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Well my friends..I've let my last dating site contract lapse. I'm off of all of them now. I was dating two men I liked and have decided it's time to commit to one of them. I also decided to not pursue anything with the widower I met just before I went to London. Julian is asking me to have an exclusive relationship with him and I've decided to go ahead and give it a shot.

For someone who was looking for a good man who wants an exclusive relationship, I find myself full of doubts about opening my heart to someone but I know it's all about the leap of faith and allowing someone in even if it means opening up the chance to be hurt. We've been going very slowly on purpose and I will continue to be cautious in terms of not making some of the same mistakes I've made in the past. I also know that this is crapola because when it comes to feelings, logic often goes by the wayside.

What I do know is that I suddenly have someone in my life who wants to be around me and is very proud of what I've done to improve my life. He knows about the lapband, the hip replacements, the loose skin, the obese person I once was and seems to see it all as a positive in that I've done what needed to be done to reclaim my life. He enjoys watching me enjoy the things I can't ever take for granted like going for a walk, or riding a bike, or taking a vacation. I can see the possibility of a future with him and that is thrilling and scary at the same time.

Wish me luck. Tomorrow I tell the other man that the timing is not right for us and I hope we part on a positive note. I like him and it's just a question of who was more available..not that one was better than the other.

For those still searching for that elusive relationship out there, know that this was never on my radar when I underwent lap band surgery. It was to avoid life in a wheelchair and to help me get healthier in all ways. I was on lots of BP meds, and was going to be diabetic shortly. I needed to get my quality of life back and even as I lost the weight, dating never was in my eyesight. It happened unexpectedly and I'm the first to admit I didn't have much confidence I'd find anyone worth seeing even a second time. So just know that if I've stumbled upon someone who I think might be a keeper, you can be confident that there is someone out there for you as well. You just can't sit back and wait for him or her to show up. You gotta search them out by getting out and about. And ladies...be a little aggresive. Men can be shy at first. Once you know they are interested, then let them pursue. I've gotten many a date doing just that.

OK...back to work. I'm done with my coffee, and really need to earn my paycheck. Have a good day everyone.

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Congrats on your wonderful new relationship, he sounds great in that he is supportive and accepting. A friend once told me that love is giving someone the power to break your heart and trusting them not to. Wishing you both the best!

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This is wonderful news. I'm so happy for you! May you have continued joy. Yippee!!!!!

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Wonderful news!! Congratulations :D

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Wow.. What a change.

I'm so happy your life has taken another good, unforeseen turn. Some of us live vicariously through you, so keep us updated.

Ps. He is the lucky one!

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