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So I work and take classes at a university and many people have seen me around.

Today I was getting some yogurt because I forgot to eat before class and one of the guys who work in the cafeteria just stared at me and was like "wow wow wow, I'm single!" Haha and when he rang me up he said "I'm going to make this last as long as I can, I'm speechless" and he gave me my bills one at a time all the people who worked in the cafeteria were telling me how fabulous I looked

Then I was in the elevator going back up to the classroom and one of the guys who works here ran to the elevator because the doors were still open and he just kinda kept looking at me and he said "are you the same girl that used to work over at the information center?" And I was like yeah and he was like "you've slimmed down, you look great! Doing an amazing job!" He even got off the elevator and Ben though he was going up another floor to watch me walk away Hahahaha I've never even met him before

It is really a confidence booster! This is the first time in a really really long time that guys have kinda flirted with me and it feels amazing because I'm 29 (30 on Saturday!!) and very single haha

This made my day

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When other people notice and mention how different you look, it's a powerful intoxicating feeling. Totally get it!

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Then there's the flip side to that when you get to thinking about it like "Wait. So you're saying I was a horrible beast BEFORE?"

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Then there's the flip side to that when you get to thinking about it like "Wait. So you're saying I was a horrible beast BEFORE?"

Babbs with the bucket of ice water! :lol:

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Then there's the flip side to that when you get to thinking about it like "Wait. So you're saying I was a horrible beast BEFORE?"

Babbs with the bucket of ice water! :lol:

It's a gift ;)

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awwwwww thats really nice, you must have felt fabulous ;-)

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I have only begun my journey, but have dropped from a size 20 to a 14. In the grocery store yesterday, two different men began small talk with me. It's been years...

It got me wondering. I don't know if the new attention is because I look a little better, or perhaps because I feel better about myself and I'm no longer avoiding eye contact. Maybe both.

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I could care less about "attention" from the opposite sex but it is really good to be noticed. It wasn't until about a week ago that I started hearing "you've lost weight" or "you've slimmed down". In that you are very single, rock it! Clothes definitely make a difference and from a man's perspective, wear even a short pair of heels. That sound will rip our heads around and we will check you out. Congratulations!

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I think the extra attention is more due to the confidence that you've gained, rather than, directly, from your success.

Self confidence is hot! Congrats on your continuing success! All the positive attention & feedback from others, it definitely helps with staying motivated.

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I have only begun my journey, but have dropped from a size 20 to a 14. In the grocery store yesterday, two different men began small talk with me. It's been years...

It got me wondering. I don't know if the new attention is because I look a little better, or perhaps because I feel better about myself and I'm no longer avoiding eye contact. Maybe both.

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I feel the same way. It's both. Fixing the outside does fix the inside. I am still the same person but I carry myself differently. I am not ashamed of my body anymore and always hiding. It makes me more confident. I hold my head up high, smile more. And everyone is attracted to confidence! Keep your head up and keep smiling!

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