Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

What happened here?



Recommended Posts

Hello allI have received a whole lot of knowledge on this sight and for that I am thankful but support and kindnessnot so much It seems to me that the people on here were way more supportive/friendly 2014, 2015 some what in 2016, then what i see now! What happened here? With the exception of a few..... I know everyone is not comfortable posting yet, but where's the luv? I just don't feel itmaybe its just me!!!!! Ok rant over! Blessing to everyone no matter where you are in this journey

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Short story, everyone got banned/left. This is just a shell of what the site was when I started. A lot of the knowledge and experience is just gone.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I haven't really seen the negativity, wait, let me correct that. I ran into a few that I chose to block. They were the type of ladies who failed at understanding an opinion and took everything said, personally. The type of ladies, who went on and on and would only stop, when they were no longer acknowledged. BUT, they are the 1% :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I did see a few douchebags that were basically on here to troll, but I don't much of them anymore. Maybe they were banned?
I only see a handful of people offering suggestions and support.
Such is life.

Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've seen both sides--I've been reading the site a lot since I joined. There's some justified tough love when someone admits to doing something they know they shouldn't . . . like the person who wanted advice on losing weight pre-op while admitting she loved cocktails and wings. Or--this one practically keeps me up at night--the person who admitted to being so hungry the week after her sleeve surgery that she was sneaking meat and other food in.

But there are plenty of people who will give useful information if asked, from what they eat to what they do for exercise or how long the pain lasted. There are opinions, sure . . . some people are more committed to their own point of view than others!

Good luck in finding what YOU need here.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Walter.Sobchak I'm glad its not just me that see this/feel this way! Thanks all for the responses and insight everyone! maybe i just have the wrong expectations of this site or I could just be a little sensitive right now[emoji848]Idk


Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@hillnicole34

The site also changed a lot once the app became popular. None of the other WLS forums have working apps, so this one has the most traffic, which is good and terrible.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I must admit, I was banned from a FB group. Rocks (something), I forgot the name. The people on that site would post recipes containing breads, fried foods, pastas..etc. I expressed my concern and the poor habits they were sharing and I saw a lot of the newbies would get excited at such horrid foods. I was gained up on for expressing my distaste and was banned. In the meantime, people were emailing me agreeing w/ a lot of what I saying, but for the fear of being banned, they didn't say anything. :o Well, goodness.....ban me over and over, I will speak up. LOL

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I don't sense any negativity.

Y'all are stupid.





Just kidding, that was sarcasm.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I've had decent experiences here and have received great advice. There are definitely some tools around and some hyper sensitive folks that get upset if you don't use emojis and hugs and say everything in the most delicate way. I have no patience with either lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

2 hours ago, Half-Tum said:

I don't sense any negativity.

Y'all are stupid.





Just kidding, that was sarcasm.

LOL, I know the feeling of having to explain that I was being sarcastic--seems weird to many and completely normal to me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

LOL, I know the feeling of having to explain that I was being sarcastic--seems weird to many and completely normal to me.

Yeah, I've hurt some feelings unintentionally with sarcasm. I wish I could convey tone in text easily.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well I'm guilty[emoji1480]i definitely love emojis [emoji18][emoji30]lol but I also believe in tough love, i have probably read a lot of the post where the person was being xtra sensitive and wanted someone to basically lie to them and defend bad habits/behavior, not me I'm open to all feedback and understand that everyone wont agree, its ok to hear different opinions! I luv the honesty here! Thats a small part of why i continue to come here and the information of course! I just think there should be a little more dialogue when it comes to just conversations about the journey and not just about answering questions, I have a huge family but a small circle of people I've told about this surgery, not that their tired of hearing about it but its good to talk to other people who can relate to what your going threw! I know I'm all over the place with this post🤷🏾‍♀️lol i be having a lot to say🤦🏾‍♀️ thank you all for listening/reading my post! It feels good not to feels ignored[emoji1497]I'm the queen [emoji146]of sarcasm in my personal life[emoji56]


Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well I'm guilty[emoji1480]i definitely love emojis [emoji18][emoji30]lol but I also believe in tough love, i have probably read a lot of the post where the person was being xtra sensitive and wanted someone to basically lie to them and defend bad habits/behavior, not me I'm open to all feedback and understand that everyone wont agree, its ok to hear different opinions! I luv the honesty here! Thats a small part of why i continue to come here and the information of course! I just think there should be a little more dialogue when it comes to just conversations about the journey and not just about answering questions, I have a huge family but a small circle of people I've told about this surgery, not that their tired of hearing about it but its good to talk to other people who can relate to what your going threw! I know I'm all over the place with this post🤷🏾‍♀️lol i be having a lot to say🤦🏾‍♀️ thank you all for listening/reading my post! It feels good not to feels ignored[emoji1497]I'm the queen [emoji146]of sarcasm in my personal life[emoji56]


Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I totally get what you are saying. There was a time (not to far back) that I expressed my love of GENEPRO!!! I had quite a few people jump all over me!! That I was being misled all over the place and that GENEPRO was lying about how much Protein they had in it. Now I am ok with peole disagreeing, like was said NOT everyone has the same ideas as me. But...I have seen different ones on here. Not so much the ones that were here when I first started out. In a group like this we will all come accross someone that doesn't agree with us. There is a better way of saying it as how I was talked too. I was basically called a moron!! When I stated that it was sold here on BariatricPal Store. I was told it was just the money making that our leaders were into. There has to be a few in ever group. I try the old saying from one of my Favorite Disney shows. Thumper (I do love me some Thumper) His mom told him. If you can't say something nice, don't say NOTHING at all. Let's all agre to be better to each other. Everyone needs this site for support. I hope you all have a great THRUSDAY!!! KEEP ON KEEPING ON!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Prdgrdma

      So I guess after gastric bypass surgery, I cant eat flock chips because they are fried???  They sell them on here so I thought I could have them. So high in protein and no carbs.  They don't bother me at all.  Help. 
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        It's possible for a very high fat meal to cause dumping in some (30% or so) gastric bypass patients, although it's more likely to be triggered by high sugar, or by the high fat/high sugar combo (think ice cream, donuts). Dietitians will tell you to never do anything that isn't 100% healthy ever again. Realistically, you should aim for a good balance of protein, carbs, and fat each day. Should you eat fried foods every day? No. Is it possible they will make you sick? Maybe. Is it okay to eat some to see what happens and have them for a treat every now and again? Yes.

    • NovelTee

      I'm not at all hungry on this liquid pre-op diet, but I miss the sensation of chewing. It's been about two weeks––surgery is in two days––and I can't imagine how I'll feel a couple of weeks post-op. Tonight, I randomly stumbled upon a mukbang channel on YouTube, and it was strangely soothing... is it just me, or is this a thing? 
      · 1 reply
      1. NickelChip

        I actually watched cooking shows during my pre-op, like Great British Baking Show. It was a little bizarre, but didn't make me hungry. I think it was also soothing in a way.

    • Clueless_girl

      How do you figure out what your ideal weight should be? I've had a figure in my head for years, but after 3 mths of recovery I'm already almost there. So maybe my goal should be lower?
      · 3 replies
      1. NickelChip

        Well, there is actually a formula for "Ideal Body Weight" and you can use a calculator to figure it out for you. This one also does an adjusted weight for a person who starts out overweight or obese. https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/68/ideal-body-weight-adjusted-body-weight

        I would use that as a starting point, and then just see how you feel as you lose. How you look and feel is more important than a number.

      2. Clueless_girl

        I did find different calculators but I couldn't find any that accounted for body frame. But you're right, it is just a number. It was just disheartening to see that although I lost 60% of my excess weight, it's still not in the "normal/healthy" range..

      3. NickelChip

        I think it's important to remember that the weight charts and BMI ranges were developed a very long time ago and only intended to be applied to people who have never been overweight or obese. Those numbers aren't for us. When you are larger, especially for a long time, your body develops extra bone to support the weight. Your organs get a little bigger to handle the extra mass. Your entire infrastructure increases so you can support and function with the extra weight. That doesn't all go away just because you burn off the excess fat. If you still had a pair of jeans from your skinniest point in life and then lost weight to get to the exact number on the scale you were when those jeans fit you, chances are they would be a little baggy now because you would actually be thinner than you were, even though the scale and the BMI chart disagree. When in doubt, listen to the jeans, not the scale!

    • Aunty Mamo

      Tomorrow marks two weeks since surgery day and while I'm feeling remarkably well and going about just about every normal activity, I did wind up with a surface abscess on on of my incision sights and was put on an antibiotic that made me so impacted that it took me more than two hours to eliminate yesterday and scared the hell out of me. Now there's Miralax in all my beverages that aren't Smooth Move tea. I cannot experience that again. I shouldn't have to take Ativan to go to the lady's. I really looking forward to my body getting with the program again. 
      I'm in day three of the "puree" stage of eating and despite the strange textures, all of the savory flavors seem decadent. 
      I timed this surgery so that I'd be recovering during my spring break. That was a good plan. Today is a state holiday and the final day of break. I feel really strong to return to school tomorrow. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Now that I'm in maintenance mode, I'm getting a into a routine for my meals. Every day, I start out with 8-16 ounces of water, and then a proffee, which I have come to look forward to even the night before. My proffees are simply a black coffee with a protein powder added. There are three products that I cycle through: Premier Vanilla, Orgain Vanilla, and Dymatize Vanilla.
      For second breakfast on workdays, I will have a low-fat yogurt with two tablespoons of PBFit and two teaspoons of no sugar added dried cherries. I will have ingested 35-45 grams of protein at this point between the two breakfasts, with 250-285 calories, and about 20 carbs.
      For second breakfast on non-workdays, I will prepare two servings of plain, instant oatmeal with a tablespoon of an olive oil-based spread. This means I will have had 34 grams of protein, 365 calories, and 38 carbs. Non-workdays are when I am being very active with training sessions, so I allow myself more carbohydrate fuel.
      Snacks on any day are always mixed nuts, even when I am travelling. I will have 0.2 cups of a blend that I make myself. It consists of dry roasted peanuts, cashews, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, pistachios, and Brazil nuts. This is 5 grams of protein, 163 calories, and 7 carbs.
      Breakfast and snacks have been the easiest to nail down. Lunch and dinner have more variables, and I prepare enough for leftovers. I concentrate on protein first, and then add vegetables. Typically tempeh, tofu, or Field Roast products with roasted or sautéed vegetables. Today, I will be eating leftovers from last night. Two ounces of tempeh with four ounces of roasted vegetables that consist of red and yellow sweet peppers, sweet potatoes, small purple potatoes, zucchini, and carrots. I will add a tablespoon of olive oil-based spread, break up 3 walnuts to sprinkle of top, and garnish with two tablespoons of grated Parmesan cheese. This particular meal will be 19 grams of protein, 377 calories, and 28 grams of carbs. Bear in mind that I do eat more carbs when I am not working, and I focus on ingesting healthy carbs instead of breads/crackers/chips/crisps.
      It's a helluva journey and I'm thankful to be on it!
       
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×