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Howdy, I have my revision scheduled for July 20th. Have had 2 lapbands. #1 was very successful and I lost over 100 lbs. sadly got an illness(not band related) had a band slip and on came #2. I've had #2 for over 4 years and have gained about 50lbs back. Lots of reflux, vomitting etc. I'm so afraid not to have a band, because regardless of the complications it changed my life for the better.

My daughter had sleeve surgery 1 month ago and is doing well. Losing weight etc. I read lots of people's posts stating that after sleeve they feel better but weightloss is very slow or non existent. That worries me if I'm doing the right thing. I have become dependent on my crappy band ;-)

Another thing is the first year post band was such a learning year I'm worried about starting all over again. I know I'm rambling but so many fears and concerns about the revision and no one I know has ever done it. Well I guess I will have all the answers soon.

Thanks for sharing your stories as some are very helpful

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My transition from band to nothing for 2 years to sleeve has gone great. Eating with the sleeve is way easier. Cravings I still had with the band are gone, no pain like with the band. Good luck, you'll do great. SW 243 CW 206 sleeved 4/18

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@@Stephy5 I'm in the same boat... Was banded back in 2006, then ten years later had it removed and converted to sleeve June 27th of this year. I've heard about the many benefits of the sleeve that outweigh those of the band, and I'm looking forward to the long-term success that comes with it also.

This whole thing is a process... I was surprised at how much I did remember from my early band-days during recovery in the hospital and getting used to drinking post-op. I'm finding that my body is helping me remember what I need to know, and just taking things slow has worked great.

Nobody's timing you, just listen to your body and take things nice and slow.

I had trouble keeping liquids down (most likely due to hiatal hernia repair I had during my conversion surgery) the first day after. The second day I gave myself 15 minutes to drink 10 mL of Water... Slow and sure things began to stay down, and then I was able to drink more consistently and adjust to the sensations.

The human body is an amazing machine, and it remembers a lot more than you might think.

All the best! :)

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Thank you for responding. I'm feeling much better. I know I have to get rid of this band and have to have faith that all will go as planned. I start my 2 week pre op diet tomorrow. I'm ready! Sure I'll be leaning on this group a lot.

Again thank you

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Im in the revision boat too. Got my surgery date today. July 26. They will remove the band and revise to the sleeve at the same time. Im so excited and nervous all at the same time. So happy to finally have a date!!!

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I'm glad they can do yours at the same time. My date is July 20th and I can't wait. Hope it's a good experience. Good luck to you on the revision.

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