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3.5 weeks post surgery. Went to our state fair tonight and was really sad that I couldn't eat any of the food I love having at fairs. I really wanted a corn dog, and cotton candy, and funnel cake, and alcohol, and, and, and.... We didn't stay long because I was sad plus I still haven't returned to full energy levels since the surgery. Just feeling down and wanted to share.

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Not at all abnormal. I tried to switch up my eating routine, and get into the 'post-surgery' diet BEFORE my surgery, just to get some of the urges out of the way and get into the habit at really being conscious of what I was eating. It helped a lot.

There's a lot to be said for going, and not giving in. You should be proud of that. That's a victory. Good job.

It gets easier. Stay the course. It's life-changing.

Best of luck...

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I'm still so new, and my stomach is so furious, I cannot imagine ever eating anything again :(

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I was sleeved on 8/27. On a pre-surgery visit I was waiting to see my Dr. There were health/ exercise mags and one food mag with a beautiful dessert on the cover. One my Dr. walked in, I held up the mag and said “. Really??? Does this belong here?” He laughed and said “. You life is not over after the sleeve. You’re going to live in a real world with real food choices. You’ll still be able to enjoy some of the foods you fo now, but as occasional treats in moderation.” Only three weeks out know only the restriction but none of the joys of weight loss success. I’m sure by next year at the fair, the new successful you, will be able to have a few bites of everything. Then when you get home you will drink your Water and hit the treadmill! When you see how far you’ve come at your one month check-up I’m sure it will more then make-up for the corn dog.
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I am 4 weeks post op...I feel your pain labor day was tuff for me as well...I think it gets better everyday at least for me. Don't deprive yourself of anything just take 1 or 2 bites your sleeve will do the work for you!!!!!

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Here is a suggestion...instead of going to the state fair where every single terrible food you used to indulge in and likely will always still have an addiction or habit of wanting........ take up exercising, or go for a walk somewhere else. I don't know why you would want to put yourself through that less than 1 month after surgery? this is a life change and why choose sadness? Make better choices and take advantage of a new lifestyle by doing new things!

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This is the mental prep we all go through, hopefully during the preop phase - because it is easier during this phase. You have to stop considering everything as 'food events', take a hard look at why food as recreation should be this important. This has to be a hard realization and has to happen BEFORE you re-introduce any trigger food back into your life or you will be free falling.

You can enjoy food again that you truly like, but be picky. Seriously - cotton candy? Save it for some supremely decadent chocolate cake, cheesecake, the very best strawberry shortcake w real whipped cream. There are no food famines, food will not disappear, but I promise - jeans EIGHT sizes smaller will trump that cotton candy any day. Hang in there.

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I can totally relate! I live in Las Vegas so it's like State Fair everyday! There are so many amazing restaurants. My husband and teens are currently splitting some fancy doughnuts in the kitchen and planning a trip to the amazing crazy ice cream place called Creamberry. That place has cotton candy creations with ice cream like rolled ice cream burritos. However, I am almost 6 weeks post op and have been out to eat sushi a couple of times. I'm just watching my weight on the scale slowly get lower and lower. 30 lb so far.

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today has been hard for me... for some reason I question will I ever get to enjoy going out again or being able to make dinner for the whole family and eat with them? guess I'm in a funk

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Don't feel bad I think about that quite a bit especially today football started wife wanted to go to pub to watch game...it was horrible but had to take one for the team!!!! Hang in there champ

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Not at all abnormal. I tried to switch up my eating routine, and get into the 'post-surgery' diet BEFORE my surgery, just to get some of the urges out of the way and get into the habit at really being conscious of what I was eating. It helped a lot.
There's a lot to be said for going, and not giving in. You should be proud of that. That's a victory. Good job.
It gets easier. Stay the course. It's life-changing.
Best of luck...
Thank you@smg. I was kinda proud of myself for not succumbing to the temptation. I kept telling my husband I was going to get a funnel cake, take a couple bites, then spit it out. But I managed to leave the fair without even spending a dime on one.
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I was sleeved on 8/27. On a pre-surgery visit I was waiting to see my Dr. There were health/ exercise mags and one food mag with a beautiful dessert on the cover. One my Dr. walked in, I held up the mag and said “. Really??? Does this belong here?” He laughed and said “. You life is not over after the sleeve. You’re going to live in a real world with real food choices. You’ll still be able to enjoy some of the foods you fo now, but as occasional treats in moderation.” Only three weeks out know only the restriction but none of the joys of weight loss success. I’m sure by next year at the fair, the new successful you, will be able to have a few bites of everything. Then when you get home you will drink your Water and hit the treadmill! When you see how far you’ve come at your one month check-up I’m sure it will more then make-up for the corn dog.
Thank you@Metgirl256. Way to get in the Doctor's have about that magazine. But I guess his response was also valid. I thought I was mentally prepared before surgery but it now seems that I really wasn't fully prepared after all.
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I am 4 weeks post op...I feel your pain labor day was tuff for me as well...I think it gets better everyday at least for me. Don't deprive yourself of anything just take 1 or 2 bites your sleeve will do the work for you!!!!!

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Thank you@hungryman

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Here is a suggestion...instead of going to the state fair where every single terrible food you used to indulge in and likely will always still have an addiction or habit of wanting........ take up exercising, or go for a walk somewhere else. I don't know why you would want to put yourself through that less than 1 month after surgery? this is a life change and why choose sadness? Make better choices and take advantage of a new lifestyle by doing new things!

Thanks for the tough love@cynisca
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This is the mental prep we all go through, hopefully during the preop phase - because it is easier during this phase. You have to stop considering everything as 'food events', take a hard look at why food as recreation should be this important. This has to be a hard realization and has to happen BEFORE you re-introduce any trigger food back into your life or you will be free falling.
You can enjoy food again that you truly like, but be picky. Seriously - cotton candy? Save it for some supremely decadent chocolate cake, cheesecake, the very best strawberry shortcake w real whipped cream. There are no food famines, food will not disappear, but I promise - jeans EIGHT sizes smaller will trump that cotton candy any day. Hang in there.
Thank you@sosewsue61 for the reminders
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