Over 40 havent had surgery yet.... Concerned

[Goldyloqs 4]

Hi There,

Im new to this forum, Im currently 43 and going through the pre op process for gastric sleeve. Surgery will probably be in feb/march. I know im high risk and im probably crazy, but we really want to conceive after surgery, I know my age is a factor, Ive had 3 miscarriages in the past. Should I give up the thought of conceiving at this age? I will be 44-45 when the time comes to try. Just curious to hear anyones thoughts;)

[Elode 8,093]

No your not crazy women have babies later in life.

[wannaBthinsoon 1,634]

Not crazy at all. I believe you are one smart woman to extend your life and want to give life to a baby. All the best to you and your future family.

[Goldyloqs 4]

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement!!!!!!!

Not crazy at all. I believe you are one smart woman to extend your life and want to give life to a baby. All the best to you and your future family.

[Goldyloqs 4]

Thank you so much!!!!!

No your not crazy women have babies later in life.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

probably crazy

@@Goldyloqs

i agree!!

welcome, welcome

this is your first post too!!

as others say

you'll find lots of good info/advice/SUPPORT on here

you might be wondering about subjects that are being posted

be interested in the responses

ask all your questions too

there is a search button in the top right hand corner

that will help too

you've got time before surgery to do more research

there are books around like WLS for Dummies

others too

read read read

can never have too much knowledge

I see you are a smart cookie

thats why you are checking out this board

everyone here is great/nice except ..............

are you saying you are thinking your age makes you high risk, or the fact that you've already had 3 miss carriages (so sorry )

if its some other reason, i'm sorry - no need to answer

as far as trying for a baby at your "age"

MANY people have kids in later years

if doc sees no prob - then try, try again

I had my wonderful daughter as i was turning 21

if i had her 10 years later, i probably would have know a few more things

if i had her in my early 40's - (like you) i would have been a genius

to finally answer your initial question about should you have a baby at your age

if doc says no prob - i don't think your age has anything to do with it

as you are losing weight - you will be able to run around with your kiddo and be very active you and youngun will both love that

doc knows about your history, talk to him about your concerns, worries

good luck with surgery in a couple of months

kathy

Edited January 10, 2015 by proudgrammy

[Slim-Shady 79]

Thank you so much for sharing your story! At 43, I have very similar concerns. My surgery is scheduled for July 13, which means I'll be 44ish when we conceive. I have been concerned about this since I decided to have the surgery. After seeing your post, I realize I am not the only one going through these feelings. I also realize my expectations are not unreasonable! Thank you again for sharing!! Prayers to you for a healthy surgery, post op, and pregnancy! Future mommies unite!

[VSG_A_NEWME 16]

I am 43 as well, and we don't have children. One of the reason why I decided to have surgery was to increase my chances. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm pre op going through the testing to get approval for surgery. *babydust* to all.

[lisaannedp 10]

I love love love reading this thread. I am 35, having surgery soon, but would like to have a baby once it's safe. I never felt I was healthy enough before, and when I first starting considering surgery, I thought it meant I was giving up ever having a baby. But seeing all this positive feedback on here has made me realize that is not the case. Thank you everyone!

[Miss Mac 6,261]

My Grandma was 37 when my mother was born and 41 when my aunt was born. My mother was 44 when my youngest brother was born. She thought she was going through the change until "the change" started to kick. Surpriiiiiiiise! He just turned 49 himself.

[BeagleLover 1,020]

My daughter was born when was 42. When my husband was born, his Mom was 45. Go for it!

[jhbeck 29]

While I know it's not anyone's first choice, the odds of conceiving at 44+ are slim no matter your weight. Very very slim, despite any amount of medical intervention.

You might also research donor egg programs to see if any feel like a good fit for you. You will be healthy to carry a pregnancy and have much much higher chance of conception (70% vs less than 7%.)

Best of luck.

Jess, mom to Ysabel, 6 and Maggie, 3

[erp 2,016]

I am 42 and we are ttc. We conceived in Nov but miscarried at 8 weeks. Doctor not concerned at all. Just wants us to wait until after my next period to try again. It can happen. Get healthy, get to goal, and get it on. ????

[AnA92212 577]

I just had my first at 38. Will be 39 almost 40 when we start trying again. I don't think it is crazy.

[sassyfrass23 525]

Please don't give up! By the time I'm ready to try after surgery, I will be the big 3-0. The thought is killing me. We have been trying for 8 years now, so a part of me fears potentially facing more years of trying after I lose the weight. Putting me closer to 40. But I haven't set a "cut off" age of when I will give up. My mama was older when she had us, and she didn't have any complications. I've also spoken with many older women who conceived at a later age and had healthy pregnancies and babies. I say that if this is what your heart desires, go for it! Just think about the risk younger obese women have in getting pregnant. Your body may be healthier and more capable of carrying a child.

Edited February 17, 2016 by sassyfrass23