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Hi everyone,

Tomorrow is surgery day, and I guess I'm going through the roller coaster of emotions that everyone does. I've been on the liquid diet for 7 days now, I cheated once and I had really mixed feelings afterward. Part of it was guilt, and a much larger part was a sense of entitlement that I felt that I had deserved it since I had done so well not cheating(ironic I know).

I guess I'm really anxious because I live so far away from my surgeon and her support staff, it's almost a 4 hour drive each way. I've met her once and was given a long list of things to take care of on my end, the GI clearance, Cardiac clearance, blood work, etc., and I never really bonded with anyone. Now my life is about to completely change, and I'm fine one minute and then it hits me and I almost feel like I'm drowning.

Been reading the comments here, and feeling better for the most part. Also realized I need to get a few things that I wasn't aware I'd need like lip balm, dry mouth spray, and a few other things.

Truth is I'm scared to go through with it now, and I'm scared not to do it. I turned 40 this past February, and I don't believe I can shed this extra weight with diet and exercise alone anymore. I'm scared that I'll get so big that I'll be trapped in my body alive but not living, and struggling just being.

Wish me luck!!

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Hi everyone,
Tomorrow is surgery day, and I guess I'm going through the roller coaster of emotions that everyone does. I've been on the liquid diet for 7 days now, I cheated once and I had really mixed feelings afterward. Part of it was guilt, and a much larger part was a sense of entitlement that I felt that I had deserved it since I had done so well not cheating(ironic I know).
I guess I'm really anxious because I live so far away from my surgeon and her support staff, it's almost a 4 hour drive each way. I've met her once and was given a long list of things to take care of on my end, the GI clearance, Cardiac clearance, blood work, etc., and I never really bonded with anyone. Now my life is about to completely change, and I'm fine one minute and then it hits me and I almost feel like I'm drowning.
Been reading the comments here, and feeling better for the most part. Also realized I need to get a few things that I wasn't aware I'd need like lip balm, dry mouth spray, and a few other things.
Truth is I'm scared to go through with it now, and I'm scared not to do it. I turned 40 this past February, and I don't believe I can shed this extra weight with diet and exercise alone anymore. I'm scared that I'll get so big that I'll be trapped in my body alive but not living, and struggling just being.
Wish me luck!!



I turned 41 in Feb. I never stopped believing I could lose the weight through diet and exercise. I never believed I could keep it off. Take sweats or basketball shorts. Good luck!

My rny was June 6


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You have us here! We are here for you. Your not alone. You have come this far your very much at the finish line.

Your new life is tomorrow!! Celebrate the victory and embrace the new fresh start.

Do you have friends/family with you?

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Thank you Ocean & Rob, my girlfriend is going with me. She is awesome, and is supporting me as much as she can. I think my nerves just have me on edge, my journey took a long time due to job changes ,moving, and now that it's finally here I'm a little freaked out.

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Awesome I’m glad you have support because that’s so critical.

The one thing I have learned is that you need to keep your list of why you’re doing this handy.

It will help give you the strength to keep moving onward and even afterward.

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And I, my Baiatric Godsons, am 72 but like you I see I can't lose or control,my ever-encroaching additional weight without Bariatric Surgery so in July 2018 I will complete my journey toward an RnY bypass because of pronounced GERD and other problems, and like or unlike you both I can see my own mortality rapidly approaching. Am I scared **** No, I fear continued life at 5ft8in, 320 lbs and with every joint in my body, even the c 2 knee replacements hurting. I am sor5 of breath, wear a C Pap at night and sometimes into the next day to stay within 4hour+ compliance, half of my graduating class of 320 have died already, the remaining 160 or so will meet for our 55th class reunion 11th August, I have been widowed 6 years, had my middle child die at 31 from a congenital 💔defect never diagnosed, and my life has become untenable. Why don't I do myself in? My eyesight is getting so poor I couldn't find the arteries in my wrist and would only knock a superficial vein. Sad when you can't off yourself correctly!
So I do wish you both luck, hope you'll both do the same. I would offer to pray for you but the last time I offered the atheists on here threatened to stomp,me into submission for mentioning a God they didn't believe in. Oops! I guess I am luckier than you Save,my surgeon is only a 2 hour round-trip away. But I will promise to support you emotionally from Central Ohio and let's let chips fall where they may. **The July Sparkler Frustr8**

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1 hour ago, Dave2255 said:

I had deserved it since I had done so well not cheating(ironic I know).

You've got lots of company on this one! Not cheating on diets is a major cause of weight gain! Haha!

1 hour ago, RobR44134 said:

I don't believe I can shed this extra weight with diet and exercise alone anymore. I'm scared that I'll get so big that I'll be trapped in my body alive but not living, and struggling just being.

This one, too!

Congrats on deciding to take charge of your future. Good luck on your surgery and best wishes for a speedy recovery!

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Frustr8 thank you for your support. I will happily take all the payers I can get, so thank you for that. Also best of luck with your upcoming procedure. I hope it goes well for you and you have a speedy recovery.

Orchids&Dragons thank you. I tried not to really punish myself for cheating on the liquid diet, I just had a moment of weakness and gave into the urges. I promise if I ever have to deal with dumping due to overeating it'll be the last time I'll have to deal with it. Usually one good smack is enough to make a believer out of me lol.

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7 hours ago, Dave2255 said:

Hi everyone,

Tomorrow is surgery day, and I guess I'm going through the roller coaster of emotions that everyone does. I've been on the liquid diet for 7 days now, I cheated once and I had really mixed feelings afterward. Part of it was guilt, and a much larger part was a sense of entitlement that I felt that I had deserved it since I had done so well not cheating(ironic I know).

I guess I'm really anxious because I live so far away from my surgeon and her support staff, it's almost a 4 hour drive each way. I've met her once and was given a long list of things to take care of on my end, the GI clearance, Cardiac clearance, blood work, etc., and I never really bonded with anyone. Now my life is about to completely change, and I'm fine one minute and then it hits me and I almost feel like I'm drowning.

Been reading the comments here, and feeling better for the most part. Also realized I need to get a few things that I wasn't aware I'd need like lip balm, dry mouth spray, and a few other things.

Truth is I'm scared to go through with it now, and I'm scared not to do it. I turned 40 this past February, and I don't believe I can shed this extra weight with diet and exercise alone anymore. I'm scared that I'll get so big that I'll be trapped in my body alive but not living, and struggling just being.

Wish me luck!!

Good luck! Congratulations on making it!

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25 minutes ago, billwardak said:

My sleeve is tomorrow as well. My wife and I traveled 8hrs to my surgeon (live in Alaska) will stay in a hotel for a week then travel back home. We got this!!!

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That's awesome!! Best of luck!!!

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1 hour ago, billwardak said:

My sleeve is tomorrow as well. My wife and I traveled 8hrs to my surgeon (live in Alaska) will stay in a hotel for a week then travel back home. We got this!!!

Sent from my SM-G955U using BariatricPal mobile app

Congratulations, I hope all goes smoothly and that you have a speedy recovery!

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Good luck tomorrow I wish you a swift recovery.

Its hurts the first 48 hours or so, take ALL the pain meds offered. I took it for 72 hours I have a very low pain threshold. My dentist gives me Novocain when I get my teeth cleaned lols.

After the 72 hours I’ve been great, no pain and no pain relief needed!

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Hope everything went well! Check in and let us know how you're doing!

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