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I couldn't possibly reveal the train wreck of a body I make great pains to disguise every moment of every day to another individual, and I can't afford reconstructive surgery either. My only hope at this point is to find a wealthy benefactor willing to pay for a million procedures like some kind of WLS Disney film or winning the lottery.

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Thanks for sharing that kyrickchick! I'm getting ready to start the process and this has been one of my big concerns. That article was very encouraging :)

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I am now down 93lbs heading closer to my goal every single day. I have a lot of loose skin and I know the only way to deal with it is to ultimately have some plastics done when and if I have the money to do so.

At the end of the day, my body looks SO much better than when I weighed 310 lbs and was hiding every inch of it.

I look at pics of me then vs. now and I am shocked at how much better I look. I walk past ax mirror and I have to stop and look because I cannot believe it myself. I have had people tell me how pretty I look.

I have had people tell me that they don't even recognize me and once they realize it is me, they cannot believe how good I look.

Last and certainly most important is how healthy I am now compared to 7 months ago. I thank my lucky stars every day that doctors figured out how to save our lives!

I am ok if I have to keep every wrinkle. It is worth it!

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@Day. I hear you and I understand. Never in my life have I had such continuous, volatile emotions! I am 100% happy 80% of the time, because I have never looked or felt this good. But then I look at the batwings, the tummy apron and the thighs that look like melted candles, and I can't stop obsessing over getting the skin removed. But how to pay?

Its been so long since I contemplated an intimate relationship because of the weight. Now I feel that the skin is a barrier. I'm hoping that if I meet Mr. Right (or Mr. Right Now), it won't matter. After all, I am 57 and men in my age group should be realistic at our age anyway. Guys -- am I right?

Ellen

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I know I'm probably going to be preaching to the choir but here goes.

I too am on my way to a much healthier life filled with compliments and praises from people who see the difference. They don't see the loose skin or the jiggle of the fat that still needs to be lost. Exercise helps with muscle tone and strength, but fat will only break down so fast, and not overnight. It's ok by me because I know that in the end I'll not only look better/different, but will be healthier than I've been in nearly 20 yrs.

We're left with yet another physical issue to contend with....all the extra skin, and how it can also have a huge impact on how we view ourselves. Don't get me wrong I'm thrilled beyond belief to have had the opportunity to have my surgery, and that so many strides have been made in the area of obesity in general.

Here's my issue..... Insurance companies have finally gotten to a point where they'll pay for the WLS but still lag behind in agreeing to cover the surgery needed to complete the process of our transformations. Right now plastics is only covered if it can be proven that there's a "medical" reason for having it such as infection or pain. I wonder about how many WLS patients have just as much emotional pain as they did before surgery because of the residual skin and the inability to get past how it may affect their lives. If the goal is to promote good health in general, where does mental and emotional health come into play? Surely the majority of patients that look into having plastics done aren't doing it because of vanity!!!

I remember years ago when having varicose vein surgery was considered "cosmetic" and also not covered by insurance. Now just about every procedure involving spider and varicose veins is covered. Women all over that have a tiny blue vein around an ankle or behind a knee are running to surgeons to get them fixed, and insurance pays for it. Am I wrong to think that WLS if far more deserving of a plastic surgery procedure that is made necessary because of a medically necessary WLS????

Just wondering....

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I see that you posted from the new singles forum, so maybe you will find your love connection there. I met my fellow on-line and we have been together nearly nine years. At the time, he was 54 and I was 53.

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train wreck of a body

@@Day

i am at goal with hanging skin (especially my non existing rear end skin)........... :wacko:

i rather be thin/average weight with excess skin :)

than being morbidly obese ;)

kathy

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I couldn't possibly reveal the train wreck of a body I make great pains to disguise every moment of every day to another individual, and I can't afford reconstructive surgery either. My only hope at this point is to find a wealthy benefactor willing to pay for a million procedures like some kind of WLS Disney film or winning the lottery.

I also hide the wrinkled skin but I don't want to be celibate so I'm going out on a limb and meeting men online and going out on dates with some of them. I'm not yet intimate with anyone but I know it will happen at some point. I'm just betting on what I've seen so far, which is that a man who thinks he might be lucky enough to get a little something something, isn't thinking about the excess skin as much as he's thinking about scoring. At least that's been my experience so far.

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Thanks for sharing that kyrickchick! I'm getting ready to start the process and this has been one of my big concerns. That article was very encouraging :)

She is my hero

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I am sure Steve Harvey would agree. In his opinion there is someone for everyone.

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@@Day In my opinion, physical attributes just don't really matter- except maybe for the very young!

If someone loves you than some sagging skin shouldn't send him shrieking out the door, and if it does, than maybe that love wasn't very genuine. Of course, just keeping the lights out and a small candle lit might just take care of the issue too!

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I have been going through a time of being very down on myself for the loose skin on my neck and stomach areas. I know I'm being a jerk to myself and the right guy won't even care at all.

It's just hard after going through so much to lose the weight to still have things bothering me. Eventually I will pay for plastics but for now I just want to be able to love myself and still be intimate with a man if I find one to love. I don't want to put my life on hold.

That was a great article and it really shows how we are our biggest judges when the rest of the world thinks we are beautiful.

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