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So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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When I was probably your age I felt the same. I had lost like 80 lbs and was self conscious. I used to like to wear pretty bustier type lingerie, held the boobs up and covered my belly....at some point no one care about it all. Have fun, so happy to hear you are enjoying life. How I miss those days :D

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So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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When I was probably your age I felt the same. I had lost like 80 lbs and was self conscious. I used to like to wear pretty bustier type lingerie, held the boobs up and covered my belly....at some point no one care about it all. Have fun, so happy to hear you are enjoying life. How I miss those days :D

Thank you for your compassionate response! I do like that look LOL

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Im down 70bls with 20 more to go. I've just started seeing a slight patch of wrinkled skin on my tummy and I've been debating whether I really want to lose the additional 20. Right now I have no loose skin and my bat arms are hardly noticeable. I decided long ago that I don't want any plastics because I don't want to look like frankenstein. I've already lived most of my life feeling self conscious and this is the first time I feel good about myself with my clothes off so I don't want to trade one bad body for another.

Anywho, I'm single and had my first encounter in a year just a few days ago. I was so paranoid about that little patch on my stomach that's wrinkled right above the navel...now that I look back I really thought at the time it would be show stopper. Really! The show went on. But still, I'm very soft and I've started to jiggle a bit and that's makes me a little self conscious but it's nothing compared to what I use to feel with the rolls of fat!

Oh and you're not alone in the horny category. Now that I feel better overall I'm ready to catch up on some 'feel good"! In general, i think if you want it and it shows, nothing will get in the way of that. Afterall, it's not my first rodeo. I got plenty as a thick chic too!

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Well, Soma has been having some amazing end-of-year sales, so I bought beautiful nightgowns, robes, bras and panties, so I always have a pretty foundation that makes ME feel good. It's not for anyone else, but I always love pretty underthings and nice pajamas.

As for the nookie, I'm loving my smaller size, but there is now more Jell-O-y squishiness to me now (working out at the gym to tone, but it's going to take work!)

I pulled out my sexy schoolgirl outfit this weekend a la Brittney Spears "Hit me one more time," LOL, and the little white top covers my upper arms, squeezes the cleavage together cute, and skirt hides the squishy lower belly and legs. Hubby was loving every moment, and it was a fun changeup in the routine. Maybe look into some fun role playing with costumes? They're almost all cut the same; tight/low tops for cleavage, tight in the abdomen, then flaring out to some sort of skirt.

There is also the thing that, if a guy is interested enough to sleep with you, he's fine with whatever jiggly parts you may have. I think good lighting and an enthusiastic attitude end up mattering much more than freaking out about stretch marks or flab. Very few people over 30 look super hot naked like a movie or porn star, LOL.

I think, once you cut loose once or twice, you'll be fine. Just bridging the gap the first time is jittery.

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Oh, and I aggressively scrub brush my body in the shower. It temporarily plumps up the skin (minimizing any wrinkles/cellulite look,) and gives me a rosy glow. Throw on some Jargens self-tanning lotion, perfume, light a candle, put on the clean, soft sheets, and enjoy yourself.

You can always be on the top with a hot bra on, too -- that's a good look. Or just ravage your guy and say you want to keep it on because you are so eager to be with them;-) They'll never know it's because you are self-conscious. Win-win!

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From a guys Perspective

If a guy makes advances toward you then obviously you have Characteristics that he likes. Don't let your self-conscious thoughts stop you from being intimate. I have found that women that have been Bigger put a lot more effort into pleasing their partner than women that don't have to work as hard to attract a man. Honestly one of the few turn offs for me in the Bedroom is a woman that wont let her self go and enjoy the moment and instead is constantly wondering if i find her attractive. We all have body issues whenever I was in the Marines at 162lbs I still thought I was fat. I am going to give you the Ultimate thing to remember "Fake It Till You Make It" well don't Fake everything lol!!!

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So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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Pick up a little above the knee nighty dress or camisole, a little frilly so they aren't skin tight and go get yourself some well deserved lovin. You deserve it.

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I just read that the Bio-Oil helps immensely for your body and for your face. Haven't tried it yet

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So, I haven't felt very sexy in a while. Right before my surgery I had met somebody and had a short but extremely passionate relationship during the first few months of losing weight. Ever since, I have been focused on me. And this turned out to be wise, because I'm down 130 pounds and have traveled across the country in my RV, currently residing in beautiful Southern California. The first time in my life I've been able to out run anything: New York snow!

As it turns out, SoCAL might be the place I have been looking for all my life. Culturally, it seems wonderful. I am meeting so many cool and interesting people! Even men!

So, I'm under 200 pounds, getting attention from men, and considering stripping down and getting laid. And I'm scared to death! I feel so insecure about my body which is right now a work in progress. And I know that my hangups about my body are obviously not the same as the men who would like to have sex with me, but I want to feel confident and beautiful. I'm also so horny that I feel like a tiger pacing the cage LOL…

I still have more weight to lose and intend to have plastic surgery on my belly and my breasts. I did not expect this to happen/finish for at least a year. And I have no intention of waiting that long before I enjoy some much needed pleasure.

Sisters, what do you do to feel pretty and confident when your body is a work in progress?

Brothers, perhaps you can share some insight as well from your perspective? Some men say that women worry way too much about some of this.

Thank you in advance!

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When I was probably your age I felt the same. I had lost like 80 lbs and was self conscious. I used to like to wear pretty bustier type lingerie, held the boobs up and covered my belly....at some point no one care about it all. Have fun, so happy to hear you are enjoying life. How I miss those days :D
What this person said. If they are feeling you then they're going to enjoy being with you no matter what. I still sometimes have hang ups about my body too, but when it comes to sex I honestly focus on sexing the hell out of my partner(s) more than I do about my saggy chest skin.

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Lucky guys!!!! My wife doesn't want to have sex she complains that it hurts now. I don't understand why? Has anyone had this problem? Her gyn checked her out and can't find anything wrong. It just doesn't make any sense. Hopefully I can get some answers. She said it feels like if you have a bruise on your body and you are constantly hitting is the feeling she is having while we're having sex . Anyobe have answers?

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@@nolaguy, it doesn't hurt for me now, but now that there's way less padding down there, I need a MUCH more light touch to be stimulated. Try having her on top so she can control the pressure/movement.

Also, has she started any sort of bike riding regimen? I restarted spinning after a 10-year absence, and it took a good two weeks for my private area to come back to feeling normal again.

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@@nolaguy I've definitely noticed a change. Less cushion in the bottom=deeper penetration. Make sure you're not hitting her cervix! We've had to make a few adjustments because of that.

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@@nolaguy I've definitely noticed a change. Less cushion in the bottom=deeper penetration. Make sure you're not hitting her cervix! We've had to make a few adjustments because of that.

Thank you for the info. I also sent you a private message.

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Thank you all so much for your compassionate, interesting, and brilliant comments and suggestions. It's definitely time to go shopping LOL… Like I needed an excuse!

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