No family support

[Relle2190 28]

My family is not being supportive of me and my decision to have weight loss surgery they tell me all the reasons not to it's really hard feeling alone!!

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[kakatlady612 1,053]

You're not alone, you have all of us on Bariatric Pal. Oh, I could give you a list of all the misplaced advice each of us was given, do you want that? Nope , I didn't think so. You are doing this first and foremost for yourself. You have realized the way I'm living isn't working, I can't live like this anymore. Maybe you've tried diet after diet, they didn't work for you. You might have lost some weight but couldn't keep it off. So you've asked for some help from your doctor and by extension- us. First ,surgery is not the easy way out, it is a rough choice to make, takes a firm commitment to see it through, it can be body altering and life changing. Those of us here have seen and understand the struggle and are still going forward. I myself am 72 years old., a lot of my contemporaries would be content to sit on their haunches in a rocking chair, get fatter until they die. Not this lady, I know I'll have an uphill battle but I'm going to do it. I'm in it to win it, even if I have only a few more years, I'm going to live them thinner and healthier. As Reba McEntire says," I'm a Survivor" and survive I shall ! I ask all of you to join me on this journey, won't be quick and easy, and there will be some sacrifice but it will be so so worth it. Come on!

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[Jennifer0730 10]

I would never say that you don’t need a good support system. But you are strong enough to start this journey with your own goals and dreams backing you up. My family and the few friends I told were a bit negative at first, but no they were worried. I just had my surgery on 2/13 and I’m doing great and my family has been great! After a while, when they saw how dedicated I was to the program, everything was much better.

[boricua875 6]

Hi, do not feel bad because you are not only. I am going thru the same time my family does not sustain the idea of this procedure either. I am scheduled for my surgery next month, which I will be going by myself and all the faith in God that everything will be okay. I can understand my kids not being happy with this procedure due the danger could have but at the same time they are not in my shoes to understand the pain I go through. I am positive that all my specialist and PCP doctor agree so I am willing to take the risk.
Telling you this because you have to pursue what your body and mind tell you. You are the only one can adjudicate in your success.

[shedo82773 1,236]

You can do this!! With or without their help!! You are the one that has to buckle down and prove to them "IT'S ALL GOOD"!! Maybe they are just worred about you. Maybe take them to a DR's appointment or even to a support group where they can ask ?'s and put their minds and hearts from worrying about it all. You can always come on here to get some support but I get it!! You need your family to be there for you!! Keep your eyes on the prize!! KEEP ON KEEPING ON!!! Again YOU have got this!!

[Sleeve1stFitNext 924]

Not everyone is going to support you. Also, they could be scared for you. If this is something that you want, go for it. It’s your life. Just remember, there are people who are here to support you and encourage you. Also, they will not understand what you are going through. Don’t let negativity stop you from taking back your life. Now is the time to pull in and focus on you.

I am sorry you do not have much support at home. It is something that will help you succeed because they won’t stress you out and cause you to relapse. However, you can do this!!

[Maricuzza1 1]

Positive vibes !!

[Relle2190 28]

Thank you guys so much for the postive energy u guys rock!!!!!!!!

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[Savagegirl 97]

Show them your conference in your decision and lack of doubt, and they will be on board at some point. You do You!

[FluffyChix 17,409]

You can do this girl!!! You've got the powah!!!! They'll come around, they're probably operating from a fear base.

[emlr 14]

For me, my family was part of the reason I was obese. So I found it quite empowering to make the decision by myself to go for bariatric surgery. That being said, I wouldn't be where I am today without the support I have from people around me. However ultimately it's me that has to deal with the pains from overeating. Me that has to deal with the dumping and hypos. But it's also me who can say how incredibly proud I am to have achieved what I have to date (-150lbs). You are never alone, even with yourself

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[mimidi 7]

I'm struggling with the same issue. My sister calls me daily asking if I decided to join weight watchers instead of surgery.....I've decided I'm not telling them until after surgery. It makes me doubt my decisions because I almost feel like she is bullying me about it

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