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Ok I'm 2.5 years post op, I've never hit my goal weight. I have a belly and saggy boobs ( im only 29 :( ) I've been on 5 dates with a guy that im really falling for... We talk every night and I'm close to thinking I'm in love. I don't know when I should tell him about my surgery. i've intermittently been with guys since I had the surgery but nothing was serious so I just didn't care about it so I didn't tell him about the surgery. I also don't know how to bring that up into conversation. I am very self-conscious about my saggy stomach. I do not believe he will care because he has had physical issues in the past but I don't know how to handle the situation.

tomorrow he will see pictures from my vacation last week in Mexico with girlfriends so I'm sure he will realize that underneath the winter clothes I'm not as small as he thinks I am. So I need to have that conversation. I don't know how to handle it!

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Honesty is always the best policy. If you can't think of how to say it just say. I have to talk to you about something and tell him that you hope it doesn't change things between you because you really care for him and tell him you want the relationship to be based on honesty and just say it. You will feel much better about it. And if he cares for you he will not have an issue with it. Good luck. Keep us posted. BTW if he cares about you he won't give a Crap.

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