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I didn't have any mobility issues till after surgery. I mean it's temporary but still messing with my head. I never had problems showering or walking before.

To make matters worse, my daughter has been at her grandparents house. They planned a vacation and my daughter wants nothing to do with me. I missed her so much though. I know I'm being overdramatic but damn.

I'm on Oxys for pain but I've been having horrific nightmares since!

Like I'm actually depressed. Really depressed. I take pills for it but they're not even working.

Damn

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April, I am not entirely sure I am following it all. What I can say is that WLS is a big deal, a big emotional rollercoaster - but it gets better. Alot better. I am six years post op, and life has gotten much much better.

Hang in there, and if you are really depressed - please call a mental health hotline and talk to someone. Thinking of you.

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I am sorry you are feeling like this, just know that we are all here if you need to chat. I second Cowgirl Jane, maybe seek out a professional?

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Have you spoken to your Doctor - maybe they can refer you to a therapist to speak to.

Get on top of these feelings before they get worse.

Best wishes

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Hope you're feeling better now!!! ((hugs))

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Not sure where to post this but...
I didn't have any mobility issues till after surgery. I mean it's temporary but still messing with my head. I never had problems showering or walking before.
To make matters worse, my daughter has been at her grandparents house. They planned a vacation and my daughter wants nothing to do with me. I missed her so much though. I know I'm being overdramatic but damn.
I'm on Oxys for pain but I've been having horrific nightmares since!
Like I'm actually depressed. Really depressed. I take pills for it but they're not even working.
Damn []


Please find a friend to talk to. Let us know how you are doing. Sending you healing thoughts.

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My theory is: major surgery is a little like being in a car wreck, you're stiff,sore and,if gonna take,awhile to heal. Take things slow, if i didn't feel would be worth it I wouldn't be planning to join you on the losers bench. Be kind to yourself, the veterans I've read here say it will and I believe them you're on your way to better health. You're being tested but I believe you'll make it. You have a lot of Baribrothers and sisters sending you love. Keep us updated.

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