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Hey there !

I havent had much luck in finding any accounts that really shared ALL about the procedure I embarked on. It's been a hell of a ride. I started with a 2 week liquid diet, and this Monday I got my gastric bypass done (RnY). It has been one of the most exhausting and emotionally/ physically taxing things I have ever done. During my liquid pre op diet I thought about giving up but then thought it would be worth it. I went into surgery and I came out with some complications, extending my hospital stay. The doubt really stuck in during that time. Was this the right decision? Should I have done something else? It all just felt wrong. I hadn't had a bowel movement. And my stomach was hurting so bad, plus the trapped gas I was suffering, also the fact that there have been a lot of people that weren't confidential about this procedure. I finally had a good cry about it now since being home. It was just all a big pill to swallow. Needing to be vulnerable to those you cant trust. Not being visited or feel cared for by those that you really thought would be there. Worrying about what others opinions will be the next time you see them. This stupid air that's trapped in my shoulder still. It all just snowballed. I finally got a bowel movement today which almost felt like giving birth ! (Not that I would know since I am not a mother) I finally feel some relief. I finally dont need to think when I can have my next pain killer. I can finally walk. I can finally just have some time for myself, and not be dependant of anyone else. Dont get me wrong... I still can't drive or work. But spending some hours alone in my room, without people constantly waking you up and asking you questions is enough for this girl !

I want to still believe this was the right choice. I dont want to feel ashamed, I just want to feel healthy. And maybe not really that, just find some normalcy again.

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Welcome to the site. Right after surgery can be the most difficult time and generally things vastly improve the further you are out.

I had gastric bypass surgery over 5 years ago and I am well pleased with the results.

If there are specific problems that you encounter, please bring them up and I am sure someone will respond with bits of advice.

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Hey there !
I havent had much luck in finding any accounts that really shared ALL about the procedure I embarked on. It's been a hell of a ride. I started with a 2 week liquid diet, and this Monday I got my gastric bypass done (RnY). It has been one of the most exhausting and emotionally/ physically taxing things I have ever done. During my liquid pre op diet I thought about giving up but then thought it would be worth it. I went into surgery and I came out with some complications, extending my hospital stay. The doubt really stuck in during that time. Was this the right decision? Should I have done something else? It all just felt wrong. I hadn't had a bowel movement. And my stomach was hurting so bad, plus the trapped gas I was suffering, also the fact that there have been a lot of people that weren't confidential about this procedure. I finally had a good cry about it now since being home. It was just all a big pill to swallow. Needing to be vulnerable to those you cant trust. Not being visited or feel cared for by those that you really thought would be there. Worrying about what others opinions will be the next time you see them. This stupid air that's trapped in my shoulder still. It all just snowballed. I finally got a bowel movement today which almost felt like giving birth ! (Not that I would know since I am not a mother) I finally feel some relief. I finally dont need to think when I can have my next pain killer. I can finally walk. I can finally just have some time for myself, and not be dependant of anyone else. Dont get me wrong... I still can't drive or work. But spending some hours alone in my room, without people constantly waking you up and asking you questions is enough for this girl !
I want to still believe this was the right choice. I dont want to feel ashamed, I just want to feel healthy. And maybe not really that, just find some normalcy again.
I was Sleeved on the 24th. Im feeling irritated. Not well enough to do anything of significance but not unwell enough to enjoy just resting. This phase will pass.

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I had my bypass on the 24th. We can take this journey together! The first two days while I was still in the hospital were painful and restless for me as well. Thankfully being home and getting a couple good nights of sleep have made a huge difference for me.
Hoping you feel better soon. ❤️

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10 hours ago, Eliz_123 said:

exhausting and emotionally/ physically taxing

@Eliz_123

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

WLS is/can be very difficult for many OP, especially at the beginning.

read the boards - you will see/hear from OP with similar problems,

I wish your people/friends there would visit/call. "maybe" call someone

looking to talk. They might not realize you would appreciate hearing

from them. Or you make that call first. to someone.

Have you looked into a support group in your area?? your doc office

should be able to guide you. Go see your doc office, talk to NUT, reach

out for help/guidance. Having a good cry IMO is good for the soul!!

Congrats on having your 1rst movement!! LOL This is a big event!!

Sounds silly to say, but we know how important, necessary having

your bowels move. Tummy/gas - you feel a little better. hopefully your

issues/prob will get better day by day!!

good luck, don't be afraid to yell out to us!!

kathy

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5 hours ago, jessicab526 said:

I had my bypass on the 24th. We can take this journey together! The first two days while I was still in the hospital were painful and restless for me as well. Thankfully being home and getting a couple good nights of sleep have made a huge difference for me.
Hoping you feel better soon. ❤️

Of course !!! Its weird because now that I'm starting to feel better my insomnia has hit ! so last night was very long but I did manage to rest.

Thanks hun xo

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4 hours ago, proudgrammy said:

@Eliz_123

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

WLS is/can be very difficult for many OP, especially at the beginning.

read the boards - you will see/hear from OP with similar problems,

I wish your people/friends there would visit/call. "maybe" call someone

looking to talk. They might not realize you would appreciate hearing

from them. Or you make that call first. to someone.

Have you looked into a support group in your area?? your doc office

should be able to guide you. Go see your doc office, talk to NUT, reach

out for help/guidance. Having a good cry IMO is good for the soul!!

Congrats on having your 1rst movement!! LOL This is a big event!!

Sounds silly to say, but we know how important, necessary having

your bowels move. Tummy/gas - you feel a little better. hopefully your

issues/prob will get better day by day!!

good luck, don't be afraid to yell out to us!!

kathy

Wow kathy thank you !!!

I'm going to be seeing my doctor tomorrow so I will ask to see if there are any support groups , as I traveled a little to the hospital where I got my procedure.

I think sometimes it's hard always being the first one to call or make the move you know ? I've always been therefor my friends, and it's hard to believe that in a process like this ... the people I expected to pull through didnt. But I shouldn't dwell too much, last time I got upset I ended up almost missing a meal and slept 3 hrs. I cant afford to but myself on the back burner anymore, not now.

Ahahaha yes !!! Something to Celebrate for sure ! I've never had Constipation, so this was a big eye opener and definitely something I took for granted. I'm happy to feel that physical relief !

You're amazing thanks for reaching out xo

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On 10/28/2018 at 17:27, Eliz_123 said:





Wow kathy thank you !!!




I'm going to be seeing my doctor tomorrow so I will ask to see if there are any support groups , as I traveled a little to the hospital where I got my procedure.




I think sometimes it's hard always being the first one to call or make the move you know ? I've always been therefor my friends, and it's hard to believe that in a process like this ... the people I expected to pull through didnt. But I shouldn't dwell too much, last time I got upset I ended up almost missing a meal and slept 3 hrs. I cant afford to but myself on the back burner anymore, not now.




Ahahaha yes !!! Something to Celebrate for sure ! I've never had Constipation, so this was a big eye opener and definitely something I took for granted. I'm happy to feel that physical relief !








You're amazing thanks for reaching out xo


I understand how you feel. My husband was working so a friend of mine too me for my surgery. He did come later that night but a was nauseous and vomiting (which he can’t be around) so he didn’t stay long. The next night he was out of town so he didn’t visit at all (I stayed 2 nights because I couldn’t keep anything down). I was very disappointed in him - but proud of myself for doing this for ME!

As for constipation - I think the pain meds make it way worse. For that reason I never took any. I have enough trouble in that area! Since I came home I take Miralax every day and it seems to be working.

Good luck and keep your head up. You are on your way to a healthier you!! 👍

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19 minutes ago, CyndieRI said:

I understand how you feel. My husband was working so a friend of mine too me for my surgery. He did come later that night but a was nauseous and vomiting (which he can’t be around) so he didn’t stay long. The next night he was out of town so he didn’t visit at all (I stayed 2 nights because I couldn’t keep anything down). I was very disappointed in him - but proud of myself for doing this for ME!

As for Constipation - I think the pain meds make it way worse. For that reason I never took any. I have enough trouble in that area! Since I came home I take Miralax every day and it seems to be working.

Good luck and keep your head up. You are on your way to a healthier you!! 👍

Ohhh hun im so sorry ! This is what I mean. I feel like things like that some people should put aside for those that they love ! I mean I hate anything to do with vomit but obviously you cant think about that, you're going through hell and only wish you had someone hold your hair up, rub your back or just be there to check up on you and make sure you dont pass out or something. My best friend didnt visit me at all during my stay, which was in her city. And I still have yet to see her. But again, I'm just trying to prioritize myself now, and not to be petty but really give what I can and stop going above and beyond fort those that cant do the same for me. So I'm glad I've been pushing myself as you should be very proud of yourself too for that !! I know it isnt easy, but it's making us stronger for sure and buildingcharacter for ourselves !

I've thought about what to take ! Ive been talking half tabs of senekot stool softener but it's so bitter and disgusting ! Ive also tried mitts apple sauce tropical with added Fiber, man did that send me running ! I'm not sure if it was because I finally got the effects of the stool softener or if it was that but holy did it work so now I try incorporating it to every meal. How much miralax do you use ??

Thanks hun for your reply as well !

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I take Miralax twice a day. And Musselmans Pplesauce is much better than Mitts. Tomk8tten is an Applesauce friend so THIS I know.

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