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Keep working girl... let those haters hate. Love the beautiful woman u r!!! And as part of ur journey drop that dead weight that tryna keep u down!!!

I had similar comments... u act different now, u think ur nice now, etc... yea I am different because I love the woman I am becoming. And if u loved me u would want 2 c me happy.

Be happy, be healthy, keep positive, love u!!!

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You are beautiful sister!! I also was married to a serial cheater and finally learned they pray on us while we are vulnerable!! I finally pulled myself out of that, concentrated on me and before I knew it I met a fine, honest, faithful, caring, loving man who knows my worth and treats me like a queen! They are out there girl so do NOT settle!! You keep doing great for yourself and b4 you know it your life will be forever changed!!! Xoxo

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You are beautiful sister!! I also was married to a serial cheater and finally learned they pray on us while we are vulnerable!! I finally pulled myself out of that, concentrated on me and before I knew it I met a fine, honest, faithful, caring, loving man who knows my worth and treats me like a queen! They are out there girl so do NOT settle!! You keep doing great for yourself and b4 you know it your life will be forever changed!!! Xoxo

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Don't ever allow the people who did you wrong to make you think you don't deserve better in your life... When you know you deserve better, DO Better! Stop waiting for people to change. You can't "fix" him/her - he's not a project.You can't change people but you can change YOUR mind, your situation, change starts with YOU!

YOU DESERVE to be Happy!! ..... I posted this on my Facebook page earlier today. I have a new outlook and I thank you for the encouraging words. much love sister.

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Hello everyone, Warning beware of jealous people in your life. So my now ex but also my daughters father has as I feel always tried to sabotage me. I gained close to 100 pounds in the last 6 years since I've been with him had a baby got super comfortable and let myself go. Well since my surgery and before he was never with my lifestyle change he would bring fast food and candy into the house, he didn't work out with me on a regular basis (and mind u he is athletic and a boxer) there was no genuine encouragement nor support. He was and is a serial cheater. He told a girl he cheated on me with about me getting the surgery before i even had it and just recently told another woman i believed to be a friend but he was sleeping with her too that I had the surgery and now I think i'm better than ppl and they laughed about how I'm still big and my body gone be a mess (I seen the messages) the disrespect is at an all time high. Bottom line is I am better than what they obviously thought of me. This change has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, I'm happy about life again, I see the changes in me mentally, spiritually, and physically. I'm looking forward to the future and learning not to settle or accept anything I'm discovering my worth and now I'm glad I can close that chapter in my life and looking forward to my journey and finding someone new that sees the Goddess in me

down 83 lbs and not stopping

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You were and ARE beautiful and don't let ANYONE tell you different! You lost way more than 83 pounds , getting rid of him was a load lost as well!!!! Keep going you've got this and God has you!!!

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Honey dont let a man tear you down.you can do this you are beautiful outside as well as inside you take care of you and health and let him do him. Work.on.what makes you love yourself and dont do this for no one bit yourself keep.up your Journey remember you have people out there that has men that dont do nothing but be mean to use karma is a pay back you have friends on here that is on your side keep going and keep your head up seeetie

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Honey dont let a man tear you down.you can do this you are beautiful outside as well as inside you take care of you and health and let him do him. Work.on.what makes you love yourself and dont do this for no one bit yourself keep.up your Journey remember you have people out there that has men that dont do nothing but be mean to use karma is a pay back you have friends on here that is on your side keep going and keep your head up seeetie

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Thank you so much

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My ex was the best 180 lbs I ever lost. You look fabulous!!

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Lol thank you congrats I feel the same they can go with the rest of the excess weight

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