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I don’t know that I can truly say I regret my decision yet, but I’m 6 days out and truly miserable. I’m a typically positive person, but this has knocked me on my butt and I wasn’t expecting it. I’m in so much pain and hate taking Percocet because it knocks me out. It’s this constant battle between getting Fluid in, getting my Protein, staying on top of my pain, staying awake, being active and not crying all the time.

Thankfully my parents have been great help, as have my kids, but I hate letting people take care of me. I feel like I should be so much further ahead than this. A simple shower wears me out to the point that I’m short of breath. A quick trip to the grocery store, with help, yesterday knocked me on my butt for the rest of the day. I just want to feel normal again and I don’t know if I ever will.

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No regrets! It's way too soon. Any surgery is going to knock you out for a few days and more than likely a few weeks. Give yourself time. It takes time to get used to all the changes. Deep breath. Take it slow. Believe me, it's worth it and you will not regret it.

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It will get better each day but not overnight. It took me around 6 months until all the problems seemed to melt away. I remember at the beginning the complexity of taking the Vitamins scheduled over the whole day, measuring each bit of food I consumed. It literally consumed my whole day. I wrote down my observations into a short article. It might be of some help in the days ahead. http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery.pdf

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I don’t know that I can truly say I regret my decision yet, but I’m 6 days out and truly miserable. I’m a typically positive person, but this has knocked me on my butt and I wasn’t expecting it. I’m in so much pain and hate taking Percocet because it knocks me out. It’s this constant battle between getting Fluid in, getting my Protein, staying on top of my pain, staying awake, being active and not crying all the time.
Thankfully my parents have been great help, as have my kids, but I hate letting people take care of me. I feel like I should be so much further ahead than this. A simple shower wears me out to the point that I’m short of breath. A quick trip to the grocery store, with help, yesterday knocked me on my butt for the rest of the day. I just want to feel normal again and I don’t know if I ever will.




I had surgery on Monday at 1:00 pm and they sent me home the following day at noon, not sure if I was ready to leave the hospital I feel awful, we had a long drive home that almost killed me, at the hospital i was having to get pain medication every hour and nausea medication . Since I only have one nausea medication and one pain medication I have to space it out like every 6 hours and it’s no good because I’m still in a good amount of pain, I feel the same as you I usually feel like I’m able to handle pain pretty well and like to be able to take care of myself but feel like a huge baby right now , I know things should get better your only six days and that’s why they say give yourself at least two weeks or more, but I feel you my surgery was a revision from a lap band that I had removed in 2014 and I don’t remember it being this intense when I had it put in or removed.. I was taken off guard by the pain I’m experiencing

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I went through the same. I felt like death for a few weeks. It’ll get better. The Vitamins make a major difference! Plus we had major surgery! Lots of adjustments and stuff.

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It will get better. The first days are hectic making sure you get the rebuilders hydration and Protein Shakes. It can be very overwhelming. This is why we (those who have had WLS) het upset when people say we took the easy way out. It is not easy by any measure.


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On 10/25/2017 at 11:39 AM, James Marusek said:

It will get better each day but not overnight. It took me around 6 months until all the problems seemed to melt away. I remember at the beginning the complexity of taking the Vitamins scheduled over the whole day, measuring each bit of food I consumed. It literally consumed my whole day. I wrote down my observations into a short article. It might be of some help in the days ahead. http://www.breadandbutterscience.com/Surgery.pdf

I read your article and can only say thank you! So very comprehensive, well written and easy to read.

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I feel horrible too and I am 4 days out. I don’t know why I felt I would be fine by now but I did. sleeping is tough sitting up is tough going to the bathroom is tough. I get scared every now and again that something went wrong and I’m not healing right. It’s a very scary thing that’s for sure and if anyone says we took the easy way out they are crazy.


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I feel horrible too and I am 4 days out. I don’t know why I felt I would be fine by now but I did. sleeping is tough sitting up is tough going to the bathroom is tough. I get scared every now and again that something went wrong and I’m not healing right. It’s a very scary thing that’s for sure and if anyone says we took the easy way out they are crazy.

I know how you feel I am also 4 days out and the depression tries to take over. I smile in pain because I know in the end I will be ok. You can do it! You have done it! Now you must push past this stage and trust me it’s not easy but you have show how strong you are with the life decision you made. I applaud everyone who has started on this journey.

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It took me about a month or two to come to grip's with my surgery. Someone on this board gave me the advise life has to go on. I kept telling myself this. But once I started losing the weight and started gaining energy I was non stop. All regrets out the window. lol went to the Water park and felt normal. Look in the future make plans on what you want to do but couldn't because of your weight. Focus on that. I had my surgery 2013.

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Foranewme- Thank you for posting this. I'm still pre-op, it will be February 2018 for my surgery. It is so helpful to hear that it was hard afterward but what a reward!! The waterpark!

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On 10/28/2017 at 3:56 PM, blackbuttafly said:

I know how you feel I am also 4 days out and the depression tries to take over. I smile in pain because I know in the end I will be ok. You can do it! You have done it! Now you must push past this stage and trust me it’s not easy but you have show how strong you are with the life decision you made. I applaud everyone who has started on this journey.

Ok, this is very important!!! Having the certainty that there is an "end" to the suffering is very critical. I'm pre-surg, but have been through really huge reconstruction surgeries on my boobs/back after a double mastectomy. And it hurt so badly, the only way I knew I could do it was because I knew that each day out would/should be better than the one before and that there would come a day when the suckage would be over.

We can get through anything for a short time, especially if the reward is great. So I loved the idea someone said about thinking about all the good things coming in your future, as you endure each day and check that day off your list! Right?!

Also, I have written this before, but my nephew is a surgeon and told me that any time you go in and mess with the gut (even just touching or moving it), you will deal with post-op transient depression. It releases hormones that jack with your mood cuz it's part of the gut/brain axis. Then too, you're not fully (most of us) Keto adapted, so your mood is further affected by having little to no food, you're getting over anesthesia, you're bloated from IV fluids, not sleeping well, and in pain. It's the perfect storm for fatigue, crying jags, and daily naps. :)

Treat yourself gently and with love. Nap when you feel like it. Move slowly. Take it one step at a time and don't forget to breath! ((hugs))

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@jcb123 I LOVE your hair! I have had long hair forever! Im about to completely change it up and cut it all off! A totally new me [emoji4]


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