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You carried a child in your womb for 9 months. You experienced extreme nausea, had a painful labor and ended up with a c-section. You gained a lot of weight and wasn't able to go back to your old size. You tried to diet, did a little exercise but wasn't able to lose even a single pound. You are very eager and willing to go back to work but your boss told you that you need to lose more weight first before you can proceed and face your clients. How would you feel about all these?! It's so frustrating, depressing, sad...name it! How will you overcome all these?

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Oh wow, I can’t even imagine what you have been through. Your boss has no right to stop you from going back to work because you gained weight it might even be illegal? I’m so sorry for your loss. Maybe someone else can give you some guidance who is familiar with employee rights in your area?
Good luck to you.

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What’s your job?

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I'm with others. Your work situation does not sound legal.

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I agree with Creek. Talk to an attorney, it’s absurd and sounds like workplace harassment.

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5 hours ago, Numbheart said:

You carried a child in your womb for 9 months. You experienced extreme nausea, had a painful labor and ended up with a c-section. You gained a lot of weight and wasn't able to go back to your old size. You tried to diet, did a little exercise but wasn't able to lose even a single pound. You are very eager and willing to go back to work but your boss told you that you need to lose more weight first before you can proceed and face your clients. How would you feel about all these?! It's so frustrating, depressing, sad...name it! How will you overcome all these?

Who are you talking about? Your profile says you are a male and have happy father's day notices on your activity.

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5 hours ago, Numbheart said:

You carried a child in your womb for 9 months. You experienced extreme nausea, had a painful labor and ended up with a c-section. You gained a lot of weight and wasn't able to go back to your old size. You tried to diet, did a little exercise but wasn't able to lose even a single pound. You are very eager and willing to go back to work but your boss told you that you need to lose more weight first before you can proceed and face your clients. How would you feel about all these?! It's so frustrating, depressing, sad...name it! How will you overcome all these?

Wow! Is your boss from the 1960?

I cannot think of a single job, outside a Hollywood movie super hero role, where weight would be relevant.

id get it in writing and go to HR, fair work (if that exists in your country or state) the union and a lawyer.

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9 hours ago, Numbheart said:

You carried a child in your womb for 9 months. You experienced extreme nausea, had a painful labor and ended up with a c-section. You gained a lot of weight and wasn't able to go back to your old size. You tried to diet, did a little exercise but wasn't able to lose even a single pound. You are very eager and willing to go back to work but your boss told you that you need to lose more weight first before you can proceed and face your clients. How would you feel about all these?! It's so frustrating, depressing, sad...name it! How will you overcome all these?

Sue them out of existence. This is illegal!

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07/01/2018 02:52 AM, Pearldrop said:





Wow! Is your boss from the 1960?




I cannot think of a single job, outside a Hollywood movie super hero role, where weight would be relevant.




id get it in writing and go to HR, fair work (if that exists in your country or state) the union and a lawyer.


Sorry quoted wrong post, delete. 

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On 07/01/2018 at 02:20, okayestmom said:





Who are you talking about? Your profile says you are a male and have happy father's day notices on your activity.


Notice he didn’t say “I” maybe it happened to his wife. It’s not exactly WLS topic. I’m guessing he’s just getting a general consensus

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On 6/30/2018 at 10:11 PM, Numbheart said:

You carried a child in your womb for 9 months. You experienced extreme nausea, had a painful labor and ended up with a c-section. You gained a lot of weight and wasn't able to go back to your old size. You tried to diet, did a little exercise but wasn't able to lose even a single pound. You are very eager and willing to go back to work but your boss told you that you need to lose more weight first before you can proceed and face your clients. How would you feel about all these?! It's so frustrating, depressing, sad...name it! How will you overcome all these?

Whereas this sucks. Sadly, weight discrimination is *NOT* a protected class in the US.

http://time.com/4883176/weight-discrimination-workplace-laws/

So, unless you live in Michigan, EEO and Discrimination laws do not protect use from weight discrimination.

https://www.employmentlawfirms.com/discrimination-at-work/overweight-obese-employee-discrimination.htm

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Sorry for not getting back immediately. I started recently with my online counseling at BetterHelp . Our HR Manager who is a psychologist too recommended this idea to me because she's already seeing from me some signs of depression. So to help feel better and regain the confidence, I decided to go for it.

I am by the way in the Sales & Marketing. Physical appearance does really matter in my job. So while waiting to lose some pounds, my boss assigned me to back-office and online sales. I didn't lose my job but they temporarily gave a different work assignment. Sorry if I overreacted. I just love my job...I love meeting new people and achieving the sales target.

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On 7/1/2018 at 3:20 PM, okayestmom said:

Who are you talking about? Your profile says you are a male and have happy father's day notices on your activity.

On 7/1/2018 at 8:24 PM, AshAsh1 said:

Notice he didn’t say “I” maybe it happened to his wife. It’s not exactly WLS topic. I’m guessing he’s just getting a general consensus

Sorry for causing confusion.

My hubby knew about my problem and offered me if I want to ask for advice on this forum.

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Yes I do know that Michigan is v the only state that doesn't condone,weight discrimination( Are YOU listening Ohio General Assembly?) so I guess Mr Boss can get away with his benighted attitude, but doesn't any " non-average" people buy his product? We should be equally respected whether we weigh,98 or 298 pounds. How would he like to be judged that way by his Boss? And if he doesn't have a boss, the American public should be. A heavy person money should be equal to a supermodel bordering on emaciation! Ooh don't it make my red,hair start to blaze!📛

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