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You know, I've been very confused about everything that has happened post-op. I'm 14 months out, well... Almost. The way I get treated by people now that I'm thinner is both good and bad....

But since I've become a romantic interest towards guys more so than I was before I had the surgery,(and none of these guys even know I've had the surgery which makes it amusing yet annoying to me) I always shy away from relationships because they either want to rush into it and I know from experience that that never works... or they just play games and they're like 30 and act like they're 18. I just turned 29 a week ago. I find relationships and love so revolting now because of how I'm being treated by guys now.

The first guy I came across did want to rush and I always tried to tell him that he was, in fact rushing. He would get mad and he always tried to manipulate my feelings and guilt trip me into doing what he wanted me to do... Which never worked. He'd always get mad if I didn't answer his texts or calls--At 12 in the morning, when I'd be sleeping. I go to bed at like 6pm. Sometimes he would even call later at night... Then encourage me to call when I wanted whenever I wanted. I never took him up on his word til the other day and he yelled at me for it when he had no room to complain. Yesterday, after all this time he lied about being single and never told me he was engaged. I hope his wife-to-be knows he's a cheater... He had the nerve to act he was a romantic interest of mine when I never liked him and told him that repeatedly. I just wanted to be friends. He was the one asking me out on dates. I said no. He thought I got mad because he was engaged now. No, I got mad because he lied. I said from the start be honest when that's all I ever was to him.

But... He's blocked on everything...

Then there was the other guy that just wanted to play games. I caught him. I don't know what's so hard about telling the truth. I'm so done with relationships and trying to look for any. I'd rather just stay single if this is how people want to act now.

I don't know if I'm even posting this on the right forum, I'm sorry and I'm sorry it's so long... I'm just so frustrated and over it all.

Hw-273

Sw-226

CW-124

GW-130

Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.

Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017

RNY

"Only those who try will become" FFX

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Wow, that sucks. Sounds like you've connected with a couple of losers. Just keep true to yourself. If the right person comes along, be open to the possibilities, but if not, know that you are a complete and worthy person in your own right and you'll be fine. It's much better to be single than to be stuck with an a$$hat.

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It is better to have loved and lost,than to saddle yourself with an absolute chump😝

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It is better to have loved and lost,than to saddle yourself with an absolute chump
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Niiiccee.

Hw-273
Sw-226
CW-124
GW-130
Size- 2, Small in sweats. Small in shirts. depends on how it's cut or made.
Bra Size- 34C

Surgery Date- April 26th, 2017
RNY
"Only those who try will become" FFX

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I think dating is the same no matter your weight. Presurgery I certainly had my share of married guys, flakes, players, etc..

What I have learned is to trust my gut. If something feels wrong, I just cut them loose and stop communicating. Every time I have ignored my gut, I found out sooner or later my instincts were correct.

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