Miscarriage, depression, and food

[Katy2051 21]

Just under two weeks ago I went into early labor. My baby was alive for a few minutes, but he wasn't far enough along or developed to save. I was only a few days shy of being 21 weeks with my first baby.

To preface this, I had the gastric sleeve surgery so I would be able to get pregnant. So when we found out I was expecting, my husband, me and my family were ecstatic. We were so excited. My pregnancy was completely normal. I was eating healthy, taking my Vitamins, going to my appointments.... even the doctor didn't see this coming. I never would have thought I would become one of those women.

Then, we went through this tragedy. My husband and family are doing amazing at taking care of me and trying to take my mind off of it. But I don't even have the energy to care about my health. My eating has gone to s**t, much less my exercise.

I guess what I am getting at, does anyone have suggestions or help on how to refocus. To care about my health and body instead of being betrayed by it...

I'm sorry for the sad and not so much WLS related post.

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[kimiko80 2]

So sorry to hear your sad news. Sending love and hugs your way.

I can't possibly begin to know how you are feeling

I haven't had my surgery yet but I guess the only advice I can offer would be that you started this journey to have a baby, you know now that due to weight loss your body is up to it and next time they will watch you even closer.

I guess the Drs aren't worried that the sleeve has been a problem or they would have said

You need to give yourself time to grieve for your loss. Don't beat yourself up.

Try and stay strong and not loose faith.

Love and hugs xxxx

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[doxaholic 252]

So sorry about your loss my heart and prayers go out to yall.

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[RNMomof4 86]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Pregnancy loss is devastating and there is no real way to get over it other than time. So my advice would be just to give yourself some time to grieve and then get yourself ready to start trying again. Eating right and exercise included. You still want to be in top shape for the rainbow baby to come. Hugs to you.

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[happyaslarry 42]

Oh sweetheart, love sent to you. You know what? Your already refocusing. Your brave enough to discuss what happened so for me your taking steps.

Draw from all possitive ppl and find strength in them. I dont know you but Im proud of you for reaching out.

Please dont hesitate to seek help. Wish you all the best xx

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[Katy2051 21]

Thank you for your responses. Found out it was due to an incompetent cervix. I know I still hurt from losing my baby, but now I feel better for knowing. And I have to make sure my health is in good shape to move on and prepare myself for everything I have to do to carry a baby to full term. Again, thank you for all the support.

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