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Debbie, you look beautiful!

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you look beautiful.

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All that dancing is paying off, Debbie -- you look great!

We are planning to go to a Halloween Party, something I have not done in many, many years. Having so much fun dressing up in general these days. Boots, tights and skirts -- such a change-up from years of a self-imposed uniform of black tops and dark jeans. Not hiding out anymore.

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Husband had minor surgery today -- sinuses, bone spur, etc. Hes great, recovering beautifully. I'm kind of a mess even though it's nothing. Keep flashing back to two years ago when he had third major surgery and three weeks plus in the hospital. I coped with bread and cheese then. Not anymore.

Sharpie, hesitated to post because of your loss but then realized you are the one who will so get this! Sending best wishes your way.....hope you're okay.

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So sorry for your loss.????

Living a new life... Without coping skills involving food is challenging

I'm sorry he had to go...I'm hearing you say how tired his body

Was ...

Wishing strength and peace for you.

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Thank You girls.. I am determined to get myself together and quit eating to ease my pain. My husband was my biggest fan he was 110% supportive of my decision to have weight loss surgery. He was so very proud of my accomplishment and when I was heavy was not the least bit ashamed of me . He was more concerned with my health than any of the issues with my looks. However when I got to my goal and could dress up he was the first person to tell me I looked wonderful and complimented me every day. I have to learn to live without him so I am promising him that I will never go back to the unhealthy woman I was. I am getting stronger each day, did lots of yard work for the past 2 days and have slept well each night because I am so darn tired. It's a good tired..

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Sorry...can't help myself. I know it's a little blurred but that's my Empire State Building lit up in blue and orange after The Metsies beat LA last night. Go Mets!!

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Very sad day in LA

GO CUBS!!!!

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Very sad day in LA

GO CUBS!!!!

Aww...sorry Joe. Well...not really, but I'm gonna be gracious...after all, the baseball gods giveth and the baseball gods taketh away :lol:

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This SF giant fan is now rooting for the long suffering cubbies⚾️⚾️

And quietly thrilled the Dodgers couldn't buy a World Series ring!

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OK all you non NewYorkers...stop the hating on my NY Mets!!! :)

We have suffered along with the best of them. It's not easy being a NY Mets fan! Now Yankee fans...you can hate on them all you like ;)

Lets Go METS!!!!!

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I won't comment on the sports thing LOL but I'm just going to say @ Lisacaron & Husband you guys look cute.

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Hi friends. I have been reading but not posting. It's been a very stressful couple of weeks. Two weeks ago was my mother-in-law's wake and funeral. Yesterday I had a deposition. Over three hours of questions, many hostile, from opposing counsel. I was extremely stressed out over it in anticipation the entire week. It was difficult and infuriating, but as in all things, it served to make me stronger.

I learned a few things. I'm better answering on my feet than I thought I was. Although he won't say so, it appears from his comments about the house appraisal that my wasband will opt to stay in the family residence instead of sell. We're going to have a fight about the dog. And one big thing I learned is that I don't have the temperament to be an attorney (always wondered if I should have pursued other career options in my youth).

"Wasband" is my new, shorter version of NSETBEx. I stole the term from my divorce support group.

During all of this, my food has been moderate but I have not been losing. I have a fill appointment next week. I'm going to go for a tiny fill but I'm pretty tight at times already, so this is getting chancy now. I want a good thorough discussion with my NP before she gives me the fill.

I hope to post more here in the next couple of weeks now that the deposition is behind me. Next step is pretrial hearing in a few weeks.

My lawyer also wants to set a trial date at that hearing and the judge is already choosing trial dates in March. So if this goes to trial, the date for that could be March or April.

At least things are moving, albeit slowly.

Thanks for always being here and sharing your lives. Even when I don't post, I get so much strength from this thread.

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We are here to help in our own small way...

Hopefully this can be in your rear view mirror next year. And you will still be doing well on food and Water and exercising...

I let go of a lot in my settlement to get done with my ties to him. Worked out just fine in the long run. If I kept my ego out of it ( difficult for me) all went forward.... I. E. I didn't need a boat or some old cars...

I needed a new life without him????

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@@JustWatchMe thinking of you......you are doing beautifully and taking good care of yourself throughout this ordeal.

I have finally started going down again and am pretty sure it's because I had to change up my workout. Those long outdoor walks along the lake (almost) every morning are in the past as we have such cold temperatures already. So, back into the basement which took some doing. A lot of cleaning for one thing, and addressed some lighting issues, etc. to make it as nice as possible. Also using a 17" laptop for movies/music, etc. Once we got started, we started rocking it hard. 80 minutes -- ten minute switch-offs from treadmill on to bike or Bowflex with some Yoga, etc. thrown in for good measure. Since I know I can do almost anything for ten minutes, we've got it cranked on pretty high. I think this change shocked my body into losing again......a theory. Whatever it is, I'll take it.

Hope every one is doing well. We still have some beautiful foliage here in NH -- it's the golden tunnel effect. And turkeys like crazy, porcupines after the apples left in the orchard.

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