6 months ago I decided with the support of my husband to start the long insurance approval process for gastric sleeve surgery.

5 months so my husband of 12 years informed me he was no longer attracted to me didn't think the surgery would work, and wanted a divorce so he could "live his true life."

The last few months have been unreal but I decided to go forward with the surgery even though most everyone recommended postponing it. I had the surgery last Tuesday (12/11) and my divorce was finalized today (12/17).

All I want to do is eat ice cream and drink wine, but since that is obviously no longer on the menu, does anyone have some advice for how I can get through the next 24 hours? Drowning my sorrows in Gatorade and chicken broth is not cutting it!

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I'm so tired of jerks...

[Kay07 734]

1 hour ago, GreenTealael said:

I'm so tired of jerks...

NOT gonna lie... I was thinking along this line. F him and his horse. I'd use it as motivation to get even hotter and watch him choke on his tongue. And sleep with his friend. Cuz yeah.

[GreenTealael 24,852]

26 minutes ago, Kay07 said:

NOT gonna lie... I was thinking along this line. F him and his horse. I'd use it as motivation to get even hotter and watch him choke on his tongue. And sleep with his friend. Cuz yeah.

So we are forming a Justice League,

I heard...

Edited December 18, 2018 by GreenTealael

[LadySin 404]

I don't know how much he weighed sis but it sounds to me you've just dropped a **** ton of excess weight in only 7 days after surgery! Time to celebrate!

[ummyasmin 1,603]

Oh cripes. I'm sorry to hear, what a sucky thing to do. But this gives you a chance to concentrate on your own health and wellbeing, rather than putting energy into a soured relationship.
I hope every pound you lose feels like an even bigger victory.
Here's to much better things for you about to come into your life!

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[Skc150 28]

20 hours ago, jesseycakes said:

Freeze a Protein Shake and pretend it's ice cream!!! You don't need that jerk, you are going to move on and find someone who loves the whole package. 😍 My ex told me I was getting too fat (right after having a baby!) and he left me. Best damn thing that could have ever happened!

Love the ice cream idea and I so needed to hear this right now - thank you!

[Skc150 28]

You ladies are the best - thank you so much! Reading your replies have lifted my spirits more than you know. I now know to freeze Protein Shakes for ice cream, practice what to say when he comes crawling back after seeing that this WILL work damn it!, and pick one of his friends to sleep with!

Edited December 18, 2018 by Skc150

[Myhorseisfattoo 387]

Well that sucks! And is clearly his loss, as you are also CLEARLY a strong, kick-ass woman who just scoffed at him trying to emotionally undermine you and went for it anyway. This way, the next guy gets fresh, gorgeous you!!!!

Seriously tho - not to make light of a horrible situation, but I hope you can see who the winning, beautiful soul in this scenario is!!!!!!!

[frankt04 80]

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

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[jesseycakes 103]

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

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That sounds like she had some issues. Nothing you could have done. If you weren't skinny it wouldhave been because you were big. I hope you know that you deserve better, too!

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[ummyasmin 1,603]

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

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Oh dude, I'm sorry. You must be feeling all the feels. May you receive better!!

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[elcee 3,340]

9 minutes ago, frankt04 said:

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

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There is a certain point in the relationship when the thing that should attract a partner most is their personality and mind not their looks. We all age, get wrinkles, saggy bits etc. Some of us gain weight, others lose but inside it is still the person that you loved.

It's sad when a person forgets that

[GreenTealael 24,852]

57 minutes ago, frankt04 said:

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

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Now I'm mad.

[Lucyelle 16]

Knit

[Myhorseisfattoo 387]

12 hours ago, frankt04 said:

23yr relationship. Im now 42, i cook every night, flowers weekly, love and adore my wife more every day. Found out she has had multiple online affairs and now wants a divorce, “I’m just not attracted to skinny guys” she said. Ouch. So its a human thing not just a man thing.

We have a 9 and 2 year old.

Biggest 440lbs
Day of surgery 404lbs
Today 205lbs

Ugh. What a crock of crap. As if attraction is all there is at this age!

Can I just tell you that if I had a man that paid as much attention to me as you seem to do for your wife, I'd be so freaking in love and happy I'd never leave? You could look like a troll and have 16 toes and I would love you from my soul. THAT is love. Look for it next time!