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So I've been chugging on through these pre-op diet days. I'm in day 7 and all of a sudden, I feel emotional. Sad, anxious. I think it may be a bit of PMS but I also imagine it has something to do with change in diet. Believe me, I'm motivated with my eyes on the prize, RNY scheduled for 11/28. But this sad feeling came from nowhere. Anyone else deal with some emotions during the pre-op diet phase?

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44 minutes ago, irol888 said:

So I've been chugging on through these pre-op diet days. I'm in day 7 and all of a sudden, I feel emotional. Sad, anxious. I think it may be a bit of PMS but I also imagine it has something to do with change in diet. Believe me, I'm motivated with my eyes on the prize, RNY scheduled for 11/28. But this sad feeling came from nowhere. Anyone else deal with some emotions during the pre-op diet phase?

Yup, and they can be quite powerful. Just keep yourself focused on all the reasons why you wanted the surgery. You will more than likely have a few more instances pre-op... and then post-op. It's really just the stress of the whole ordeal taking it's toll. Sounds like you've got a good grasp on reality vs emotional distraction. Congrats and Good Luck!

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Hi well I'm starting a new journey also. 9 years ago I had a lap band and 11/13 I had that removed. I am scheduled for bypass in Feb. after the healing. After all this you would think that I would not be apprehensive NOT TRUE. The lap band was a horrible failure. I have kept off between 40 and 50 pounds over the years, but I am still morbidly obese. I have had had that title most of my 66 years. What was funny when they took me into surgery and I moved over to the operating table I looked up and saw the robotic stuff and thought "What the Hell am I doing here, just get up and go home". However I am in for the long haul and talked myself down off the cliff. I know I will not fail this time. I am motivated, I can diet, and I can lose weight these things I know. The unknown is how do I incorporate this new tool (gastric bypass) to really improve my life. Like so many others I know I will learn and this time really succeed. God Bless You and I will Pray for you. Stay in touch and let me know all the ins and outs and maybe we can support each other. Wanda

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It's a BIG DEAL for our minds, bodies and spirits to process this journey. I went up and down particularly immediately before and after the actual surgery but I keep telling myself on a bad day that statistically-speaking, tomorrow is likely to be better (my daughter hates it when I say that). Be kind to yourself if you're having A Moment. Try and find something pleasurable to do (read a book, take a bath, stare at the birdies out the window). With hardship comes ease.

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20 hours ago, Matt Z said:

Yup, and they can be quite powerful. Just keep yourself focused on all the reasons why you wanted the surgery. You will more than likely have a few more instances pre-op... and then post-op. It's really just the stress of the whole ordeal taking it's toll. Sounds like you've got a good grasp on reality vs emotional distraction. Congrats and Good Luck!

Thank you for your wisdom Matt! I actually let myself cry for a few minutes, dried my eyes and then said out loud "You are strong and you can do this". Amazing when you say it out loud. Seems to let your head and heart really hear it.

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16 hours ago, wanda1952 said:

Hi well I'm starting a new journey also. 9 years ago I had a lap band and 11/13 I had that removed. I am scheduled for bypass in Feb. after the healing. After all this you would think that I would not be apprehensive NOT TRUE. The lap band was a horrible failure. I have kept off between 40 and 50 pounds over the years, but I am still morbidly obese. I have had had that title most of my 66 years. What was funny when they took me into surgery and I moved over to the operating table I looked up and saw the robotic stuff and thought "What the Hell am I doing here, just get up and go home". However I am in for the long haul and talked myself down off the cliff. I know I will not fail this time. I am motivated, I can diet, and I can lose weight these things I know. The unknown is how do I incorporate this new tool (gastric bypass) to really improve my life. Like so many others I know I will learn and this time really succeed. God Bless You and I will Pray for you. Stay in touch and let me know all the ins and outs and maybe we can support each other. Wanda

Let's keep each other motivated! We can do this!! I know another person that had issues with the lap band. But you have taken the step to do something right FOR YOU!! You are AMAZING!

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14 hours ago, ummyasmin said:

It's a BIG DEAL for our minds, bodies and spirits to process this journey. I went up and down particularly immediately before and after the actual surgery but I keep telling myself on a bad day that statistically-speaking, tomorrow is likely to be better (my daughter hates it when I say that). Be kind to yourself if you're having A Moment. Try and find something pleasurable to do (read a book, take a bath, stare at the birdies out the window). With hardship comes ease.

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Be kind to ourselves. I think that's the real key! Thank you!!

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16 minutes ago, irol888 said:

Let's keep each other motivated! We can do this!! I know another person that had issues with the lap band. But you have taken the step to do something right FOR YOU!! You are AMAZING!

Thank You I can really use a friend to travel with. My bypass will be done in Feb. I am really excited. My family has mixed feelings like this is another one of mom's nutty ideas. Someone asked me why now at 66 and I told them that my whole adult life I wanted to be a pole dancer and walked off. Really I want to feel better and know that I can accomplish something for myself.

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Love the pole dancer retort! Let me give you back one of my own. PCP(age<50) reading down checklist for physicals. So are you still Sexually Active?
Answer: No but I live in hope! Did you have someone in mind? ( Much as I normally dislike the thought of a Mercy F***) !
Thought Doctor Junior was going to choke! Should I have turned around and sweetly asked how His Were Hanging?👈😁👉

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PCP is less than 50 years old, mouthy little whelp! Oh well, he does have his uses at times! But I do call him" Junior" to his face when he gets ornery . Tomkitten (my son) calls him "Speedy Gonzales" because he zooms in and out of rooms like the cartoon mouse!

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And what he asked and got dropped from first message above "Are you still Sexually Active?"

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I had to lay down my rant about my mini emotional breakdown during the pre-op diet.

I have been taking my time to get ready for my pre and post op diet, since August. Buying some little things here and there to make sure I was completely stocked up. My surgery is not scheduled until 12/12/2018. I knew I would have to do the diet for 2 weeks before my surgery, so I had plenty of time to get everything together. One of the last things I purchased was my broth.< span> I decided to wait until around Thanksgiving to purchase it, thinking it may be on sale since it is a thanksgiving hot item.

A few days before Thanksgiving, I went to my local Wally world (I live within 10 miles of 2 Walmart superstores and a Walmart neighborhood Grocery Store) and picked up 2 boxes of the chicken broth and a bone beef broth. And stored it away I the pantry.

Fast forward to 11/24

I was required to begin the pre-op diet until 11/28. I decided to jumpstart my pre-op diet a few days early, just to give myself a few days to work any kinks out. For the first 3 days. I took in Protein Shakes for all 3 meals per day. But by the 4th day, I wanted something warm for dinner, because I was fighting off a cold.

Now by this day, I was definitely feeling the sugar and carb withdrawal. I was tired, cranky and had a little bit of brain fog. I decided that today I would have broth! I was super excited. I took my broths out of the cabinet, got my pot ready on the stove (yes, I was so excited I was going to heat it up on the stove to make me feel as if I was really preparing myself a grand meal). I opened the top, only to find the security seal was broken. I told myself “Okay no problem, I have 2 other boxes.” I proceeded to open the next box only to find the same thing. I looked at the last box and thought, “well this it, I will go back to the store tomorrow and get more.” I opened the 3rd box only to find the seal on it was also broken. I was furious! I collected myself and decided to take all 3 boxes back to the store, the only problem was I no longer had the receipt. Dag Nabit! By now I am thinking “Well just chalk it up and go to the store.” Now by this time, I am getting very hungry and I am ready to have my dinner.

I leave my home and head to one of the other Wally Worlds that are close to my home. I go to the store and purchased 2 new boxes of broth. I get home and open the first box…safety seal is broken! I open the second box and the safety seal is broke! WHAT, HOW AND WHO WOULD DO THAT TO BROTH! BROTH! By this time, I have broken down crying. I mean balling!

My poor husband hears me in the kitchen and comes in and asks what’s wrong, I just slide to the kitchen floor and through tears explain what happened and that I have nothing to take in for dinner but a shake, and I really wanted something warm on my stomach.

I sat there and cried for about 5 minutes while my husband looked in the cabinet to attempt to find something that I would be able to have for dinner. (eventually, he did but after my breakdown.)

I wondered if I was making the right decision to have the surgery. Never once did I even think of eating any of the other food that was in the kitchen or pantry. I was purely upset that I had now purchased 5 boxes of broth and they were all tainted. And Now I have to drink a cold shake.

Then I thought, you’re not crying about wanting the other foods you’re not supposed to eat during the pre-diet, your crying about the food you can normally have but can’t because of the broken protective seal!

Right then and there I knew I was committed, and I was making the right decision and could make it through this.

Thanks you for letting me share

Edited by newyearnewme2015

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I didn't know whether to laugh or cry at your story. Bless your heart and you are so brave having all of this done at the holiday. Your surgery date echoes your determination. My date for my revision is in Feb. not sure of exact day yet. I have decided to follow the Doctor recommendation and go with bypass. So many emotions crop up. Do it or don't do it. This is my second time around and I just pray that this is the right tool to help me. Please stay in touch and let me know how you are. Don't hold back anything after your surgery and let us know how you are doing.

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On 11/30/2018 at 9:33 AM, newyearnewme2015 said:

I had to lay down my rant about my mini emotional breakdown during the pre-op diet.

I have been taking my time to get ready for my pre and post op diet, since August. Buying some little things here and there to make sure I was completely stocked up. My surgery is not scheduled until 12/12/2018. I knew I would have to do the diet for 2 weeks before my surgery, so I had plenty of time to get everything together. One of the last things I purchased was my broth. I decided to wait until around Thanksgiving to purchase it, thinking it may be on sale since it is a thanksgiving hot item.

A few days before Thanksgiving, I went to my local Wally world (I live within 10 miles of 2 Walmart superstores and a Walmart neighborhood Grocery Store) and picked up 2 boxes of the chicken broth and a bone beef broth. And stored it away I the pantry.

Fast forward to 11/24

I was required to begin the pre-op diet until 11/28. I decided to jumpstart my pre-op diet a few days early, just to give myself a few days to work any kinks out. For the first 3 days. I took in Protein Shakes for all 3 meals per day. But by the 4th day, I wanted something warm for dinner, because I was fighting off a cold.

Now by this day, I was definitely feeling the sugar and carb withdrawal. I was tired, cranky and had a little bit of brain fog. I decided that today I would have broth! I was super excited. I took my broths out of the cabinet, got my pot ready on the stove (yes, I was so excited I was going to heat it up on the stove to make me feel as if I was really preparing myself a grand meal). I opened the top, only to find the security seal was broken. I told myself “Okay no problem, I have 2 other boxes.” I proceeded to open the next box only to find the same thing. I looked at the last box and thought, “well this it, I will go back to the store tomorrow and get more.” I opened the 3rd box only to find the seal on it was also broken. I was furious! I collected myself and decided to take all 3 boxes back to the store, the only problem was I no longer had the receipt. Dag Nabit! By now I am thinking “Well just chalk it up and go to the store.” Now by this time, I am getting very hungry and I am ready to have my dinner.< span>

I leave my home and head to one of the other Wally Worlds that are close to my home. I go to the store and purchased 2 new boxes of broth. I get home and open the first box…safety seal is broken! I open the second box and the safety seal is broke! WHAT, HOW AND WHO WOULD DO THAT TO BROTH! BROTH! By this time, I have broken down crying. I mean balling!

My poor husband hears me in the kitchen and comes in and asks what’s wrong, I just slide to the kitchen floor and through tears explain what happened and that I have nothing to take in for dinner but a shake, and I really wanted something warm on my stomach.

I sat there and cried for about 5 minutes while my husband looked in the cabinet to attempt to find something that I would be able to have for dinner. (eventually, he did but after my breakdown.)

I wondered if I was making the right decision to have the surgery. Never once did I even think of eating any of the other food that was in the kitchen or pantry. I was purely upset that I had now purchased 5 boxes of broth and they were all tainted. And Now I have to drink a cold shake.< span>

Then I thought, you’re not crying about wanting the other foods you’re not supposed to eat during the pre-diet, your crying about the food you can normally have but can’t because of the broken protective seal!

Right then and there I knew I was committed, and I was making the right decision and could make it through this.

Thanks you for letting me share

Oh no! Emotions can definitely be raw during this process. It gets better!

FWIW, most broth boxes are designed to have the seal break when you twist the top (similar to Muscle Milk Light Protein shakes); if you listen you can hear it rip and can then feel the seal inside the container.

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On 12/1/2018 at 5:58 PM, ElectricBoogaloo said:

Oh no! Emotions can definitely be raw during this process. It gets better!

FWIW, most broth boxes are designed to have the seal break when you twist the top (similar to Muscle Milk Light Protein shakes); if you listen you can hear it rip and can then feel the seal inside the container.

OMG! I thought that maybe it, but I wasn't sure because the tab was pushed so far down in the box LOL. Well probably trashed those for no reason other than my own paranoia. Thanks for the note, I definitely will keep this in mind going forward.

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