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Hey, I had the sleeve done 6/27 and I'm down 38 lbs and doing fantastic. But I need someone I can talk to. The second week of my recovery I have had some issues with my husband and now don't really have anyone to turn to. Losing the fat is making my emotions go crazy lol. I just need a friend...

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I will talk to you, I'm 8 months out now and I remember the roller coaster you are on! It gets better it just takes some time. You are doing fabulous! You are looking fabulous! Unfortunately your husband maybe feeling insecure, I don't know bc you didn't say. Everyone handles it differently


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What's up? I not a therapist but I've been through the crazy!


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Well I doubt that my husband is insecure. I caught him cheating again... and I want to end my marriage and I'm just emotional about that. And I have general depression. I'm trying to work on myself and I know all this is temporary I just don't have much support.


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So sorry you have infidelity to deal with along with recovery, but the only direction is forward.....wish you well and hang in there.

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I am so sorry, please hang in and take care of you. Life may feel awful now but it will get better and you will be happy again!

This new beginnings is all about you don't let anyone get in your way! Best of luck and if you need a shoulder mine is here!

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I was sleeved the same day as you. Down 36, including week of pre op diet. I'm noticing I'm super emotional this last week too, and my husband is only cheating by sneaking cigarettes, which was enough to send me on an emotional melt down so I can only imagine what your going thru. Hang in there and try to stay focused on yourself. All you can do. One day at a time.


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Thank you guys! It's nice to know that other people have experienced this feeling. I swear sometimes it feels like I crazy. Or lately a dead battery lol.


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Like the others have said, hang in there. I had the surgery, then ended up w/ a crappy and very insecure ex-boyfriend. Who I was before and who I am now, completely different people. I kicked him to the curb and a year and a half later, I'm so freaking happy on all levels and am in love w/ something and someone I never would have imagined, two years ago. Things will be okay, my thoughts are w/ you. Also, the husband, we'll help you box up his things and kick him to the curb too.

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I am 3 months post op and today was one of those days where I just woke up mad at myself and angry or feeling like haven't been doing enough even though I have lost 70+ lbs so far I try to keep myself on a routine throughout my day but today it's been hard.

also getting that lonely no one knows how I feel feeling even though I have a great group of family and friends as a supportive system.

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You are doing great! Remember the fat your body is getting rid of has all kinds of hormones in it. This stage will slow down and mood swings will return to whatever is normal for you! Hang in there, we have all had those days🤡

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Hang in there people!!!

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