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If you are choosing surgeries based off which one is reversible, surgery probably isn't a good option for you.

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I regret it every single day. I regret that I didn't have it done sooner.

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@@danithomas

It is reversible in extreme situations. I would not choose my surgery however based on that because it is very very rare that they would consider reversing.

I am guessing just knowing that is giving you some peace of mind? It is normal to be scared about this surgery.

The reality is when done by a surgeon who has performed this surgery successful and knows what they are doing, it is very safe. You can google it and get the facts.

That assumes of course that you follow the plan completely. You take your Vitamins for life and have your nutritional panels pulled once per year after the first 18 months. In the first 18 months mine were checked at 3, 6, 12 and then 18 months. After that, it is annually.

It is important that they catch any issues with your nutrition early and address it through supplements if necessary. Many long term RNY patients who choose not to have them checked regularly nor follow the high Protein diet end up in trouble.

I think I would literally freak out if a doctor recommended reversing my RNY. It gave me my life back......and I know I need this tool to continue to be successful with my weight management.

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If you are choosing surgeries based off which one is reversible, surgery probably isn't a good option for you.

I was thinking that.

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I always admire the possibility of some users being able to decide what's right or wrong for a patient. :rolleyes:

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Is there anyone here who has had sleeve surgery who regrets it? If so, why?

No, not for a second.

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I always admire the possibility of some users being able to decide what's right or wrong for a patient. :rolleyes:

Right?

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I haven't been here in a long time, and I wasn't even supposed to be getting notifications on this post anymore (in fact, my account was supposed to have been deleted, but clearly that was a lie). But today I was notified of a response here.

First off, @@GinaCampbell I am so sorry for what you've been through. It's horrific. I feel like a lot of people, even here in the US, are not given adequate information about these surgeries and the severe risks and consequences that can come with them. When I had my consult we (meaning my husband and myself) watched a video (as in on VHS) that was clearly over a decade old and didn't even have information about sleeve surgery.

It was predictable, cheerleader, yay, this is awesome propaganda. Which was what I expected. I already knew more about the various surgeries going into that consult than a good number of people do even after they've had surgery (based on personal experiences with friends and acquaintances that have had it).

I ultimately decided the risk of complications, especially given my personal history with surgeries and complications, was simply too high and I was not prepared to risk bankruptcy to have the surgery, as my insurance did not cover it.

My situation has since changed. The insurance I have this year seems likely to cover it (as in, the state mandates WLS be covered, but because my situation is unique, they may refuse me anyway and I won't do it any other way).

I appreciate those of you who took the time to answer this question as it was intended. In other words, you either replied yes, that you regretted it or no, and not the "only that I didn't do it sooner," which is irrelevant to what I was asking and just sounds so preachy. I understand that this is likely not your intent (or maybe it is in some cases, what do I know), but just for what it's worth, when you answer a question that wasn't actually asked it comes across as a bit patronizing, condescending and, frankly, even rude.

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Please hear me. I had vsg surgery in May 2016.

I did so willingly and earnestly determined that this surgery would be my saviour.

I am housebound and mostly bedbound from a chronic illness and the NHS bariatric team felt this surgery would "change my life". And it did,

Not for the better due to many life threatening post op complications and many predictable ones.

I own this because made the decision.

During this time, I was very vocal here about my disappointment in the NHS bariatric programme that I was a part of.

I have expressed my annoyance at lack of support from my "team" etc.

But please hear me, if this surgery is right for you, if you have studied, are supported, are confident, go ahead and take the chance.

For me personally, this surgery was wrong for me but for others, it might be the golden ticket.

Most of the die hard "happy sleevers" have blocked me so I get no hassle for expressing myself anymore, but for awhile, I did.

BP was a hostile place for me only because I dared to say, look, just really research the anomalies, people like me (the 5%) who found out that this surgery was a bad idea for them.

I still regret my surgery because the point was to become more healthy and more active. I am now less healthy and less active.

But that doesn't mean that it might not be right for others.

And regretting it doesn't really make much difference. Once the vsg has been performed, that's it done. Forever.

I just want folk here to know that some of us, really do think that this was a bad idea.

Pre op, post op, whatever. Just to know that someone thought it sucked and you can get support if you want it.

That's all really. Not all of us love our sleeve.

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I appreciate those of you who took the time to answer this question as it was intended. In other words, you either replied yes, that you regretted it or no, and not the "only that I didn't do it sooner," which is irrelevant to what I was asking and just sounds so preachy. I understand that this is likely not your intent (or maybe it is in some cases, what do I know), but just for what it's worth, when you answer a question that wasn't actually asked it comes across as a bit patronizing, condescending and, frankly, even rude.

I love it when people ask questions on a public forum and then get irritable about how well intentioned people choose to answer it.

I don't think I answered, but if I did, it would have been a "I wish I'd done it sooner" response. That's not at all "patronizing, condenscending or rude" -- it's simply MY truth.

Next time you pose a question, set clear parameters up front on how you'd like it answered.

And then ... good luck with that objective. ;)

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Is there anyone here who has had sleeve surgery who regrets it? If so, why?

I've not regretted mine for a minute!

Oh, huh. I was your first response. Sorry (not sorry) it wasn't up to your standards.

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@@LipstickLady if you read what I wrote you would know I wasn't referring to you or your response (though good to know you're not sorry). You simply said you hadn't regretted it. I had no problem with that.

I was aggravated by people chiming in on a serious post about how they regretted it... and then had to add that they didn't do it sooner, which had nothing to do with what I asked and took away from some of the more serious stories being shared here of complications and regrets.

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@@Elen

If you read what I wrote, you would recognize that I don't care if you were talking about ME or not. Many people took the time to answer your question and you belittled them for it (unfairly, in my opinion). Their regrets were genuine and didn't at all take away from the "reality" of the question.

It's ludicrous to think that every answer on a public message board is going to be crafted to fit your specific desires.

Good luck with your surgery!

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I regret my Lapband 100% because after a year it stoped working and now here I am six years later and i'm just a big as before. Time to revise,

To what I have no clue.

my advice: Look at your other options such as bypass or vsg(formerly called stomach stapling) This balloon thing that is a sham and only a temporary fix.

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No my only regret was not doing it sooner. I haven't even been post op long enough to get anywhere near my goal weight yet, but i'm already seeing changes in myself mentally. That part i love most, losing weight is just icing on the cake. This is the best thing i've ever done for myself. The old me died....and thank god. I'm peeing on her grave lol.

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