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I’m new to this website, but here goes! I’m getting sleeved 12/27 but I’m starting to second guess myself and wonder if it’s the right thing to do.....I worry about complications, loose skin afterwards, or not losing the weight. My mind keeps going and going. Looking for some reassurance and maybe some people getting sleeved around the same time as me to buddy with! :)

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I understand completely! Mine is the same day as yours and I’m feeling all the same emotions!!

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I think all of those fears are normal. I have them too, mostly that I will gain the weight back someday and I worry about loose skin. Do you know anyone who has had the surgery? I think It helps to talk to someone who has had it if you can.


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Hi there. I had bypass two days ago and I had the same jitters before my procedure. I still went through with the surgery despite my fears because I kept thinking of my longe term goal. And recovery is not fun AT ALL but I can say that it was all worth it. Good luck to you


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3 hours ago, ewilliams4491 said:

Hi there. I had bypass two days ago and I had the same jitters before my procedure. I still went through with the surgery despite my fears because I kept thinking of my longe term goal. And recovery is not fun AT ALL but I can say that it was all worth it. Good luck to you

I agree--I had my surgery on 12/13 and was nervous going in--when I came out I wondered what I had done. The gas pain really and dry mouth were really the worst of the side effects. My Dr. keeps you overnight and does a swallow test the next day to ensure you do not have a leak so there was no Water or anything until that was completed. Once I was home I felt a ton better. The most challenging part for me has been getting in the 64 ounces of Fluid. I'm managing about 75 grams of Protein, but can only get in about 45 ounces a day, I'm not hungry and still getting rid of gas--so I just don't want to take anything in.

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I'm getting sleeved the 29th. Would love to have a buddy!

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Stay on track and stay strong! I just was sleeved 6 days ago and each passing day is better and it's not even been a week! Instead of focusing on the possibilities of negatives, keep your mind focused on thinking positively. You signed up for surgery to improve your quality of life, take control of your health and give yourself the best chance of long term success. It's all possible, but your mental prep is as important as your meal prep! Hang in there and keep us posted! There are lots of people out here rooting for you and everyone else on their journeys.

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I was a reluctant sleever, It wasn't being done voluntarily really, it was a "Do this or die in 18 months". I was SOO SCARED! I was changing my body and relationship with food permanently. It was very rough. I kept wanting to cancel my surgery. Up until the day before. But I knew I had to do this if I wanted to live to see my family grow up.

So I did it. And then I was miserable for the first 4 weeks. Well, the first 2 were a blur of recovery and focus. But then week 3 & 4 were rough. I had an adjustment stage. Once I got past that....holy cow!!! The whole WORLD opened up for me!!

I weighed 375 lbs when I started this process years ago, I did 16 MONTHS on a liquid diet and lost 125 lbs. I then gained 40% of that back, destroyed my gallbladder and almost died when my gallbladder threw a gallstone, cause a pancreatic attack and I ended up in ICU. I am now able to run, I am working on doing a marathon. A f**king MARATHON! I weighed 375 lbs, I am 5' 1", I wore a size 36 pants. I now wear a size 8.

I regretted my decisions for about 10 days. I would NEVER GO BACK to where I was. Yes, I had regrets, and then I worked through them. And I just kept focusing on the Protocol numbers, My Protein, My Water, My Vitamins, My 10K steps. Those were my daily priorities. By 6 months in I was jogging. I was dating, I was doing things I hadn't done in 2 decades. Now?? OMG I'm planning on traveling next year! I've never traveled outside the US! I'm gonna go on a ZIP LINE!! OMG! I'm gonna ride rollercoasters, I went Ice Skating, I did a wall climb, I am doing bootcamp Yoga daily, I feel AMAZING. I walk past a window and LOVE what I see! OMG I'm so happy. I constantly turn to my side in the mirror and pull up my shirt, astonished to see all my muscles under that skin. I"M SO PROUD!!!

And let's talk loose skin. Ok, so what it looks ugly, I'll tell you the real truth, I was far less attractive and felt far less sexy when I was fat but didn't have lose skin. Now I feel like a model that just has some extra skin. I am so PROUD of that skin! Everytime I look at my hanging stomach I do NOT get discouraged, I get so amazing. That portion of hanging skin used to stick out so far I couldn't see my feet. It would sit on my legs and take up all the space to my knees. Now? I can put a laptop on my lap and work. I don't' have 80lbs of stomach fat sitting on my legs. Do I have arm wings? Yes - and I don't care ONE BIT! I thought I would, at first I did, now I look at it and I think "Damn!! It's all my hard work that has my muscles sticking out more than the hanging skin."

It's all about how you look at it. Sure, I could be miserable cause I have loose skin, but when I look at it I see all my hours and hours of dedication and hard work. I see it as a sign I've done everything I can to turn my life around.

There are always ways you can talk yourself out of something. I always say that people have NO IDEA what they are talking about when they say this surgery is the "easy way out". It's the opposite of that. It's a forever commitment to altering your body. And what makes us heroes, what makes us so god damn badass is that WE DO IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!! We are terrified, but we do it anyway. We are scared, but we do it anyway. We want to quit, but we do it anyway. We want to cancel, BUT WE DO IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!! Why?? Because we are the heroes of our own story, we are our own saviors, we are the ones on the white horse saving ourselves. I don't care what anyone says, this is the opposite of the Easy Way Out. This is a permanent solution that changes our lives. We are warriors, we are the biggest badasses around. You are going to do AMAZING at this, even though you're scared, even though you are ready to change your mind.

I believe in you. I believe in all of us.

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I was a reluctant sleever, It wasn't being done voluntarily really, it was a "Do this or die in 18 months". I was SOO SCARED! I was changing my body and relationship with food permanently. It was very rough. I kept wanting to cancel my surgery. Up until the day before. But I knew I had to do this if I wanted to live to see my family grow up.
So I did it. And then I was miserable for the first 4 weeks. Well, the first 2 were a blur of recovery and focus. But then week 3 & 4 were rough. I had an adjustment stage. Once I got past that....holy cow!!! The whole WORLD opened up for me!!
I weighed 375 lbs when I started this process years ago, I did 16 MONTHS on a liquid diet and lost 125 lbs. I then gained 40% of that back, destroyed my gallbladder and almost died when my gallbladder threw a gallstone, cause a pancreatic attack and I ended up in ICU. I am now able to run, I am working on doing a marathon. A f**king MARATHON! I weighed 375 lbs, I am 5' 1", I wore a size 36 pants. I now wear a size 8.
I regretted my decisions for about 10 days. I would NEVER GO BACK to where I was. Yes, I had regrets, and then I worked through them. And I just kept focusing on the Protocol numbers, My Protein, My Water, My Vitamins, My 10K steps. Those were my daily priorities. By 6 months in I was jogging. I was dating, I was doing things I hadn't done in 2 decades. Now?? OMG I'm planning on traveling next year! I've never traveled outside the US! I'm gonna go on a ZIP LINE!! OMG! I'm gonna ride rollercoasters, I went Ice Skating, I did a wall climb, I am doing bootcamp Yoga daily, I feel AMAZING. I walk past a window and LOVE what I see! OMG I'm so happy. I constantly turn to my side in the mirror and pull up my shirt, astonished to see all my muscles under that skin. I"M SO PROUD!!!
And let's talk loose skin. Ok, so what it looks ugly, I'll tell you the real truth, I was far less attractive and felt far less sexy when I was fat but didn't have lose skin. Now I feel like a model that just has some extra skin. I am so PROUD of that skin! Everytime I look at my hanging stomach I do NOT get discouraged, I get so amazing. That portion of hanging skin used to stick out so far I couldn't see my feet. It would sit on my legs and take up all the space to my knees. Now? I can put a laptop on my lap and work. I don't' have 80lbs of stomach fat sitting on my legs. Do I have arm wings? Yes - and I don't care ONE BIT! I thought I would, at first I did, now I look at it and I think "Damn!! It's all my hard work that has my muscles sticking out more than the hanging skin."
It's all about how you look at it. Sure, I could be miserable cause I have loose skin, but when I look at it I see all my hours and hours of dedication and hard work. I see it as a sign I've done everything I can to turn my life around.
There are always ways you can talk yourself out of something. I always say that people have NO IDEA what they are talking about when they say this surgery is the "easy way out". It's the opposite of that. It's a forever commitment to altering your body. And what makes us heroes, what makes us so god damn badass is that WE DO IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!! We are terrified, but we do it anyway. We are scared, but we do it anyway. We want to quit, but we do it anyway. We want to cancel, BUT WE DO IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!!! Why?? Because we are the heroes of our own story, we are our own saviors, we are the ones on the white horse saving ourselves. I don't care what anyone says, this is the opposite of the Easy Way Out. This is a permanent solution that changes our lives. We are warriors, we are the biggest badasses around. You are going to do AMAZING at this, even though you're scared, even though you are ready to change your mind.
I believe in you. I believe in all of us.

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Thank you so much! You’re so inspiring and positive! Definitely needed that!!!!


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I’m new to this website, but here goes! I’m getting sleeved 12/27 but I’m starting to second guess myself and wonder if it’s the right thing to do.....I worry about complications, loose skin afterwards, or not losing the weight. My mind keeps going and going. Looking for some reassurance and maybe some people getting sleeved around the same time as me to buddy with! [emoji4]


My surgery is the 27 also I use to have the lapband but no good just focus on yourself and everything will be okay I am drinking my shakes and ready to live life stay positive

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I am 1 week post op. Sleeved on 12/11/17 and i am LOVING it so far! The surgery and recovery wasn't so bad and that first week just flew by. Now i am feeling great and I don't regret it at all. Plus down 20 pounds from when I started the liver shrinking diet. [emoji106][emoji4]
You should get the sleeve, its awesome


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20 hours ago, camopink27 said:


Absolutely! Our dates are super close so that’d be awesome. :)

Yay! :D

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Hey twin!

The closer the day gets, the more nervous I am especially since this will be my first surgery ever. Thankfully surgery is early in the morning so I will get it over and done with. I'm nervous about how life will change. I don't want to mess this up and ruin my plans. I just wanna be healthy and change my relationship with food. So far, I've lost about 9lbs in a week with the living shrinking diet!

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I was sleeved in August and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself. I've lost 104 pounds, I'm no longer pre-diabetic, I don't have high blood pressure, I don't have high cholesterol, I've gone from #XL to L shirts and from 48 inch waist pants to 36 inch waist pants. I don't get tired as easily or sweat all of the time, I feel better, I look better. I even smell better.

I have some loose skin now on my thighs and under my arms, but honestly, that's small potatoes. Compared to all of the stuff we go through as morbidly obese people, it's nothing. You shouldn't let that worry you. That's like not being sure you'd want to win the lottery because you're not sure where you'd keep all of those new cars. Loose skin is an upper level problem. Don't sweat that at all.

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